Tips on how to be cool.?

Question

I have never been the most popular guy at school and I have decided it's time to make a few changes to my life. I need advice on how to do this.

1) How should I conduct myself/act around others. Obviously I haven't been doing it right.

2) What kind of friends should I keep? Advice for a super nervous guy on making friends?

3) How should I dress... I lean more towards a punk/rock taste.

4) I'm a half pack a day smoker... should that be known to anyone at all?

5) Lastly, is it really a big deal to have a girlfriend? I kinda have a thing for this one girl... but I think she only just sees me as a good friend. Should I go out on a limb and asker out?

I am a fatty and I'm not horribly graceful at all. I always find a way to make myself look stupid in a conversation. I'd just like to get a little respect from people around my school.

Answer 1

1) Don't ACT. React. Be yourself and don't try so hard. Be YOU.

2) Make friends with people that has the same interests as you, who will be there for you when you need them and who are fun to hang around.

3) Try to tidy up... like the guys from Green day... if you have to do the punk rock thing... And stick with plains in stead of prints...

4) QUIT.. Smoking is the only thing that should make you a quitter! Healthy is IN.

5) No. It is not, but if you really like the girl and she likes you back go out on a limb... just be prepared for failure.. ... but don't let that get you down...

LOOSE WEIGHT. Not for other people but for yourself...

Now: Being popular is uncool.... Being an interesting individual is cool... Respect is earned. If people see you respecting yourself, they will respect you. Dont try so hard. Work more on gaining confidence and getting HEALTHY>

Answer 2

1. Start a good conversation and say something that you trully know about thats not wierd and always smile alot.
2. Have lots of friends. Obviously keep friends that will help you and know you can fall your back on.
3. If your a punk dont ever wear a nose ring or butchy boots.
4. Smoke in an appropriate place. smoking hasnt been a turn off for me. it has always been the character of the person that i judge.
5. If you really like this girl tell her. if she turns cold on you, tell her youll be there all the time and that eventhough you want her to be your girl, you will always be her friend.

Answer 3

1 Try and do things they value. If it's sports then train/play.
2 Friends come naturally, so just wait and see
3 Dress an accordance with the groups values - the ones you want to join that is.
4 No probelm, unless you're into the extremist health scene.
5 That depends on your new friends values.

Why change though? We all have our ups and downs in life, so you might just need time rather than change. If you do want to change, make it sensible (no drugs etc) but remember your own heart and what is therein is valuable and important so don't reject yourself harshly - be a 'winner' in your own eyes first of all.

Luke.

Answer 4

You have to stop smoking. Yes, it is a big deal to have a girl friend. You need legitimate ways to get off. Also, in order to be cool you have to be capable of pleasing a woman sexually. Really. You can't do that as a virgin. Punk is dead. Get the CD "Mohawk Combover" by The Backdoor Men. Keep all friends. What a stupid question. Lose enemies. Like people. Be kind to others. Protect everyone even if you are going to lose. Especially if you are going to lose.

Answer 5

No one is going to make you their puppet and make you act a certain way. Anything that we say, you'll take it into consideration, and forget as soon as you get around your peers, because you're scared of their judgment. Listen, why does it matter what they think, when you won't even know them after senior year?
As cheesy as it may sound, don't change yourself to fit in. I think that all you need to do is be yourself, but get known, get noticed. Join clubs, do extra-curricular activities. Get active in your school. Get school spirit, go to football games and wrestling matches and pep rallies, do everything. They are all fun and you'll get a lot of friends during the process. Keep all of your old friends, though. Stop smoking because 1) it is just gross and 2) it is unhealthy. Stop now while you can.
Another good thing to do is to go to church, if you believe. That's a good thing to do because everyone will accept you there with open arms, and they are people that will stay with you forever.
Just don't change yourself to fit in. Being unique is cool, and fitting in is overrated.

Answer 6

Wo, that is a loaded question.
Let me preface all of this by saying you need to concentrate on meeting girls and making them your friends. If you have girls that are friends, guys as friends will naturally follow, but, if you only have guys as friends, girls don't really give a **** about you.
So, your work is cut out for you. How do you make girls notice, and like you, without them thinking you are hitting on them, or worse....gay?
The short list:
1. Work out, dress well, and make yourself presentable. Get a haircut, don't smell, don't slouch, whiten your teeth, basic self-care.
2. Know and memorize a few jokes. Check out some comedy websites and shows. If you can make a girl laugh, half your job is done for you. They won't even notice you are fat, if you are funny (but, about the fat thing, see #1 above.)
3. Dress casual, but in a way that suits your style. But don't look like a slob. Punk/rock...great, just don't look dirty. Grow some sideburns, get a cool spikey haircut.
4. Quit smoking, it makes you smell, and your teeth yellow. Remember, you have to meet girls, and they don't like smokers.

Ok, in order to keep this short, at some point your confidence will grow, you will notice that girls are noticing you, and having conversations. That is when you are jus going to have to harness all that new confidence and make small moves, like sitting with them at lunch, or seeing them outside of school/

Long story short, soon you will be invited to parties, and boom! Guys will notice that you are the guy with all the girls around him, and they will want in on that action and become your friend too.

Good luck, it is a long road.

Answer 7

Quit smoking,excercise and lose weight,don't worry about being cool and fitting in because no one gives a poo poo,Study hard and get good grades,go to college and get a phd. Then you will be super cool and you will have women chasing you. The other way you will be fat, dumb, and work at McDonalds and probaly do drugs.Yep- I can see a super cool dude driving around in a nice bmw with a hot chick and a 200k a year job in 12 years if you do it right.

Answer 8

Hmm.. Can't answer all of them. But I'll answer no.2
2.) You dont have to pick friends! A true friend who will stick with you till the end is better than a friend who likes you just because your cool,rich,those stuff.
Being cool isn't really a big factor in school! I would rather have a silent life, people don't bother me, I don't bother them, than a messed up "cool" life.

Answer 9

Just be yourself.. i know you are trying to figure out who that person is right now- but you need to ask yourself those very same questions. and ask yourself if that is the kind of person you identify yourself with. Don't do what you think others want of you to be to please.. be what you want to be. I personally was a prep and still am.. but it worked for me.. and I felt comfortable being that way. I also was and still am a genuinely nice person and was friends with everyone and was pretty easy going and I think i was pretty likeable. JUTST RELAX and be YOU and ENJOY life and enjoy being you becasue life is too short not to. Hope this helps sweetie!:)

Answer 10

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