Help me deal with leaving the man I have given my heart and soul to, his porn addiction is too much. I have no family here, no money to move and a child, but not his.
2006-09-02 19:19:08 · 10 answers · asked by jennifer b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is an old saying that a journey of thousands of miles starts with one footstep.
If it's that important to you, take that footstep.
2006-09-02 19:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him if you love him. Porn is an addiction. He needs your help and understanding. I know a guy who was addicted to porn for a while. It started because his wife was getting fat and he wanted to enjoy the sexy thin woman body without being a cheater. Just a wonder in my mind... are you fat or not quite what you used to be? If so, start wroking out. Start letting him see you as sexy. Start giving him more sexual pleasure. If you really love him, ask him how you can please him. Maybe he likes things that you are not willing to do. If you love him then really get in there and be his fantasy girl. Hopefully he will in return treat you like a queen. It is worth a shot isn't it? You asy that you give your heart and soul to him... well... then go for it. Just remember porn is easy to get addicted to. By the way...the man I know loved his wife but ended up leaving her for another woman who was skinny and willing to do what he liked. Also, he was no longer interested as much in porn. Something to consider for you.
2006-09-02 19:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is going to be difficult here but try this for one sit him down in front of the television or sit him down in a quiet nice place right? then just try and see what happens now what going to happen is try tell to tell him that he has to stop the addiction watching porno and stuff tak to him if he says he is going to stop then threaten him that u leave him if he dosent stop but remeber u dont mean that and u might have a slight chance that he might stop if not then tell him is over and work hard to leave him cuz u dont know that he probaly might be addicted to porno so much that he can do something to ur child u get what am saying so try this if not leave if not well work hard and huslte till u get money and then leave
2006-09-02 19:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by LUIS ROSA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you got to be brave and be firm with you decision... think abt your child! Do you think he will be a good father for you child with his addiction?? and just think will he be a good husband to you with his addiction?? I wont be surprise if you found him with a hooker one day... all you have to do is stand you ground... be firm with him and tell him the truth that this relationship just cant go on anymore... that this is not goin to work anymore... and its time for the both of you to go your own separate ways...If he is truly a gentlemen... he will respect your decision and leaves...
Second, get a job... try to look in the papers whatever you can find... it doesnt matter whether its a job that you dont like or if its not to your standards, think about your child, as long as you are able to get a apartment, takecare youself and you child with that money... it will be alright for now... cos "if you want to be the top, you got to start form the bottom"... just think positive and never give up trying... try to hire a nanny to takecare of your child while you are working at the day...
Lastly, dont care what people want to say or whatever comments they have on you... just think positive about yourself and your child...people aint gonna help you on your situation... they just want to create more distruction on your life... never take thier bad judgements too hard....and rememeber if its a good advise, always take great care to listen... pray to god so that your baby and your life will turn out to be ok...remember to be pure in your heart and try not to have hatred... be nice and sincere to help other... have good faith... and god will be with you...
2006-09-02 19:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Faradoves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW a martyr! I am Totally devoted and in love with this man! If only he was exactly as I want him to be then i would not leave him! but be aware of the fact that I am totally devoted and committed in this relationship, but he is forcing me to leave.
BULL#****! how many relationships have you already left when the honeymoon is over and the work begins? at least blame it on YOUR inability to accept him as he is. If it was not this it would be something else. Be honest hon.
2006-09-02 19:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are formed with cumilation of various beleifs, perception, sittuation, so there is a factor of ATTACHMENT- certain beleifs, perceptions,sittuations are creating these psychological bond or attatchment. to get out of a relation u need to first cut the attachments, once those attachments are cut there is no reinforcement & the positive feelings of love get weaker, so u can come out, but my advice in your sittuation is tat dont only c the result- he watches porns try to find out the reason- why he does so.reason leads to right judgement not result.
2006-09-02 19:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say get a job work long enough to get a decent pay check then use that money to get you to the nearest relative or friend that you can live with until you get back on your feet again. IF you are unhappy you shouldn't have to put up with it.
2006-09-02 19:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as Porn addiction. He's a guy. Get over it.
2006-09-02 19:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use The Brakes!
2006-09-02 19:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go...Try a shelter or something...Perhaps you can stay with friends.
2006-09-02 19:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋