OK so if the people getting married have to pay for the wedding, should they even bother wasting all that money. I mean if you look at it literally, a wedding cost a lot of money, and pretty much is just to get people together so that they can have fun. Why do people get expensive weddings? I dont know if its really for them, or for the people that are gonna go and so that the guest can enjoy themselves. I personally think that big wedding are unecessary unless youve got alot of $$$. But for normal people I dont know. What do you think about wedding, is it good to spend all that $$$ for a party, or use that money for a cool get away, or a house? I know of alot of people that save up for years so that they can get married, and by married I mean have like a cool reception and church. Is it worth it to spend thousands of dollars on a party?
2006-09-02 17:27:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, traditionally the brides parents paid. Now often both sets of parents put money in to it as well as the couple, other couples pay for the whole thing themselves. It depends how much say you want in your wedding and whether or not you are willing to compromise. In my opinion if parents put in money, they will expect a little bit of a say in what happens and you may have to compromise more (like inviting great aunt mavis,). If you pay for it yourselves you do it your way. To me, a wedding isn't about how many people attend, how many courses the meal has at the reception, how many bridesmaids you have, how many layers your cake has, how ornate your flowers are, being one better than cousin karen's wedding, or getting into extreme debt over. It can be done on a budget and still be a special day that you will remember for the rest of your life.It's a traditional acknowledgement to people you care about of the love and committment you have for each other and plan to have together always.
2006-09-02 22:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to tradition it is the bride's parents who are supposed to pay for a wedding.. This day and age it simply doesn't work that way. My parents are divorced and I do not speak to my father. My mom I am sure would pay for a nice wedding if she could, but she spent all those years busting her butt as a single mother and simply doesn't have that kind of money. We are going to save up and have a very small modest wedding and get a bank loan to pay for it ourselves.. 50 guests tops and for the reception we are going to have pretty much a large BBQ with close friends and family. My dress is only 100 bucks and we are getting a jewelry store credit card for the rings..
I don't think it makes sense to put all that money into one day when it's the fact that you are getting married that counts.. Not the bill of the wedding.
2006-09-03 04:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer the question in the title, usually it depends on age. The younger the people getting married the more the parents pay. The older the more they pay themselves.
The point of having a wedding is really just to make your marriage concrete in the minds of all your friends, family etc.
A wedding in a church is really not needed though. Just have a big party, hell make it a BBQ. As long as everyone you care about is there and everyone has fun, you can't go wrong.
2006-09-03 00:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
These days, most men and women are out working on their own and making money, so they pay for their own wedding. Sometimes parents help out some. You have to decide for yourself what kind of wedding you want and how much you are willing to spend. I see a wedding as a community celebration, with extended family and friends there to help celebrate this momentous and special occasion with the married couple. The kind of wedding I chose was very traditional and, yes, was really more than we could afford - but it was worth it for larger, familial reasons. In ways, I would have been just as satisfied with elopement, but my husband wouldn't do that, because he too is a traditionalist. Always remember that it's the marriage which is important, not only the wedding. So you have to claim your own path...
2006-09-03 05:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I worked my behind off for a year to pay for my daughters wedding. Her dad came up with 4000 but I payed for everything else, probably about 13000. This is her first (and last) marriage, she's a great kid, so is my now son in law. I wanted to do it for them. BTW, I simply wrote checks and gave an opinion if I was asked. I did not decide anything about the wedding. We had no arguments and had a complete blast. The pictures are wonderful and the kids are very appreciative.
2006-09-03 00:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly depends on what you and your mate believe a wedding should be. Everyone has their own idea of what a wedding is and to some it is important to put all that money into it. If they don't, they feel robbed and cheated which casts a horrible overtone to the whole union. If you don't believe it is worth it, find someone who shares your whole view of the event and work it out so you get what you both believe is most important.
2006-09-03 09:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The couple is responsible for all the expenses unless other family members volunteer to help.
The expensive, celebrity style weddings you are referring to are only thrown by people with that high of an income, and those foolish enough to go into debt looking like they have that sort of money to spend. Clever marketing can convince people to do some very bizarre things with their money.
2006-09-03 01:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of the bride pays for the wedding; that's etiquette. Now if he truly can't afford to, then many couples pay for their own. It is very expensive and sometimes it's not worth it to spend that money on what your calling a party. You can feel just as married with a small affair. It's entirely up to the two of you..........
2006-09-03 00:33:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married 3 times. The first was on my parents. It is traditional for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding and reception. The second, I was doing well financially, so I paid for the whole thing myself. The third, and current, we found no need for such crap and went to the nearest Justice of the Peace, which was in South Carolina. It worked out beautifully for us; we have been married 16 years now.
2006-09-03 00:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Old school is the bride's parents pay...but in this day and age I think everybody chips in somehow or another.I suggest a low key wedding--its nice to have a big wedding but who really wants teh headache? save your money for a down payment on a house or furniture.
2006-09-03 00:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋