i'm struggling with personal issues.?

Question

i have such a low self-esteem, and i'm a binge eater-so i try to lose weight but i can't because i always overeat, not because i'm hungry but just because i want the food. my parents won't help me no matter how many times i ask, and we can't afford a councilor-although i don't see how a counciler can help raise my self-esteem or how they can help me to not overeat. so i'm hoping someone will have an idea of what i could do...so, any ideas???

Answer 1

you need a good friend.. somebody you can trust.. that you can pour your heart out to. somebody that will help not lecture.

i use to suffer EDNOS and it's miserable.. at times i still want to. its a LONELY place to be.. its painful when you have to hide from your own self.. so please find a friend that will help you. might even want to turn to a teacher.. somebody that will really care and listen.

Answer 2

I am an RN, so I will answer this question as professionally as I can. First, I am proud of you. Not many people will openly admit that they need help -- that is the first step in recovery. There are many organizations within each community to assist you with your problems and are free. I would suggest Over-eaters Anonymous, Co-dependency Anonymous, and Toastmasters. The support groups are based on the twelve step programs and the people who attend are experiencing the same or similar problems that your are experiencing. They can help, assist, support you when you need someone most. Toastmasters is a speaking group that will help with self-esteem and social interaction. You may also want to investigate your local Community Health Services for organizations that may offer free counselling. May I add how disappointed I am in your parents for their lack of support and aid? It's no wonder you have low self-esteem. Just remember that you are using eating as instant gratification and a control issue. Take care of the self-esteem issue first; otherwise, you will always set yourself up for failure. Good luck, hon.

Answer 3

Do you think stress causes you to overeat or just eat? You could try taking some anti-stress pills that will help you not eat when stressed. Having a good person to confide in will also help, it depends on how comfortable you are. You could seek counseling and group therapy, that might help. Another option is, when you feel that you want to eat, think about and do something else like read, walk, crossword puzzle, talking on the phone with a friend. Its all on you! Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Eating when you're depressed is a habit. If you can't go to a therapist to work out the issues that make you depressed, you need to find a new habit to replace eating. Preferably something that gets you out of the house so you don't have food available all the time.
They say it takes 14 days for something to be learned as a habit (or unlearned). I am quitting smoking and after the first 2 weeks it really was much easier. So if you can just occupy your mind learning something- even something really lame like knitting- for 2 weeks you will be over the worst of it.

Answer 5

you have to start somewhere. try walking briskly twice each day for 30 min each time-it is a moderate, enjoyable activity that can make a big difference w/out having to dread an overwhelming & uncomfortable workout. also, when you crave something, try a lower-cal. alternative. like, if you crave an ice-cream sundae, try topping a banana w/ 2-3 Tbsp. fat free coolwhip & drizzle a little 1/2 calorie hersheys syrup over it. also- always drink diet, non-calorie beverages. people consume a lot of unneccesary calories in what they drink. if you try, you will see progress and then that will be your motivator- you just have to "get the ball rolling" also try signing up for a hobby or volunteer work- it will keep you busy & put you in touch w/ good people who share your interests which will probably improve the way you feel about yourself. God bless you, sweetie & i know you can do it. dont give up!!!

Answer 6

I USED TO HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM, AND I STILL BATTLE IT ALMOST EVERY DAY.
YOUR BEST BET IS TO TALK TO A SCHOOL COUNCILLOR(IF YOUR STILL IN SCHOOL), OR IF YOUR FROM THE CITY, THERE ARE VARIOUS GROUPS THAT CONFIDENTIAL AND FREE. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE AND GETTHE ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEMS OFF OF YOUR CHEST AND RESOLVED.
ONCE YOU HAVE RESOLVED YOUR PROBLEMS THEN TRY AND GO AND FIND SOME ACTIVITY THAT YOU ENJOY DIONG. FOR ME IT WAS BADMINTON. THERE ARE OTHER GROUPS, SOCCER, BASEBALL, FOOTBALL, OR FIND A FRIEND TO GO RUNNING WITH, OR TAKL YOUR DOG FOR A WALK.
REMEMBER THAT YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE AND NO ONE ELSE, YOU ARE WORTH IT, AND NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO PUT YOU DOWN. YOU WOULDN'T BE IN THIS WORLD IF YOU WERN'T SUPPOSED TO BE HERE.
IF YOU STILL FEEL DEPRESSED AFTER ALL OF THIS THEN YOU SHOULD MAYBE THINK ABOUT GOING TO SEE A DOCTOR FOR DEPRESSION. DEPRESSION IS NOT OFTEN THE PERSON AFFECTED'S FAULT. IT IS OFTEN AN CHEMICAL UNBALANCE IN THE BRAIN.
I WISH THE BEST OF LUCK, AND STAY STRONG

Answer 7

Girl I have played the roller coaster of weight. It took , for me, looking in the mirror and asking what the hell is wrong with you. I found self confidence by accomplishing just simple tasks, and the more I did the big the boost, then after awhile I was to busy to eat as often as I did.

Answer 8

A persons basic needs are love compassion tenderness understanding guidance respect . Are you been given time to say your piece .
All of this and more starts at home.
Is your family showing you these things.
Lisa don,t be timid speak with strength of conviction speak with respect. Don't be concerned with how you look.
Come on Lisa there is a whole big beautiful world out there ,it's yours as much as anyone Else's
Kick --- go girl

http://www.coping.org/lowesteem/low.htm
Start with early nights and early mornings plenty of sleep
Independence making a life for yourself how you want it to be
How you want to live Lisa it is very rewarding

Answer 9

I tend to eat a lot more when I get bored. Just try to keep yourself busy! As far as your self esteem goes, that is something that you REALLY need to work on and pronto. I went to many counselors when I was young, due to severe self esteem issues and some tragic events in my life. They helped, but didn't "cure" me. What I did was tell myself everyday that I was beautiful, smart, and charismatic. Then, before you knew it, I was. :) Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

Your can go to any free mental health clinic. But ask your parents to sit and talk with you about it. If you get no where and you go to school. You can seek help from a school counselor. they are there not only to help with education but they can help you with this problem.