So I broke up with this guy. I tried to stand him up on our first date but after dating and working with him I fell in love, I knew I was in love with the companionship and he was never what I needed but I settled. We broke up so many times and got back together but it has been a week without him and I feel so lonely and my mind races trying to find ways to get him back. I keep reaching for the phone and checking my e-mail. Why do I want him? He has pushed me, talked down to me and made me feel like I was the last priority in the world. Why would someone be attracted to that?
2006-09-03 00:44:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe it's not that you're attracted to him, maybe it's just that you fear being alone and you think that he's your only option. Try working out the fear of being alone and then find a guy who's really worth your love and attention.
2006-09-03 00:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-03 07:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just missing the companionship, and not really the person. you'd be nuts to actually want this particular person in your life. people become habits, just like nicotine. go out with other friends, get a book, do anything to let enough time pass that gets you over this habit of him, and keep good people around you for companionship. he is an abuser in every sense of the word, and people like him use abuse to keep control over other people by destroying their self esteem. you should have followed your first gut reaction, and not gone out with him.
2006-09-03 07:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by Debi K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there was any good memory, your heart and mind attached to it. Wants it. If there was any routine to the relationship((every Sat. you would hook up for the evening....something like that)) you feel lost by not doing it.
And we always want what we can't have.
if he really was a bad guy.....distract yourself with other things, books, work, school, friends, movies, working-out, games, puzzles, anything, till you only have right before sleep to think about it. Eventually, he'll be outta your head, and heart.
2006-09-03 07:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Krustybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you did a good job do you know when people who is not find out for them self at that time their will be try to jerk back becaues Allah tell them from inside that is not true love of them and that is just happend to you. don't hart your mind you know that is not divoce so you can smile for your days and Allah will be let's us find true love of us . good luck . may Allah bless us .
2006-09-03 07:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Abdumalik A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE YOU LIVE HIM SO MUCH. THAT'S WHY. BUT HE WILL NEVER CHANGE. HE WILL ONLY GET WORST. KEEP REACHING FOR THE PHONE BUT PLEASE DO NOT PICK IT UP AND CALL HIM. CALL SOMEONE ELSE. YOU FEELING LONELY WILL PASS IN A WEEK OR SO. YOU KEEP BREAKING UP FOR A REASON. SO STOP PUTTING YOURSELF THREW THAT. YOU DESERVE MORE. STAY STRONG. I KNOW YOU WILL BE OK.
2006-09-03 07:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because deep down you want it to work and you want him to see the light and redeem himself. Well, he wont. Move on to better things and not keep sliding back into the sludge.
2006-09-03 07:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an unhealthy attachment. Get him out of your life for good. Many have this problem. Be strong.
2006-09-03 07:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't found someone else yet. Drop this dude once and for all and meet others.
2006-09-03 07:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are in love
2006-09-03 07:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by Callisto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋