He works seven days a week never coming home until nine or afterwards. I have no problem with him working but im 24 and his obsession with money is taking over his feelings for me. I do nothing but cry, argue with him and ask him to spend a couple of hours with me and our son on a Sunday. But every time its the same excuse that he has no time for us but yet he will always have time to do those extra jobs. Have time for those weekends away with friends and them weekly nights out. Its not his bank account suffering its my 3 year old? Im scared and dont know what to do.
2006-09-02 21:38:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Tell him he's needed at home. I wouldn't ever resort to this on any normal circumstances, but maybe making a point by telling him you'd pay him to visit his girl and 3 old could help. I don't know him well enough, but a guilt trip is fine in my opinion if its to get a point across on something this important.
That's a tough situation. Good luck to you. You're definitely not the problem though, so at least feel comforted by that.
2006-09-02 21:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is definately the problem. You need to make sure he knows how you feel and how your son feels about the circumstances you are currently living in now. You also must consider his side of which he must make money to support his family. A compromise must be met that will allow you and your son precious time with him and still allow him to earn money to provide for his family and have a lil going into savings per pay check. Sit down and speak with him about it. Tell him he is obligated as a father and as a husband to spend time with his family, instead of materialistic money.
2006-09-03 04:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by RichUnclePennybags 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be seeing another woman.A school teacher told me
one time ,you will always meet someone in the future that will make you forget about the last one. If you decide to leave. I dated
a lady for five years that thought one five second kiss and hug
was enough for that day.I talked to her several times about I
liked to give and recieve affection. I told her that it's time to move on
even though she is a good person
2006-09-03 04:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by CODY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too emotional and just focus on your son for now. If he ever notices you don't "nag" about his absence - he'll think about it. And have fun with your child. Tell your husband in passing that you're worried he'll miss out on the best years of the child because the minute that child reaches 8-10 - you can forget about him wanting to play with his dad....
2006-09-03 04:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Equinox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is DEFIANTLY the problem. He sounds like a work a holic and this situation is horrible. He will not give you nor your child any attention. Sit with him, give him an ultimatum. If he still chooses work, he does not deserve you or your child. Maybe he'll find out the hard way. I wish you luck with this, and god bless.!
2006-09-03 04:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by nightskystar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to seem insulting and believe me Im not but sounds to me like he wants another life or maybe even leading a double life. Move on, you deserve better and you will feel better, if not for you but consider the child.
2006-09-03 13:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by MusicLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of people deal with this, maybe his original plan was to make sure that he could give you the best and now its gotten away from him.
talk to him and Organise a family day, picnic, push ya child on the swings etc.
maybe ya also need to tell him ya gonna look elsewhere if he dont show up.
2006-09-03 04:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will never be "enough money", or, "the right time" he'll always want more of anything, and you have to put your foot down. good luck, and God Bless you, and your son
2006-09-03 04:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have tried to tell him and it aint working. he needs a shock. i would tell him if things dont change your going to have to separate. sometimes it is for the best. as much as you may love him, he is not bein fare. i have finished with my bloke because he was too controlling. i asked him to calm it. it did not work. i love him too bits and miss him so much. but mentally i am happier and so are my three girls. we are strong together as a family unit now. shock him!
2006-09-03 07:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by loopy lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously let him over work..dont cry or yell at him that pushes him away..but act like a perfect stay home mom..make him miss you..it works
2006-09-03 04:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by miss v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋