My husband and I drove 1 1/2 hours in teeming rain to attend a wedding. 1 month before the wedding I asked not to be seated with a certain someone, then asked again if my wish was granted last week. Well, I got there and lo and behold I was seated with the person I asked not to be seated with. I simply walked out. I gave my card with $200.00 in it and went to some shitty diner. I just couldn't think of myself spending 4 hours at a table sitting across the person I didn't want to be seated with and trying not to look their way all night long. Would you have done the same?
2006-09-02 17:27:34 · 39 answers · asked by Corina 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I probably would have done exactly the same thing. Good for you for not making a scene or keeping the present back out of spite.
2006-09-02 17:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why would you had to stay at the table for 4 hours with them you could of gotten up and walked around and talked to diffrent people or you could of switched seats so you could of turned your back to that person and not talked to them i think it might of been a little rude on your part to just leave after driving for that long just to go to a wedding and not stay a little while you have no idea why the couple put you next to that person they could of had a reason but i congratulate you on giving the newly couple there card even though you weren't happy about where you where sitting think about how you would feel they seen you come in and go and sit down knowing that you had to drive for as long as you did and then not stay because of where they had you sit which it could of been that they didn't decide who sat where but perhaps the other side of the family made that decion and they told you that it was taken care of but then they had to move it again due to some last minuet changes that happen in evey wedding
2006-09-02 17:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by christy b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I would have been mature and made the best of the situation. It was rude of you, and I wouldn't blame the bride for not talking to you for a while. Who are YOU to tell her where you will or won't be seated. Who made you the queen of the universe. Get over yourself, because by the sounds of it, I'm sure this person didn't want to be seated with you either. After the music starts, you could have gotten up and moved somewhere else. Grow up.
2006-09-02 18:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lissa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would have stayed there. Eat dinner, then just walk around visiting with other people as soon as you can get up after dinner.
This is why I really hate those sit-down dinners at weddings. They are ultra expensive, and you don't get enough to eat. When our son was married recently, we saved a lot of money by having a buffet dinner and just letting people sit where ever they want to sit. They were encouraged to bring their children, too. And we had a special little table with tiny chairs and coloring books. Weddings should be a family event, and people should sit where they want to sit for dinner.
2006-09-02 17:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have stayed, been miserable and probably wound up saying something I shouldn't and wishing later that I had left... But I do think you owe apologies of some sort. Perhaps a small token or gift with a handwritten card stating your apologies for any inconsideration you showed the happy couple and sincere wishes for their future together. Yeah, that's a tough one.
2006-09-03 02:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did the bride and groom say when you made that request? The right thing for them to do was to make every guest happy at their wedding and to maybe make a little seating change...no biggie. I probably would've done the same thing...why be miserable?!? I would take it up with the bride and groom...after you guys went all that way and gave a generous gift, too.
2006-09-02 17:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I think you were a little selfish. Not a lot but a little. I think you should have a least said "Congrats" to the bride and groom and then made your exit. Remember, a wedding is all about two people- the bride and the groom. You shouldn't have put your troubles before their joy.
P.S.- The fact that you are still thinking about the situation shows your a conscientious person.
2006-09-02 17:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Steve N 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not. That was someone's wedding that you agreed to go to--what gives you the right to tell them who you can or cannot sit next to? You should have sucked it up--because you were there for the people who were getting married, it wasn't about you. You wouldn't have been sitting next to them all night long--you could have dealt with it for a few hours. What you did was rude and disrespectful to the bride and groom--sorry but it was.
2006-09-02 18:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and no. you must have not cared how you made that person feel by leaving, making it obvious that you didn't want to deal with them. i would have just simply hung out somewhere else at the wedding and reception. and if you were with your husband, then that person should have not ruined your evening. if anything, you should have just spent all your time and attention on your husband, or if anything, the new bride and groom.
2006-09-02 20:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by ms_mashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would have moved my chair to another table and not give a rats-@ss what anyone thought about. Of course, I would never drive 1 1/2 hours in the rain to go to a stupid wedding!
I asume you are a grown woman and you have the right to do whatever you damn well want to, baby.
2006-09-02 17:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would have left and taken the card with the money with me. If they could/would not agree to what seems like a reasonable request to assure that you would enjoy being there, they DID NOT deserve a gift. You were much more forgiving and generous than I would have been. YOU SHOULD HAVE USED SOME OF THE $200 TO GO TO A NICE RESTAURANT!!!!
2006-09-02 17:35:06 · answer #11 · answered by conetoe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋