...and don't say "kill yourself" or "get a hooker."
I've always been awkward around women. It takes people a while to get to know me because I tend to keep everyone at a distance.
I think I'm better than average looking, and I have a good job where I get to be creative. I'm a smart guy with a skewed sense of humor, and it comes across as being geeky and weird sometimes.
I was teased by my own family members growing up because I was shy. They would say things like "no one wants you." So naturally I have a little bit of a self-esteem problem :)
I watched everyone around me grow up and start having relationships, and I started to get freaked out. Then I got older and it just got worse.
I've had close friends that were girls, just nothing romantic. I've never even kissed anyone.
I see girls check me out all the time, but I'm so awkward that I avoid talking to them.
Maybe I just need to get hammered and ask the first drunk chick I see for a favor...
2006-09-02 20:46:28 · 26 answers · asked by ohthatsgraphic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not feel like there is a time limit on this. In many countries around the world and in many societies, a person does not lose their virginity until they are married. The pressures I endured to do that when I was young was over whelming. You are 25 and hopefully mature enough to stand your ground. I lost my virginity when I was 18 and even that I lied about for years before around the guys. In life, you will find as I sure you do now, very few things are in your total control. Saving yourself for that special woman, not matter how long it takes, is totally in your control. If you are worried about having certain intimate feelings is natural being an introvert. Nature will call eventually and you will know when it does. Just do not do something that you will truely regret later.
2006-09-02 21:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by azguitar 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Please don't feel bad. Lots of guys feel awkward around females and for some it doesn't get better as they get older.
Don't feel bad being a virgin. It's a shame that society puts out the image that we all need to have sex with a million people to be normal or to have fulfilling lives. I'm a virgin at 24 for both religious reasons and practical reasons-I've dated guys before but haven't found the right guy and I want it to be special, for it to mean something.
Here are some tips:
1) Consider therapy. NOT for the virgin part but for the family making fun of you. How sad! You might also want to bring up the shyness with a counselor.
2) It's a really good sign that you've had close friends who are girls. I think you're capable of a relationship. Maybe online dating would really work for you since you're shy. I would try it if I were you!
3) Just take all relationships slow. It actually is more normal than you think to not have had a relationship. Just take it slow! Talk to a girl, ask for her number, don't try anything for three dates, then try only a peck on the cheek.
Good luck!
2006-09-05 19:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well consider this.. ...im female 26 and have never tongue kissed a guy either, nor gone any further. I have had 2 long term relationships, the first was for a year, and he wanted to get more physical, and i didnt. The other was for 18 months, but was long distance, but damn was he yummy, the problem is when u only meeting in the airport between flights it doesnt seem very romantic.
Im sure im not gros looking cause guys hit on me often.
the way i see it if its meant to happen than it will and if not then it wont. if u waited this long dont get hammer and ask the first chick, the right girl must be out there for u somewhere.
2006-09-02 21:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by unqione 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, how is worrying going to help, you will find a girl soon maybe when your least expecting it. There is someone out there for everyone and you aren't the only single guy in the world, who cares if your a virgin there's no rush just don't change for anyone. Most ppl are shy about girls but they do get girls. Also don't get drunk b/c girls don't like a drunk guy coming onto them. You'll be fine, just give it time, good luck babe!
2006-09-02 21:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by missy minx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't do that. Find a girl that seems interested and do something crazy (like ask her on a date sporadically). Don't try to get laid. Remember, you can take care of yourself without a girl. Its the girl that makes it special.
My roommate has also never been kissed. He's 21, but working his way up there with ya. The first girl you date is always the hardest and the longer you wait, the more awkward dating is. Just remember that after the first try in dating someone, it will DEFINITELY get easier for you, succeed or fail.
2006-09-02 20:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
the day in the previous at present, I watched this teach and there grew to become right into a woman who's a virgin and he or she is 50 years old. i presumed, dang she could desire to look like a canines, yet no, she grew to become into warm esp. as quickly as they did a makeover on her. From my very own own adventure i don't see something incorrect with being a virgin as long because it a loose decision. i'm so unusual and unusual in maximum of alternative tactics I heavily doubt if every physique might even pay interest to my sexual decision.
2016-10-01 06:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever had a girlfriend? just ask a girl out & let it progress... dont be afraid! thats ridiculous! a lot of women would respect a guy who was still a virgin & find it attractive (now, im not telling you to use it as a pick-up line), but, if you get involved in a relationship, things just tend to happen naturally... and the right woman for you would LOVE that about you... dont do that with a stranger! besides, you could end up w/ an STD or get her pregnant!
2006-09-02 20:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I didn't lose my virginity until I was 22. I lost it to a lovely, young Dutch Sex-Worker. Needless to say, it was "real" special. I can understand why you don't want to get a Sex-Worker, however, think of it as practice. They can help you out.............after all, they're "professionals". Now, I'm 29, and I've only been w/ Sex-Workers. I'm probably gonna end up moving to The Netherlands and marrying one. I, too, suffer from confidence issues. I agree w/ the above posting that said the longer you wait, the harder it's gonna be. Does drinking alcohol help to reduce some of your shyness/awkwardness? If so, try that. Also, there's on-line dating and speed-dating. You can always ask out a fat chick or a minority or a high-school chick. High-school chicks will probably intimidate you less and be impressed w/ your age and maturity. Good luck, and stick her good!
2006-09-02 21:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by solipsistic 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If it's an anxiety problem, consider getting on some medication - it'll make you a lot more out-going. Try joining some clubs, or just going to places you enjoy and doing things you like with a lot of people around. There are a lot of geeky girls around. Just go outside and gradually get more into talking to strangers and striking up conversations.
2006-09-02 20:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mansurus 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, leave the drunk ones alone. You have to jump into life instead of just watching on the sidelines. Rent "Last Holiday" with Queen Latifah and LL Cool Jay. That might help. You are sort of in the same situation as her.
2006-09-02 20:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy J 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋