2006-09-02 17:50:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because the priority is not their kids or they are just lazy. some parents think that it's normal because they were brought up the same way too. thinking watching tv with kids can be considered as quality time. spending time with their kids becomes a "thing to do". if they really want to, they will be at least talking to them everyday, listening to their stories, knowing what's new in school, friends etc. some parents think that just by spending an hour with their kids is enough, some parents misunderstood what quality time is all about. they don't realize that what is more important is to be there during hard times, being with their kids when learning new things, etc. on the other hand, kids need to understand that in order to survive, parents must work. life can be hectic for our parents but i still believe that if they really want to, they will find a way to spend time with their kids every week because time spent together is priceless and it also has something to do with how kids will grow as an individual. it's all about balancing life and time management.
2006-09-02 18:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by поцелуй 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no clear cut answer. For some they work harder and harder trying to make more money tinking that it will solve problems in their lives. The sad thing is, they don't realize that their kids wouldn't really care about living in a fabulous house if it meant they could have the security of having their parents be a part of their lives. For others, they are the product of either very young parents or unwed parents and they didn't have parents around so that is all they know. And there are others that think it's ok for the government, schools or anyone else to raise them. In fact they think it is the RESPONSIBILITY of others to raise their children. As someone else has already pointed out, it this type of thinking that leaves kids to their own devices and when things go wrong or their kids get in trouble, hurt or hurt someone else, these parents are the ones that first wonder what went wrong with their kids and then start looking for someone else to blame for it.
2006-09-02 18:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I remember the things I did and did not do, I regret not realizing how important TIME FOR YOUR CHILDREN IS ALWAYS! There are several reasons, several enviroments that children are subject to. Parents, family worked often two jobs, go to school, fix meals , do laundry, be there for husband, are all tired out and have nothing left to give from being drained! It is so great to see my children spend quality time with my grandchildren, helping with homework, involved with sports, set boundries, it has to start very young, Yes is Yes, No is NO, with the understanding there may be times due to circumstances it is subject to change, but consistence and planing, make a difference. There are parents who did not have a positive childhood, nor good influences, so they do not know how to bring children up, if they were not important and treated with respect, boundries, hugs, love, praise, and so much more, unless those parents learn to break the cycle the pattern follows one generation to the other. Sometimes parents are self - absorbed and do not see beyond their own needs, drugs, alcohol, gambling, and more! Then there are parents who no matter what find a way to change their experience, this brings a parent that knows the importance of TIME FOR CHILDREN AND POSITIVE INPUT! Circumstances emotional, physical, abuse, take a toll and as I stated, they are too drained to give, they have no more for their own survival as much as they try! How grea it would be if some would accept help and others would give help. It is later in life we often find what we could have done with wisdom and knowledge. This I find difficult, I ask self, DID I SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH MY CHILDREN, I think not, yet I made sure they learned about God and they needed to have a foundaton to grow and they all are reponsible. I have a son who passed away at 38yrs old, it was 2yrs Aug 30, 06! So I say spend quality time, helping your children know they are important to you and to theirselves, play games, go to sports and if there are families that need help , many others who have the means to share their good fortune should do so! Learn how to be a parent, go to parenting classes, being ashamed or embarrassed to do so , only shows that you the parents are concerned for your self and not your child! Boy, I sure made this long and I do hope it helps, there are more opinions I am sure! Good Luck in whatever you are doing. We all have to be accountable for our actions and decisions!
2006-09-02 18:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am not sure if my answer is the best, but as a single lady, this is simply my analogy:
Some parents don' t spend much time for their kids simply because they are reasonable.
1. Maybe they were used to, as a kid before, not having their parents to spend time with them, as a result they does the same thing with their own children. History repeats it self.
2. Might be, these parents have a hard time dealing with time management. That they most of the time think spending time with kids is less priority.
3. Parents tend to focus on earning more for the family's economic stability. They neglect spending time for their kids knowing that what they do are for the kids comfort later on. Not being with kids all for the love of the kids...hmmmm I love to be loved :D
4. Unprepared parents(single mom/dad) are afraid to spend time with their kids because they are not ready for parenthood.
5. Some parents don't value kids, they value money instead. They are not family oriented but dollar/monetarily oriented.
6. Some parents don't know who their kids were(special cases wherein parents and kids were separated because of accident or other incidents).
7. Parents are confident that kids spending time with nannies/grannies are fine and happy, so they don't really need to be around.
8. Some parents are sad because of what their kids had become(because of their negligence as parents) that they tend to avoid seeing their faults in their kids.
9. Some parents work miles/oceans away from their kids thus they can't spend more time with their kids.
Well I just hope I can spend more time with my kids if am given the chance to have a family of my own.
2006-09-02 18:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish that there was NO need to ask that.... But, I think that a lot of parents become too involved in their own business that they forget that their children are BEGGING for their attention. I wish that my oldest child had "wanted" to spend more time with me, instead of hating everyone and everything in her life to the point that she walked away from everyone! It is sad that so many parents can't even communicate with their kids, let alone spend any quality time together.
2006-09-02 18:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that they do not want to. I have known parents who both have to work and they manage to spend time with the kids and all enjoy the time together. I know families in which only one parent has to work (and they have a lot of excess money) who do not choose to spend time with the kids.
I think the old saying "you make time for what is important" is very true.
2006-09-02 17:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the situation. One of my girlfriends is a single parent and has one child (father died in prison and wasn't much before that)and she spends little time with her kid. In order to put a roof over his head, food in his mouth and clothing on his back she works 8-12 hours a day, in addition to attending class. Most of my friends are single parents including myself , do not spend as much time with out kids as we like because we are busy trying to take care of them. Just think if it weren't for parents like this you would be asking why are some parents lazy and don't take care of their kids.
2006-09-02 18:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by nene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in today's world both parents work 40+ hours a week by the time you get home from work and cook dinner, do homework,and gives baths its bed time there is not enough time to spend with your kids.
2006-09-02 18:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we live in basically a capitalist society. People are encouraged to be busier because that's what supports more buying. The more to satisfy people are with their lives the more they buy to fill in the gap. In a capitalist society were trying to look outside of ourselves for fulfillment so we buy things. But people have to be busier to buy more things. Just look at the number of hours people spend at work. It's increased substantially in the last 10 years. Even with couples working, there still isn't often enough money to make it given the standards we have given ourselves about what needs to happen. Playing computers, technology, school supplies, structured activities for the kids etc. all these costs push people away from their children, or at least have a tendency to. People lose their focus in the constant need to rush.
2006-09-02 18:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why parents don't. When you're a kid and you're parents don't spend time with you it seems like they just don't care. You have to care about something to make the time (kids, work, school, learning, whatever it may be) for it.
With kids it's not the intention that matters it's the action. Maybe that's something that needs to be kept in mind.
2006-09-02 18:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mariah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋