Are there any single parents who have returned to school and made life better emotionally, financially for you and your children after experienceing drama in your life. I Care to share your story? Bills are one thing but the drama from my children fathers, the new boyfriend, my deadbeat live in father are all people in my life disrespecting and my home values and beliefs is driving me crazy .
2006-09-02 17:56:53 · 15 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All i can say is, wow, i don't even know you and i respect you so much. you go chica!
2006-09-02 17:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have, or at least I am on my way. Get the dead beat out- the new boyfriend may also be something you don't really need in your life right now either, I know that is a tough one, but it might be true if he is adding to the drama. Set your rules and anyone who cannot respect the rules of your house, your values and how you want to raise your children, need to be eliminated from the situation.
I have been there and done it- I walked away from all the people in my life that were not true friends and anyone who caused me more stress, i know it is not quite as easy with the children's fathers, but you can set limitations, you do have custody, the courts will back you an many decisions pertaining to your children's well being.
2006-09-03 01:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother made a hard decision to leave an abusive, alcoholic husband! Her life, at that time, was horrible. That one courageous act, though, changed the lives of her children. Even though the drama still surrounded our lives, it was no longer within our house, and our home became a place that felt safe. By changing your life and gracefully embracing the challenges that you are facing because of your decisions, you are positively affecting your children. Maybe they are too young to put their gratitude into words, after all it took me 10 years and a lot of my own mistakes to finally realize the sacrifices my mom had made and to thank her. Stay strong!
2006-09-03 01:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by novella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently going to school and a single mom. The father of my son was a dead beat who told me HE DID NOT WANT KIDS so I was on my own. I may not have made it yet but I have to keep reminding myself that in 2 years I will be able to leave all the drama.
2006-09-03 01:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by mommynokissies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in a position to get away from all the crap? You are responsible for what you teach...and don't teach your children. It is hard to try to teach them to be good people, when they see...daddy, grandpa, boyfriend, whoever doing things that you don't want them to do. That is a viscous cycle to break, but it can be done. Don't put up with bullsh*t when it comes to your children. Do whatever it takes to get them into a good environment, even if that means to move on. There is help out there. When all else fails, ask God. He loves his children ya know. He's just waiting for you to ask.
2006-09-03 01:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your kids dad that you don't need all the drama ..If you want drama you will go to a movie or watch a soap opera and you will not have your life being subjected to this....And tell your dad to find some place else to go...You don't need all that crap in your life...TAKE CHARGE !!! It is your home and your life
2006-09-03 02:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was in the same situation. She got rid of all the negative things and people, started over fresh, went to counseling, and now is much happier emotionally... Take care of you and your kids and the people that care about you most and treat you right.. things will work out :)
2006-09-03 01:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by KT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. It won't last forever. One of these days you'll graduate and make hundreds of thousand of dollars. Concentrate on your family and your school work. Do you have time for a boyfriend? Prioritize. It'll be ok.
2006-09-03 01:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you can YES, go back to school and FINISH! if only for yourself... DUMP the men, sounds like you have a problem with them.. SO just DUMP them for now... If need be let the fathers of your kids keep them until you are ready to take them back.. Or their families... You can visit--but have time to study and HELP YOU help yourself ALWAYS REMEMBER "LOVE your self FIRST and MOST" good words to live by
2006-09-03 01:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, say a quiet prayer and ask God to deal with all of the insanity around you. I will say one for you as well... No one should have to carry that much burden on their shoulders alone!
2006-09-03 01:12:12 · answer #10 · answered by Trisha E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the deadbeat dad. If the boyfriend is giving you trouble, get rid of him too.
2006-09-03 01:10:48 · answer #11 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋