what can one say to soothe the 5yr old, whos toddler brother fell from the window and died?

Answer 1

That's a tough one. Your family should talk to a professional. This could have a profound effect on the rest of his/her life.

Answer 2

It may be hard but try to act the same as you did before it happened. When the child is ready answer honestly and open, do not try to "sugar coat" the tragedy because it will only confuse the child about showing sorrow.
Possible:

Even though Jack is not with us, he can still hear your prayers at night. And I bet that he will be looking out for you as your personal angel.

The reason for this is to give the survivor comfort in the idea that his brother is still with him and it will lighten the load of the fear he has of being "left alone".

At night give him the angel's favorite toy or stuffed animal and tell him; You know I bet Jack wanted you to have this so you will know he's with you always.

Remember even at that young age the question is there.
Why him and not me?
Be ready on this one clergy is better then me.

Answer 3

Im wrecking my brain trying to give you an answer best i can say is if he/she believe's in heaven tell the kid that his/her brother is in heaven. Otherwise i really dont know but either way the kid needs come councleing for his/her ouw sake. I wish that child all the best though that is just a horrible thing..I must ask however how you know of this child ? is it yours or something and where was someone when this happened?

Answer 4

that's so heartbreaking....i wish i had a sure answer for you....but i do know that the truth is the best ...even if they are too young to assimilate it......i had to tell my 2 little boys who were 3 and 4 that their daddy had died...and that's what i was told to do... i would also see if you can find a book that will assist you in the grieving process for both of you...and help you with your feelings and emotions.....i can tell you that there are three stages of a loss that you will be experiencing........the first is shock/denial.....second is anger/depression...the third is acceptance/understanding...they usually don't happen in that precise order...but you will feel all of them during the healing process....in time you'll be able to recognize them...take care of yourself now and your 5yr old....blessings

Answer 5

If the boy and his family are religious, you can say: Your brother is in heaven with God and he and God are always with you. You can talk to them anytime you feel like it.

If they are not religious, say, he was hurt very badly and had to go to the hospital, but they could not save his life. Everytime you think about him, he is also thinking about you.

Answer 6

while i am christian, i find it to be hard on a child to tell them that Jesus "took" the child to live in heaven. it could make the child resent religion.

try to do things that both children liked to do and always remind the surviving child that the other child loved him/her.

most important of all, is to NOT turn your back on the surviving child. make sure that he/she knows that they are loved and listen for any (ANY) thing that might tend to show that the child wants to go "live with his/her" fallen sibling or friend.

-eagle

Answer 7

Just tell him/her the he had a terrible accident,he died and went to heaven.He is OK and love her/him very much.Angels are taking good care of him.

Answer 8

that his lil brother is in heaven and is an angel that will always watch over him.

Answer 9

say him,but c tht he does understanhd later,may say gone to god,for study n will come bck soon,

Answer 10

I am so sorry