i have a problem. i like to b around girls and they always fall in love with me but i always turn them down cause i always find something wron with the relationship when i think about it. plz help
2006-09-02 17:44:55 · 17 answers · asked by stephen m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and also i always seem to attract the "bad" people" when i do and everyone but seem to know abouyt them untill its too late. i mean i have five or six girl i guess wanting to date me.
2006-09-02 17:53:40 · update #1
even when i do get to likeing them, my friends dont liek them either and i am loyal to my friends and i didnt listen to them once and it was all bad for 9 months. now i try to stayt away from thost people they dont like but the ones they do ill never have a chance with.
2006-09-02 18:04:04 · update #2
i am not really arrogant. i always want to knwo what they like am always interested in them. it dont matter who they are. im 17 btw. and really all i want is just a girl who is laid back ,funny, good looking would only be a bonus cause i see the inner beauty. i would also like to have a girl that is understanding, and want to explore.
2006-09-02 18:15:25 · update #3
I hear ya. I broke up with a girl friend cuz she was picking her nose during a movie, in the theater!
2006-09-02 18:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by beddazzled_devil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since nobody has broached this part of the subject yet, I certainly will...
Girls always fall in love with you?? Right. No hot flashes going on here, dude. Do you hang around the Bingo parlors to get all those retired women?? That sounds like the only situation that would be realistic based on what you just described.
Don't take this as a personal insult, and the former statement about the Bingo parlor was meant in jest, but seriously... you sound extremely arrogant and very self-centered, which is most likely your problem. Not to mention, you need to grow up and get some maturity.
Your setting your standards too high based on a unhealthy view of yourself. There's a official medical term for it called Projection. You need to step out of the fantasy and get grounded in reality if you ever want to have a meaningful relationship.
As for attracting the wrong type of women?? I don't think opposites attract in this case. They are probably seeing something that you are totally in the dark about.
Do some self-discovery, learn what you need versus what you want in a relationship, and realize that everyone has faults. Don't ignore obvious red flags but it sounds like you need to lower the bar a little and learn some humility.
Chances are, your no perfect 10 for any of your dates, either. This is a unhealthy habit and if you really want a real woman instead of just another date, you've got to make some personal efforts now while trying to understand and respect the female mind at the same time.
2006-09-03 01:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lady_Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a sport that you like or any activity that makes you feel good about yourself. You have low self-esteem most likely and enjoy 'turning down' girls cuz you're afraid of any relationship; anyone getting close and finding out about your real 'sadness' inside. Something has made you sad and hurt you deeply that you need to protect yourself as you do. Find out what it is and fix it now!
2006-09-03 00:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by bcbound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't beat myself up about it. There really may be something wrong with these girls. Dating doesn't mean that you will fall in love with the first person you meet. I mean you have to test drive a car before you buy it, you know what I mean. If all these girls are just falling in love maybe they are needy, clingy, and so in love with the idea of BEING IN LOVE, that they cancel themselves out.
2006-09-03 00:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahhh ur like my best guy friend lyle yeh im like his ''therapist'' so i think i can help lol
dont realy think about the bad stuff. since u have girls around u all the time u can piik wichever u want so decide wich 1 is the nicest prettiest and the 1 have most in common wit
2006-09-03 00:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think of the negative things be positive cause u will always find something wrong with someone no one is perfect. if ur having a good time and u like someone and they like u then just dont think of things wrong with her think of things u love about her!
2006-09-03 00:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be you are afraid of a commitment? Maybe you find soething wrong as an excuse to end things before it get too serious?
2006-09-03 00:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Maggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything humans do is imperfect, including love. All relationships take work,and things change as you both grow as people and as a couple.
2006-09-03 00:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a little too young for commitments ,but you will know when you are ready,unfortunately..us girls still are not allowed to actually be the ones to choose/(as in engaged,married) our mates..seems twisted to me.
2006-09-03 00:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about it try thinking of all the good things that are going on and not the bad.good weighs more than bad.Do you want to have a lasting relationship? something to ask yourself.
2006-09-03 00:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋