My boyfriend left his computer on the other day, I noticed that he has Amatuer Sex finder, I looked up his account, he frequents the site almost daily. He says that he is committed but looking what should I do?
2006-09-02 19:10:11 · 20 answers · asked by jennifer b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
[Talk to him about it,let him know that it hurts you and why. Ask him how he would feel if you were doing something like that as well.[ i.e. looking up guys on online dating services, just checking out porn sites designed for women, and there are some...]
If you think it may be an addiction, then by all means, suggest counseling. And if so, know this...it's not because your inadequate, it's something beyond you that makes him visit daily.
Internet porn is what it is, and if the idea of him visiting a porn site is alright with you-then o.k. it's the fact that he's doing it daily that spells trouble.
And last, if all attempts to curb him from visiting fail, give him the dreaded ultimatum, me or vapid,unloving,uncaring,faces that will never meet him.
2006-09-02 19:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by jkautt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Facts are the fact, but you can't make assumptions.
10% Chance that someone set you up to find this.
10% Chance someone else is using the computer.
10% Chance that someone else put up the profile.
I agree, he probably did. But if he did, you'd probably know why too. If the relationship is going down hill, you can solidify your yes a little more. However, are you being a tad bit cynical here, and these are merely dating websites? Maybe he's going to the websites because...he's a guy. You'd best talk to him about what happens when the kids are around, why you are not doing it for him anymore, why enough isn't enough, what happens to porn stars when they get old, and if he's considering living with a 'fling' type person, because that's not you.
2006-09-02 19:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it like this- If hes looking and your not, if and when he finds someone else- guess who will be left high and dry? YES..... U. SO either let him go or do something drastic-- NOT desperate to make him not want to look for anyone else for any reason.
(if U haven't been sucking him off - then suck him off, regularly.
If U R not sexy, get sexy- ) If U don't do anything else, MAKE SURE that U learn whatever U did or didn't do so U don't make the same mistake latter.
2006-09-02 19:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by dctrod225 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
boys will be boys, hes not yet married and he has the right to do what he wants to do with his bachelor life whether we women like it or not.But it doesnt mean he couldnt be a good husband in the future you cannot be judgemental like that, can you? Give him a benefit of the doubt. A man feels free to try new things when he knows he can always come back to the tried and true.
2006-09-02 19:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by silly colie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is going in there every once in awhile just to look at the porn then it's probably not a big deal but if he's going in there daily and talking with women and advertising himslef leave him he doesnt sound like a guy worth giving your time to anyway.
2006-09-02 19:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by heather d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave his @ss he is playin games and you deserve better then that. If he really loves and care for you he would NOT be looking. Show him the door.
2006-09-02 19:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him immediately - you want nothing to do with the pain and problems that come from a person with those kind of problems.
2006-09-02 19:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by karkov48 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they say keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer.. but id say its time you dropped this enemy off at the nearest one way sign!
you deserve better! Dont ever settle for less when you are giving 100%
2006-09-02 19:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by Min 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bf can't be trusted, bf isn't satisfied, bf is a cheater, bf must be dumped. Good luck hun.
2006-09-02 19:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by el 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be closer 2 him, but not 2 much da more u spend wit him, will give him less time 4 him 2 be on da site
2006-09-02 19:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by numba_1_babii 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋