i have a older sister who calls me 5 or 6 times a day you cant talk to her on the phone 5 minutes with out her smarting off about something. like yesterday we were discuss our soap opera and she get mad at me and starts yelling at me because one of the cast members left the show. no how on earth is that my fault lol. she is so bad i cant stand visiting with her at all and i dread picking up the phone. how can i point out how stupid she is acting or better yet how do i just get her to leve me a lone with out hurting her feelings. she freaks out easy. i believe she has a mental disorder and needs help but when i say something the entire family gets pissed at me
2006-09-02 18:30:50 · 12 answers · asked by henna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would venture to say, their are control issues and the people want to be right instead of learning about how to change their obsession with the need to make a point when it is not an issue of importance. A person can not make another happy nor content if they are not feeling that way about theirselves. There is a book called "The Two Step" witten by Eileen McCann, it is easy readind, makes sense and is about the Dance we do with eac other, games we play, while trying to hide what we want, how we step around the issues of power. Good Luck! Ps, I just realized this is not about male , female relationships, however you can let her know, when she starts being abusive you do not have to tolerate it, if you continue you are giving her what she wants and that is your own power, tell her your boundries are ............. and you stand by them until she can talk to you properly, do not blame nor put her down, just it makes you feel such and such, and you refuse to allow yourself to to feel this way. USE I STATEMENTS, I DO NOT WANT TO FEEL BAD, SO I NEED YOU TO HEAR WHAT I AM SAYING TO YOU,I DO WANT US TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP one that is positive and loving not hurtful, so when I feel hurt or our conversation becomes verbally abusive, I AM GOING TO SAY it is time for me to hang up and then do it, if she continues to call right after just do not answer, leave out the other members in family, maybe she needs help and you could offer to go with her to see a professional!
2006-09-02 19:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the issue is more then fighting over stupid stuff, she very angry at something or someone and she is taking out on you. Tell her if you can't talk to me without getting angry then we just can't talk.
2006-09-03 01:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a life ..anyone who hollers at you about a soap character needs to get out more...I watch soaps but they don't take over my life.....She needs to have a hobby of some kind...
2006-09-03 01:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
word for the day is JOB and stop picking up the phone silence it and go on
2006-09-03 01:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by murkymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get caller I.D. and an answering machine. This IS the twenty-first century you know.
2006-09-03 01:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by S.A.M. Gunner 7212 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow,someone has got way to caught up in the "soaps"time to focus on outdoor activities
2006-09-03 01:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stop talking to them until they realize you're not going to put up with it.
2006-09-03 01:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Toronto 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just listen to her argue about everything and ignore it.
2006-09-03 01:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How bout you both get jobs and then you will be too busy to fight.
2006-09-03 01:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
get out of your house!! *lol*
hehe
maybe try talking to her or let someone talk to her about that..
2006-09-03 01:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by jean 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋