there's this boy i know that has had a really bad life and not exactly the best influences in his friends. he's surrounded by people, but it didn't take long for me to realize how truly alone he is. i've done my best to be there for him, but the truth is, he's still seeing other girls. he tells me he doesn't want to settle down, but not too long ago, i found out that he'd been telling me this for years before he gave a hot girl a chance to be his gf, then she cheated on him. too many times ive decided to leave him, but it breaks me up inside to see him so broken without me there. i know i should leave. everyone i've asked has said i should leave. but i know if he had proper parenting from parents that weren't there and better friends, he wouldn't be so messed up. ive seen older versions of him; honestly, i dont want him to become that. and yes, ive fallen in love with him, but i can leave if it need be. i just cant stand to let him rot alone, and everyone tells me its what i need to do
2006-09-02 18:15:30 · 12 answers · asked by sodapop8848 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in an 8 year relationship like this. You don't want to waste your life on this. You'll be leaving later, if you don't now. My ex was the same thing... all HIS mistakes were someone else's fault. It was poor him, over and over and over...
his childhood (which wasn't as bad as he let on), it was poor him against the whole world...
He's got you where he wants you. He has you and any other girl he wants at the time. He won't change. He knows you'll be there when his flings don't work out. He has his cake and eats it too. Don't wait, do what you both need, and move on.
2006-09-02 18:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all I am really sorry you have been put in such a hard situation. Secondly, this guy does not sound like he is a guy that you should b even close to dating. From what your question said it sounds like he does need a good friend and that friend could be you, but you should not get romantically involved with a guy that is that unstable. He does not need that and neither do you. It might be good for the both of you if you took a break from each other, not completely cut yourself off from him but cut the time you spend with him down.
2006-09-03 01:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_the_night 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go off what anybody tells you, go off what you feel if you truly in your heart feel as though you need to leave than leave but if not than stay but you need to communicate with him and let him know how you feel and see if he feels the same
2006-09-03 01:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Dion O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave, honey stop making excuses for him. Think, if you get married to him, he would still be the same. Please, don't get the idea that you can change him. We women make that mistake too much. leave with your sanity. do you really WANT TO END UP ON DIVORCE COURT??
2006-09-03 01:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by ¡El lobo del norte del fuego! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically people are who they are. We can't really change them that much. What happens to him from now on is not your responsibility or your fault, nor is it in your control, whether you stay or not.
Find what's healthy for you.
2006-09-03 01:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, you cant save him & you cannot be his therapist. it wont change a thing- he will just pull you down emotionally w/ him. stop trying to save him & save yourself because people w/ so many deep-rooted issues end up hurting those around them w/out evem thinking twice bcuz they're so wrapped up in their own chaos.
2006-09-03 01:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel strong enough to leave, then do it. Stay his friend, nothing more.
2006-09-03 01:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your lengthy question, only forces of nature will make the decision for you.
2006-09-03 01:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by spiritualseeker 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your job to be his happiness. You are not his mother, nor his woman of choice. Move on.
2006-09-03 01:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being just his friend. If you cant do that then leave.
2006-09-03 01:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by mommynokissies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋