My pastor's wife divorced him. Should I change Church?

Question

the church is divided. Lost alot of members. Without the other memebers, I just don't think is the same. What should I do?

We are a Spirit filled church and we don't chant hyms, we praise God with a worship team, which by the way, the worship team leader left with most of the team.

Answer 1

First and foremost, as a Christian you should put it in the hands of Christ and not let your faith be weakened by worldly drama; open yourself up to the wisdom of Christ's Spirit and allow him to guide you.

In the beliefs of the Christian religion this is an attack by satan upon your church; and therefore you must meditate on all of the facts concerning this issue and let Christ be your guide.

Take time to consider what your responsibilities are to your church, never loosing Christ's guidance, and fulfill this by God's will.

Answer 2

One can't be held responsible tor the actions of others. I don't know the situation but I would want to know a couple of things before making a decision to leave based on her behavior.

Is the teaching from there accurate? Is it being lived by the teacher? Are you being feed by the instruction? Is this about the teacher's and his wife's actions or is this about the lose of your community?

I have been through a number of church changes and splits and the very best advice I can give you is hold off until the transition has settled a bit and then examine you and your motives and hurts and sense of loss.

I actually just went through a large church split and decided that I would not do anything until after the transition because I was part of the leadership team and I got really burned. I didn't want my actions to be blamed because of my insecurity with the situation.

Let things settle down and then decide what you are going to do. It will give you time to gather your thoughts and have a solid foundation about your decision.

Answer 3

The church is the church. You go there to worship God. It seems like people go there to worship the pastor these days.

The pastor/priest/rabbi is a studied man, and is usually committed to good and is an advice giver personally or through the pulpit. But one thing they are not, is perfect. In this paticular case, perhaps he was, and his wife was the screwy one. A pastros wife is a hard lot, and many are not up to it.

More pastors get divorced than you can realize, many find themselves changing churches because of it. I'm sure it is difficult and embarassing for him.

To your question, support your church, IMHO, unless the congregation has become basically evil. It doesn;t sound that way

Answer 4

Go to a Spirit filled Church where they speak in other tongues. Lakaynatolosh Layshanalatosh Baptism is being filled with God's Holy Spirit, not some empty religious experience where you sit in your chair stiffen your body and chant hymns. Raise you hands and worship God. Shake off the religious spirits that attack you.

Answer 5

ask yourself these questions:

1. Should your Church leave you behind because you are a human that makes mistakes?

2. Do you belong to the church for the sole perpose of the others that belong to that church?

Your pastor is not God, and neither is his wife. Their divorce was between them and not between you and God. Even if it was your pastor who cuased the divorce (and I;m not saying tha is the case), but he is only human as you and I are only human.

Maybe right now is a good time to show support for your pastor and his wife equally. The church is there to worship God.

I hope this helps.

Answer 6

This is a classic example of non-unity in Protestantism. The life of the church depends on the pastor rather than on the church itself.

You can look for another protestant/evangelical church but when things similar as this happens you'd be back to square one over and over. Look for the church that does not depend its life on the pastor and maintains universal unity: The church of the early Church Fathers.

Cyprian of Carthage
"There is one God and one Christ, and one Church, and one chair founded on Peter by the word of the Lord. It is not possible to set up another altar or for there to be another priesthood besides that one altar and that one priesthood. Whoever has gathered elsewhere is scattering" (Letters 43[40]:5 [A.D. 253]).

Optatus
"You cannot deny that you are aware that in the city of Rome the episcopal chair was given first to Peter; the chair in which Peter sat, the same who was head--that is why he is also called Cephas ["Rock"]--of all the apostles; the one chair in which unity is maintained by all" (The Schism of the Donatists 2:2 [A.D. 367]).

Answer 7

Visit a different church every Sunday until you find one that suits you, then attend as you would your prior church.... if you feel that your current church is divided talk to the members who have left and find out where they went.

There may be a very good reason that your pastor is being divorced, trust you instincts if they are telling you to go to another fellowship.

Answer 8

What's more important to you, the people who go to that church, or the teachings of that church? If you think it's the people, then I think you'd need to read your holy book again.

Let me add one more thing here. Just because the woman left the pastor, doesn't mean he's not a man of God. Maybe the woman wasn't what she claimed to be, ever think of that?

Answer 9

Honestly, the vast majority of churches today have lost the way and I really can't see where you can worship better in a house made by hands.

Maybe just go into your closet and pray in secret?

Answer 10

I would find a church where you feel you can support the pastor. Don't be a member of a church when the pastor can't keep his own family together.

Kas