is it so wrong?

Question

can anyone tell me why it is so wrong to have a baby at an early age?

Answer 1

I answered your last question as well. It is not that it is bad to want a baby, because in a lot of ways, a baby is a wonderful thing. It is just that in this day and age, raising a child takes a lot of money time and energy, which a 15 year old girl may not be able to handle on her own. If you don't have what you need to raise the baby, it can be difficult or even impossible to provide what the baby needs, let alone all the extra thing that every parent wants to be able to give their child. And actually, something extra that I did not even think to let you know before is that it is a medically proven fact, that at an early age, while you are still going through puberty, you may be able to physically be able to get pregnant, but there can be a lot more complications during the pregnancy and with the baby, because your body has not finished developing fully. Either way, it is important to find out as soon as possible from your doctor whether you are pregnant or not, because you and your baby need to get the medical attention you need as soon as possible. Like i said, if you have any more specific questions, you can email me.

Answer 2

Well, I see by your other question, people have already stated the obvious. But I'll try wording it in other ways.

For starters, since you're only 15... you're FAR from ready emotionally and financially to handle the stress of a baby. It's a 24/7 job, no breaks, no vacations, etc, etc.

There's no way you're up to the responsibility of a baby at 15!
First you need to finish school yourself, get a job and become financially stable, while trying to figure out who you are yourself.

At this point in time, IF your parents are willing to let you keep it, and help you raise it (the key phrase being THEM raising the child), it's not fair to your parents or the child. And it sounds like yet another case of society ultimately being financially responsible for this child you want. Do you feel that's fair to anyone?

Does your boyfriend know you're trying to get pregnant?

Give it a few years, until you've had time to mature yourself and become financially stable, and give the child a loving home with 2 parents. You will all appreciate it and have a more enjoyable stable life.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You are 15 years old from your last post. You can even get a job yet let alone you cant even drive,or get married. You have to finish school or at least go until you 18 and if your pregnant your child will have a mother with no education at all. How are you going to pay to feed this child. I don't even think you can get welfare your too young. How you going to buy your baby clothes. How are you going raise a child which you are one your self. You got a lot to think about and baby is wonderful but if your doing it cause you want someone to love you You need to not be so selfish cause that baby isn't going to have anything. You cant just say you don't want it anymore they don't go away. And if you try to get pregnant and then decide not to have it you will either have an abortion and kill a baby or you will adopted it and he will have emotional problems. why don't you focus on your self. Grow up and live life and then later on in life be a good mother.

Answer 4

Not so much wrong as it is unwise.

If you are 15 years old and want to have a baby now I would have to ask what you expect to get out of having a child? Are you looking for someone to love you unconditionally? A way for your boyfriend to remain tied to you? Extra attention that may come with being pregnant and having a baby?

Maybe it's not a baby you want, but rather a way to fill a void in your life.

Having a baby is a huge responsibility. It's not about what you get out of it, but rather how much you can give to another. Motherhood is a self-less act that requires more self sacrifice than most teenaged girls are ready to give. That doesn't make you a bad person, that makes you a normal teen. Enjoy your life and your freedom. Now is the time to focus on you. Get your education and make a good life for yourself. Give your baby the best chance possible by getting yourself in the best position possible to take care of it independently.

Answer 5

It is natural at 15 to begin to feel the "nurturing" desire (at least for young ladies who are not self-absorbed) but in this particular culture and age that we live in, having a baby just to have someone to love is the sign that there are some emotional roots that need to be repaired first. In 2006 and in the US most young ladies are not emotionally, nor financially, and even physically prepared to parent. Young girls want to sleep late, stay out late with friends, talk on the phone, visit the mall. These are not signs of mature good mothering. A mother must get up early in the morning to care for the needs of her infant. She must take care of her own body and procure good meals 3 times a day. She needs to have a clean environment for baby to sleep properly. Babies also need a strong father of good character (honest, hardworking, loving, gentle, stable in all ways.) Does this help? A mature young woman will be able to say yes.

Answer 6

sure. one just because your body is menstrating does not mean that your body is done growing and mature enough to carry a baby without possible miscarriage, When you are pregnant your hip bones soften and then take a different shape as well. You do not say what age is early so i am thinking in high school or earlier. Plus you are not at that age mentally ready. You are taking the responsibility on for a whole norther life that will be totally dependent on you. Dont have a baby so that someone will love you.

Answer 7

It depends on how old early is. Are you going to be able to care for this baby on your own or are the the parents going to be the financial part of the raising. Most young girls are not able to balance a baby and a job, heck most adults can't either. It's not fair to parents who have already had thier kids to have to raise a grandchild. I know when it's being rationalized in your head it sounds easy, but I have seen to many times where parents, who have thought they were alost done with kid raising were bumped right back into it.

Answer 8

its not "wrong" its just better to wait until you are in a little older and have a better way to provide for the baby. I was 18 when I had my first and it was so very hard, emotionally and financially. I would NEVER change anything but maybe waited a couple of years. I missed out of many things and my baby had to do without several things. My second one I was several years older and it was a lot easier.

Answer 9

How early? Being pregnant too young can cause health problems in both the mother and the child. It can result in an underdeveloped baby. Have a baby too soon in during puberty can cause the mother to have to have a hysterectomy...I don't know of any teen who wants that. (BTW in case you were wondering a hysterectomy is where they take out your womb, ovaries, tubes and cervix). And then they can't have anymore babies. Then of course there is the economic factor. Those who have babies too young tend to be on welfare and never follow up with their education or career goals they had before they were pregnant. Their babies grow up being supported by the tax payers and they too are limited to educational opportunities because their mother's can't afford to send them to college. That's pretty sad when you think that even the minimum wage "would you like fries with that" jobs are now asking for at least a 2 year college degree in order to be hired. So those children will grow up to be adults on welfare themselves, being supported by the tax payers, and their children, will be as well and so on and so on. What is so wrong about it is that it puts limits on young women and ties them down to a life of constant struggle.

Answer 10

well the younger you are the less prepared you are for the HUGE responsibility.

usually your financial sitiation is bad are you are not done with school.

most guys that are young are not mature enough to handle fatherhood.

your body is not ready and cause heallth risks to you and the baby.

society often has to pay for your health insurance, and any other assistance that is needed.

I am not against young mom because some young moms are wonderful! But I am a mom that had my 1st at 25 and I can clearly see how I have more patience and cope better with my kids. No I am not perfect but I have life experience in the world which my young mother friends think they have but they do not.