I am in a relationship with this really awesome guy and want to keep him and be together forever but Im afraid my insecurities will ruin it.When I was a teenager I got pregnant in a very unpleasant way and gave the kid up for adoption.The pregnancy gave me stretch marks all over my breasts and from my belly button down to the middle of my thighs.I am 29 now and still have them.Also, I was in a horrible relationship with an abusive guy and didnt care about my looks and gained a lot of weight.I have lost a lot of the weight since then but still feel very fat and have a horrible self image.My bf always tells me Im beautiful, but I dont believe him and think he is just saying it to be nice and not hurt my feelings. I think that I am very ugly and fat and no matter how many times people in my life tell me the opposite I dont believe it.What can I do to get some self esteem and look past all my faults and problems?
2006-09-02 22:09:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know that looks arent everything and life doesnt revolve around how you look but I have had a lot of horrible things happen to me and have been through a lot of pain loss and suffering in my life that really affect the way I feel about my looks even more so.I am also wondering what I can do, if anything to lessen or get rid of the stretch marks. I would love to be able to wear a bathing suit again one day. I havent been able to since I was 14 because of the severity of my stretch marks.
2006-09-02 22:15:32 · update #1
Well I don`t now about the strech marks but it sounds like the way you feel is not of your doing your beautiful inside and out
and don`t you forget that, people should feel lucky you are in thier lives so hold your head high baby you have the wold by the you know what. take care be wonderfull
2006-09-02 22:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by brown 25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have had a hard time in life and truly feel for you. You are a strong person to have been through so much and still be sane. I have heard that cocoa butter removes stretch marks. Plus there is this stuff called stretch-away that my sister ordered from t.v. that she is going to try. I will tell you how it works for her. You sound like a very beautiful person to me and no matter what you look like on the outside, having a good personality makes up who you are. The saying "looks are only skin deep" is totally true. You ARE beautiful!!!! And stretch marks arent the end of the world. Neither is a little chub. Both of those things are minute compared to the things some people have to live with.
2006-09-02 23:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a professional for counseling and medication. The low self-esteem is probably a product of your depression. Sometimes it takes awhile to overcome a low self-esteem, esp. if you've felt that way for years, and a professional can help you through that. You can find out what caused the problem in the first place and how to overcome it. And yes, I have been in that situation. It's something I still struggle with to some extent.
2016-03-27 05:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, CONGRATULATIONS for NOT ABORTING your baby. That's GREAT!
Believe what people tell you! Your beautiful! I'm 26 and I have felt what your feeling for a long time! I'm pretty accepting of what I look like. It's hard but I know that I will lose the weight and feel pretty again in a bikini! You will too!
Everything you told us, sounds just like what I have been through.
but I went through all that when I was 18. The only part that I didn't go through was give my baby up. I kept her but my ex ABUSIVE JERK FACE "BOUGHT" my daughter away from me.
We all go through SH!T don't we. I could go on and on. But I think you need to listen to the guy your with. If he cares about you, he won't think your ugly or fat. He knows why you have "stretch marks" and he knows it's a part of you! Stretch marks CAN FADE, but it rather hard to make them GO COMPLETELY AWAY! I have many too. Man, I wanna sympathize with you more but I need to get going. If you want, you may contact me ANYTIME, just click on my name!
Best of luck for you!
2006-09-02 22:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let go of that guy. Share with him your experiences if you already haven't. It sounds to me like he is with you for who you are in the inside. Our bodies are just a shell to carry our soul. Every little scar or stretchmark or roll on our bodies is an indicator that we have "LIVED" Let them be reminders of just how strong you truly are and all the obstacles you have overcome. What has happened in the past to you is truly a crime and it saddens me. You have no faults to look past, no problems. Love yourself! There are laser treatments that can be done for stretchmarks, but first decide whether or not you plan to have any children. See a skin specialist with regards to those concerns. Asking your MD to refer you to someone who you can talk to can help too. My thoughts are with you.
2006-09-02 22:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by RN 1994 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to someone for sure. I go to a shrink and it helps A LOT. Just talking about it, sometimes can even make you feel better.
2006-09-02 22:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a mental health professional.
2006-09-02 22:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by jasminelilia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and see someone that you could talk to and let your heart out.... be thankful to god for the nice guy you have now.... nice men are very scarce nowadays
2006-09-02 22:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by deadman83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
COCAINA
2006-09-02 22:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by baberuth724 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋