I have 7 children - Jennifer(15),Robert(12), Kateline(10),John(7), Emma(5),Benjamin(2) and Sandra(2).I divorced last year with their father.I have a boyfriend now(all the children like him).He doesn't live with us.We love each-other.We are thinking of getting married some day.He doesn't have kids,but he loves my children a lot and gets on well with them,just like if they were his children.But he wants his child too.I don't know...if I bear another baby(that would be definitely the last one),wouldn't they be too many?Or how will Jennifer feel if she is 16 and has a newborn sister or brother?And how will the new child feel,being "the last one" and the youngest?
2006-09-02 19:43:01 · 27 answers · asked by julie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you are still able to bear children, you both want one, why not? If you have seven what difference would it be if it were eight? Not to mention that you already have a child who is "the last one" and the youngest. He would just be passing his mantel on to the new one. I don't see how it would hurt any of the children you have now. It didn't ruin them when you had all the others did it?
The only thing I would suggest is that you get married first. If you have this child out of wedlock just because "he isn't ready for marriage yet" you will be sending a powerful message to your children about responsibility, commitment, and morality--or the lack thereof. Don't teach them that having illegitimate children is a good or acceptable thing to do--unless you want three or four unwed mothers living with you and expecting you to do babysitting duty for them while they are in school.
2006-09-02 19:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..if you can afford to have another and you are able to. Then I would say go ahead. As far as how would your eldest child will feel about having a new brother/sister, the only way you can get that answer is to ask her. She is old enough to give you her honest opinion. For the new baby being the last one or youngest...there is always going to be one of those. The baby will not know anything else. I would think the baby to be very lucky to have so many people around him/her to love and care for them. I would think really you would have more issues with the younger children feeling displaced as not being the "baby" anymore. I think with the number of children you have now that you have handled each of the scenarios that you mention before. Maybe you don't really want to have another baby.... In the end it is a decision only you and the potential father can make. Wishing you the best!!
2006-09-03 02:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by mrsjav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's something you should decide for youself. Sit down with your children first and see how they feel about this. Then talk with your boyfriend and see if he's able to support a family of 10. I know you probably really love him, but think about it long and hard. It means starting over. Your 2 year olds are potty trained or will be soon. Make sure your boyfriend is ready for this commitment, and GET MARRIED FIRST!
2006-09-03 02:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jennifer will probably be delighted to help you with a new baby. And I think your new husband has every right to a child of his own blood, especially since he sounds like a good sport who treats your kids well. The kids like him, he must be a good guy.
I say go for it! Be sure to be really, really careful of your health while you are pregnant, of course, because the older you are the more chance there is for complications. But if all the kids are determined to help you and make it easy for you, I think you will have a great time. My blessings!
2006-09-03 02:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you can finanicaly support it and give it the attention it needs with all the other children around then i think you should go for it and if all your children have the same daddy then you have to think how this child will feel left out when all the other childern have something to share and this don't have that to share with them but like i said if you can finanicaly support it and give it the attention it needs and are going to have it with the same man as the rest of the kids come from then you should go for it.
2006-09-03 02:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should. Because if your new husband to be is willing to provide money and love to your other children, the least you can do is give him one child.
Heck, 7 is to many. 8 won't make much difference.
Jennifer would probably love it.
He'll probably end up gay, as studies have shown a high correlation for the youngest of several brothers to turn out gay. But don't let that stop you.
It never did before!
Give the man a baby. He deserves one.
2006-09-03 02:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by MrZ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well its depends on if you just trying to have a child just for him and because he want one and you feel since you with him its up to you. And next can you afford another and do you want another if you answer yes to the LAST 2 QUESTIONS then sure but talk it over with the kids to see their point of view and how will the accept the new one.
2006-09-03 02:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you wait and see what happens and not worry too much about what might happen down the road.. and if the time comes where he wants a child with you decide then if you are physically and emotionally ready for one more... and if you are go for it.. I mean although this might sound bad... you have 7 .. whats one more...lol Seriously if you both want a child and are ready to take care of it.. go for it
2006-09-03 02:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you asking people on yahoo? What are you going to tell that child? You are here because people on the internet gave me the ok so I did your father and now your here? That's odd maybe you should stop. Be thankful for the ones you have and pay more attention to them!
2006-09-03 04:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sunbunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a nice feeling to plan a baby in the coming future. the newcomer will not feel that way,, just think about it if you will not have another baby thenb your Sandra would be the youngest , will she feel being 'the last one'.. in my opinion there is not limit to the number of babies that you should have.. if you are strong enough to bear the 8th pregnancy then i dont see any harm in going ahead with it...
2006-09-03 02:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by Pummi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋