i have a problem, i lose interest after sex, i mean when we are going out then later on in the relationship after having sex, i lose interest, why is that? i try not to but i always end up breaking up with them, but why? is it because i finally got what i want or what? oh and i know what your think im an asshole and i dont blame you that is my bad but instead of talking sh*t help me out!!!
2006-09-03 00:53:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you like the chase. To pursue them.....lure them, and capture them in what you think is the "goal". Its normal for men and women. When you are ready to settle down you will. When you find the "one" you'll know it cause sex won't be enough, you'll want that person totally. Just stay safe in the sex. Let the person know from the start that you're not looking for anything long term....keep it casual so that you don't hurt them too much in the end. Besides, keeping them as a friend after the break-up has benefits, sometimes they don't mind giving up some random nookie....and they're great help for relationship issues. Don't sweat it. You're fine the way you are.
2006-09-03 01:01:53 · answer #1 · answered by Krustybunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not an asshole. I think you are intrigued by the chase and when you get what you are after you are disappointed somewhat in your expectations and want more from another source. Its the thrill of the unknown that intrigues you. I think it will pass. From what you described you seem to have a problem with holding a relationship for the sole purpose of finding love and companionship. Time does change things and I feel that you will change your way of thinking as you get older and find that special someone in your life that you want to share your life with. In my opinion, there is no quick fix. I feel that sex should only be shared with someone you have some emotional connection with. To you its just a release and an act. To me its sharing with someone something beautiful and a meaningful connectivity of ones body and soul. Believe me.. I have been where you are and felt the things you are describing. Time does indeed change things. In due time, you will begin to know the true meaning of making love and not just having sex. Good luck!!
2006-09-03 01:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes that would be a problem, you really want be able to keep doing this when your 50. I would hold out on the sex as long as possible or tell us what you are thinking of them when you have had sex with them, was it to easy to get or was it not any good? Ask yourself these questions and see what you come up with. It could be that when you get something to easy you don't appreciate it. I hope I helped, Good luck.
2006-09-03 03:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having sex too early in the relationship. You should wait until there is a strong, strong connection outside of intercourse. That's my opinion, anyway, with regards to your problem.
2006-09-03 00:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try the opposite, have sex first then the relationship and see what happens.
2006-09-03 01:04:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are having sex with them too early in the relationship.
2006-09-03 00:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, you are the hunter, you stalked her and then got the prize, sex, after a few bangs, you lose interest, so you toss out her rotting carcass and go after the next one. you just need to grow up, relationships are far deeper than that.
2006-09-03 00:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
mmm you need to take time in a relationship its get to know your date or girl friend better before move forward and have sex... that has to be when you 2 are pretty sure about their feeling for each other....
2006-09-03 00:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by tenderpinklady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't met the right man yet and the others are just passing by until you do. When you meet him, you will know it and want to keep him around.
2006-09-03 01:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well are you getting off when you have the sex do you do it all the time to all them how old are you how long this been going on is it your ego
2006-09-03 00:59:44 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋