I absolutely am sick of the way I live my life, mainly were I live is the problem. I have been saving and preparing myself to move out of my parents house once I turn 18 in a few months. I am so ready to move out and begin learning for myself and such, but I do have a small part of me that i believe will dearly miss my parents, and my brother. I will be at the other side of the U.S, about an 8 hour flight away. I just love them so much, and feel that im going to miss something when i leave, and one day i will see them, and they will be much older, then after that, i will be at their funerals, wishing with all the world that i would have spent more time with them. I don't spend much time with them now because they are both working and when their not working, i am working. So are these feelings normal for a guy, and will they go away. Should i stay with them or move out and begin the process of growing up? i feel so depressed about it... and btw, the distance isnt much of an option
2006-09-02 20:04:23 · 13 answers · asked by help! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
its either 8 hour flight or not move out at all.
2006-09-02 20:04:45 · update #1
What you are feeling is normal..It also says alot about you...Even though you know it is right for you to go out and start living your life you still have the urge to just stay at home..Thats understandable..These people you are leaving have raised you ...and I might add very well..and you are afraid that if you leave they will grow old and pass away..This is going to happen whether you are with them or not but if you stay in touch and visit them and have them visit youit will be fine..In time you will be ok with having left home...Hey your parents have been there since birth it is always difficul at first but it will get easier..and you will be in their hearts as they will be in yours
2006-09-02 21:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the world, men and women go through these feelings when they are becoming adults and leaving home for the first time. The feelings will change over time, and as you work out your new life; you will find ways to talk and email and visit in person as much as you can. It is totally normal to miss your parents and your brother, you have been living with them around you all of your life. Change can be scary, but it can also be good. This is the way of the world. Your parents and family will still be there, emotionally: for you, no matter where you are living. They are obviously wonderful people, as they have raised a caring son. If the distance is not an option, make it work. You can travel so easily now, it is not like years ago before trains and planes when it would take months to travel to see friends and family. Please give yourself a chance with your new life. Parents raise their children to live better lives and do more and have more adventures than they have had, that is the way of the world. Go for it, it will all work out, their love will go with you. Have a good night~
2006-09-02 20:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why move so far away? Why not maybe just a state away or even a city away? What's so important on the other side of the US that you can't find just a state or city away?
It's a normal feeling. Your young and your ready to be grown up and responcible! Normal! I would start off by not getting too far away. You'll need your parents more than now for moral support, those physical hugs to keep you strong. Not only a phone call. You'll need a break. Time to spend at home for a day or two or more. Then get back to work and back to the grown up deal. They will be the best to give you comfort, encouragement and sympathy then send you on your way again.
Stay strong. Don't go too far away from your parents. When you get emotionally stable to be far away, EXPLORE the world. It's hard at first because you've been with your parents for many years ( I assume) and jumping into life far away, it will hit you hard!
I experienced this many times. Shoot, Im still calling up mom saying, "awww...what do I do? How do I do this mom? How did you get through this?
It's hard. But I wish you the very best!
Good luck!
2006-09-02 20:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's good you love your parents and family but everybody needs their own lives and to learn from the mistakes they make on their own. I moved out of my parents when I was 18 but I also had a child to support and it was hard but you find ways to make it work. You need to take time off from work and so do your parents to spend time together before you leave, plane a weekend trip or a family BBQ, just hang with them. It's normal because they have always been the door down from yours. They stayed up all night when you have been sick. It's just a close family which is good to see. Best of luck to ya
2006-09-02 20:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are these feelings normal and will they go away? That is the question you ask the loudest. Normal....a word there is no legal definition for within our court system. That should be a clue that the answer is yes. It is logical and human to 'feel', guy or gal. You have a given thought to a possible end result as you stated. My experience has taught me to eplore possible outcomes and make sure I do not make choices I can not live with. If you move away and tragedy strikes and your return visit is to bury your Mom, Dad and Brother ............. Not that you should not go because this could happen......Are you going because your suppose to go? If the answer is yes, then even if you returned to a tragedy you would have peace. Talk with family............good luck rebchick
2006-09-02 20:26:02 · answer #5 · answered by rebchick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are normal, and it makes you a great son! The anticipation of leaving your family can be hard, but not can be even worse. Staying home now will only make you despise them later for not going. Besides it's not like you wont talk to them often(computer?) and you will be surprised at how much better relationships can become when the heart grows fonder.
2006-09-02 20:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leaving a loving family is always difficult, but becoming a responsible adult is an exhilerating experience, and one any loving parent and family is proud for their child to do.
Pick up the telephone, email, write letters, save your money for a trip home once or twice a year. You're not leaving the planet.
2006-09-02 20:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Poots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you to spread your wings and go for it. But, i left when i was only 16 and stayed gone until now, i'm 46. I'm back and I can't make up for it, it is all gone, I missed out on so much. If you can visit at least once or twice a year then do it if you wish, but if you, like me, stay gone... man you just can't get it back. Can you find a happy medium? I know I probably didn't help you much..
2006-09-02 20:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by el 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least you can see what might happen if you don't pay attention. Be your own person and do what you need to do, but keep your family close to your heart and let them know it. You won't ever regret keeping in close touch, but as you've already figured out, you will regret time lost. They will always be your family and you shouldn't worry too much about not having them.
2006-09-02 20:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you nevertheless experience for him because of the fact which you haven't any longer replaced him. What you will possibly desire to do, is occupy your ideas with different issues that can assist you no longer think of of him. perhaps college, artwork, acquaintances something helpful to your self. After a mutually as he will bypass away your ideas and you'd be too occupied to hassle thinking approximately him anymore. wish that facilitates? solid luck
2016-11-06 08:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by lurette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋