i have a problem. me and my gf have been goin out for 6 months. however no1 know about it. we been hiding it. i wanna know should i break up with her becuz she so afriad of people knowing about. i'm her first boyfirend. the reason she said why is because "we don't look right with each other". i'm 5'10 and 185 lbs. a bit chubby but not fat. she only 5'1 and 94 lbs. she is so afraid of people knowin it and it been hurtin me. should i try to keep this going or should i save my save the trouble and heartace? thanks
2006-09-02 22:51:27 · 24 answers · asked by confuse4eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand that you love her, but you need to leave.
Anyone who doesn't want to be seen with you is bad news. It doesn't matter what their reason is. For her to say you two don't look right together is crap. You yourself said it's been hurting you, and you shouldn't have to put up with it.
You have been with her for 6 months, and you have been putting up with her crap. Find yourself a nice person who loves you for who you are, and who is proud to be out and about and be known as your girl, because that's the type of woman you deserve.
Real, loving men and women are proud to be with their sweethearts, even if their sweethearts are not celebrity lookalikes. The other people are just fakes, and you don't deserve that. Drop her. If this has been going on this long, it isn't suddenly going to change. You can be patient all you want, but all you are doing is postponing the inevitable. Like I said earlier, find yourself a nice, real woman who sees the real you, and let the one you are with now go find someone she feels she "looks right with".
2006-09-02 23:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it was me, (and I was a guy), I would give her an ultimatum. I'd say, "Look, we have been together for 6 months, and I care about you a lot. It is hard to hide my feelings in front of others, besides it hurts that you really think that we are so mismatched that we don't look right together. I don't want to show you off, but I don't want to be covered up, like a dirty little secret. If you still think that we should keep us a secret, then I think that it won't be so hard for either of us anymore, because there is no secret to keep any longer."
Now she might give another reason at that point like parents or something, but really, the only two reasons that I can imagine having a boyfriend that I keep secret is, A) I have another boyfriend too, or B) I am ashamed of him. Then I remember that I wouldn't do either of those two hurtful things to another person on purpose, so we wouldn't be together. She sounds like she's not the nicest person, but she may be in store for a visit from that b*tc* Karma.
2006-09-02 23:22:12 · answer #2 · answered by girlnoladrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately you two will need to decide what your relationship is worth. As it stands the reason you give in explanation of the fact that the relationship is hidden is lame, and in all probability just an excuse.
People that are in love don't generally care about what others think, they are too busy being happy.The size difference should not be a factor in the relationship, and I think you should try to find out what the real reason is and go from there.
2006-09-02 23:01:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what couple looks "right" for each other?? i have a friend whos about her height 105lbs and her ex- matches about ur height but he weighed more and they didnt have this problem....ppl will always talk and have something to say no matter what the situation is, so if she really wants to be with you it shouldnt matter, aslong as she likes you for who you are and you like her, who cares what ppl say,
6months is a long time of waiting,maybe you should consider telling her your gonna look for someone thats "right" for you an dshe do the same. See how she takes that maybe then you'll know whats goign on.
2006-09-02 23:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by jackieg126 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she kinda likes to be with you but is more embarrassed for people to know she has feelings for you. How could you not look right together??? That's a CRAZY and pitiful excuse. And you accept it b/c you must have strong feelings for her. Please get out of this TRAGEDY before it goes too far! If you are going to share feelings w/ someone, by no means should you be ashamed!!!! You need to find someone who would shout it to the world that they are with you and if someone had a problem...it would make no difference at all!!!!!!!!!!! Respect yourself more than that brother!
2006-09-02 23:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up because she doesn't really love you. If she loved you she won't worry about what other people think. I am 200 pounds and date a girl who is about 100 pounds. Yes, I am overweight and I'm trying to lose weight, but my gf says she doesn't mind if I lose weight or not. Luckily, she is one of those rare people who looks for who a person is inside before looking at outside looks. Lucky me. If she was worried about what other poeple think then I would let her go. You don't want to be with someone who is ashamed of you.
2006-09-02 23:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by Roger S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls can be secretive about their first relationships, however, u can gauge her seriousness in ur relationship by observing how she is when she's around you. If u think she's embarassed to have u as her boyfriend, talk to her and get it out in the open. Truth hurts but it will save u from waiting for nothing.
2006-09-02 22:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really love the girl? if no, then read no more. just end it.
however, if you really love her, then i suggest that you HELP her, rather than just breaking up with her. that's no excuse to break up with someone, because they're scared. instead, be the boyfriend that you are, and help her feel confident about each other, and help her overcome her fears of other people's opinions. being in a relationship is about understanding each other, and you should understand how scared she must feel, for other people to judge you guys.
so if you don't think you guys have enough love and care, then i guess its not worth it. but if this girl is worth, then go help her instead of bailing out on her.
2006-09-02 22:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she sounds like she ia ashamed of u im sorry hun but u should move or maybe tell her how u feel and that u dont wanna hide it anymore n that it shouldnt matter how other see u guys cuz all that should matter is each other n the relationsjip n the love that u guys might share if she doesnt agree with that then she doesnt deserve a sweet guy like u n u need to find another girl that doesnt care wat ppl think of her n will love u no matter wat and will show off that love to the world
2006-09-02 22:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her. If she really cared about you, respected you and loved you she'd be very proud to show you off to anybody and everybody.
You don't deserve a little girl like this to control you, use you and manipulate you.
Of course, unless you like being used, hurt and abused, just keep right at it. It'll only ruin you for the future.
2006-09-02 22:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋