He apparently knows where I live and work and knows I 'm married .But I don't know how to take this .I have heard he wants to see me.If I do meet him if I do I 'll take me husband with me.
2006-09-02 22:40:50 · 12 answers · asked by canadarikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
calm down lisabug
after 28 years
I think he just means to say hello for old times sake.
you would be right to take husband
but you would also be right not to bother seeing him.
2006-09-02 22:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be mean here, but you're married now. Don't get yourself all worked up over a guy who had his chance and didn't take it. You should think you're ex just wants to see how fat and old you look now., so he can feel good about all the other hot women he dated after you guys broke up. That ought to take all the mystique out of your eventual meeting. When you finally do see him, say "This is my husband ____. We've been happily married for __ years and have __ lovely children. It's nice to see you again." Then walk away. If he insist on keeping a conversation going with you, keep it light and ignore him at other times. Try to remember that it's your husband who NEVER forgot what a wonderful and valuable person you are.
2006-09-03 05:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After 28 years I don't see a problem with seeing this guy, if you want. Now, if you BELIEVE you have feeling for him still I would think twice about it. And bringing your husband is not a bad idea either. Just in case this old friend of yours wants to get a little cozy and reconnect again. You know better than anyone about the situation, take a good long look at it and ask yourself: Do I really want to see this guy again?
2006-09-03 12:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28 yrs ago you were this younger girl, doing all those gitty things we do when we are younger. boyfriends yada yada. Those days are over now that you are married. Knowing of him has time warped your emotions back to that girl that once knew him. But you ARE a married woman now, and need to let go of that part of your life, it isn't fair to your husband, and why the hell would he want to go meet your old boyfriend anyway? Your all excited about this recent news, wonder how you would feel if your husband came home and wide eyed excitedly told you his old girlfriend is in town and would like to see him again, and didn't care that he was married? Hmmmmmmm? you are asking for trouble, unless you are immature and like the attention all that is causing.
2006-09-03 06:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wanted to see me and I was married I would talk to my husband and let him know that We should have him over for coffee of dinner. if you spouse is not comfortable having him in the house then take your husband w/u to a small restaurant over a lunch and meet the man there. Keep the meeting to 1hour to 1 1/2 at the most. Keep conversation light and talk in generalities
2006-09-03 05:46:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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I f he wants to meet you again, no big deal,
he can visit you and your husband at home
. he may well have a family too,
He is very old and has amnesia.
Probably bald and fat by now too
It is really up to you to decide ,
how much you, would want to bring ,
this "stranger" into your life right now .
28 years is quite a long time, people change
good luck which ever way you go .
>^,,^<
2006-09-03 06:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u no longer have feelings for this "old boyfriend" then there should be no problem wit u meeting him
& yea takin your husband with you would be a good idea....itll let him[your husband] be secure & trusting that u are involving him...
& can also help this guy back off if he had ne plans at all to get bak wit you...or ne thing along those lines...
but theres no reason y you shouldnt meet up wit him....yall arent highschoolers ne more....
soo lets not get all nerves over nothin...
2006-09-03 06:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lili 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to say hello a long time has passed. This guys not asking you out, hes only asking how you are. You dont have to take your husband along if your just going have coffee. Tell your husband tho. It sounds like you harbor feelings for this guy i think your mature enough to work things out for yourself.
2006-09-03 05:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by a mother 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband and let him come up with a plan if this other guy wants to meet with you. And let this plan be just between you and your husband.
2006-09-03 07:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to meet him, then meet him but you must tell your husband about it or you may have some trouble later. But if you don't want to see him, don't.
2006-09-03 05:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Earthling 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋