How do i deal with this pain? Loss......?

Question

Today my dog was put down. I was told it would be a quick in and out trip to see how her leg was injured so i stayed home to keep our other dog company. While they were walking out the door my mom said "We'll all be back in a few.". but they didnt all come back. something was wrong with her nervous system and she had to be put down. my whole family was there so at least they got some closure but i ws denied even the oppritunity to say goodbye. this wasnt the first dog ive lost but why does it hurt this much now? what was different about this dog that i dont even want to leave my room because of all of the reminders of her. her ball in the yard he bowl that shell never eat from again. the same couch where she always slept. please someone help me. im begging you. how can i deal with this? i always thought movies dramatized this heartache thng and passed it off as the losers way out but now i just wan it to end. i keep wishing ill wake up but the harde i try the more real her loss is

Answer 1

Someone in heaven really needed your puppy! Maybe a small child or an elderly man. I must deal with loss on a daily basis. The pain is still there but it helps me to think how much happier they are- free spirits! You need to go talk with your parents and let them know how bad you feel. Then watch a sad movie and cry for your loss. Forgive yourself for not being perfect and remember there are millions of unwanted and neglected animals who would love to have a home with you!

Answer 2

Sounds like your dog meant a lot to you. It's wonderful that you're the type of person who can feel so much for a pet. It's very, very sad that's she's gone, but getting to "say goodbye" doesn't help ease the pain, trust me on that. The best thing you can do is remember the good times you had with her. Talk to people about her, feel in your heart the love you shared with her.

Don't think of her as "gone". You'll meet up again one day. Here's a poem that a lot of dog rescuers keep a copy of, to help ease the loss of a loved pet.

By the edge of a woods, at the foot of a hill,
Is a lush, green meadow where time stands still.
Where the friends of man and woman do run,
When their time on earth is over and done.

For here, between this world and the next,
Is a place where each beloved creature finds rest.
On this golden land, they wait and they play,
Till the Rainbow Bridge they cross over one day.

No more do they suffer, in pain or in sadness,
For here they are whole, their lives filled with gladness.
Their limbs are restored, their health renewed,
Their bodies have healed, with strength imbued.

They romp through the grass, without even a care,
Until one day they start, and sniff at the air.
All ears prick forward, eyes dart front and back,
Then all of a sudden, one breaks from the pack.

For just at that instant, their eyes have met;
Together again, both person and pet.
So they run to each other, these friends from long past,
The time of their parting is over at last.

The sadness they felt while they were apart,
Has turned into joy once more in each heart.
They embrace with a love that will last forever,
And then, side-by-side, they cross over… together.

Answer 3

Oh man, I'm so sorry for your loss. Just go with the flow.

In growing up, we've always had dogs and they all meant something different and they were all appreciated and loved.

I think with your dog, maybe this one was most painful to lose because you probably spent more time with her or maybe she favored you over anyone else. Cry if you want to--it's OK to do that. That's a part of the healing process. Don't be upset for not being there when she passed. That's a heart wrenching experience in and of itself. Save her things if you want to, they'll help you remember her the way she was. As long as you don't forget her and remember her with fondness, she will live forever in your heart and mind.

Answer 4

I wish I knew what to say to make your pain a bit lighter! But I don't. Lately I find myself thinking of my dog and dreading the day I may be faced with that decision. Today my b/f took my dog with him to check on the swimmimg pool. I heard a dog barking and thought,"that sure sounds like Gizmo" The dog barked again so I go to the door and (IT WAS GIZMO)!!! I came unglued! I yelled at my boyfriend. I got him when he was 5 weeks old and he wieghed close to 2 1/2 pounds. he wieghs almost 9 lbs now and is almost 3 yrs old A little Shih-Tzu. The fear I feel when I can't find him is the exact feeling I had when my kids were small and would hide and I couldn't find them.When we loose someone we love so dearly it takes time to heal. You'll never forget her but in time you'll think of her and they will be fond memories. In a few weeks from now maybe you should consider getting a new puppy! I think your dog would want you to be able to love another dog as you loved her. And try to keep in mind, dogs age faster than humans and if they have problems with their joints etc. there aren't medicines available for animals like there is for humans. And you surely wouldn't want her to have suffered from all the pain. Best wishes Hon

Answer 5

I know you're feeling really bad because you weren't there with her and it's tough to get over. (I still have guilt feelings over a cat that I lost 3 yrs ago because I wish I had handled some things differently.) But you need to realize or focus on the fact that her quality of life would have been improvised if they didn't do what they had to do. You'll be OK. If you're like me, you will go to any length for a long time not allowing yourself to think about it much. Things happen the way they do for a reason even tho we don't understand what that reason may be. (Maybe someday you will)

Answer 6

The only way I dealth with losing my dog that I didn't get to say goodbye to, was by loving another new dog totally and completely. My new dog, doesn't replace the other one, but when he came here I decided he wasn't as good as my other one... That was a mistake, and my new dog almost died... he had to have surgery, and when he made it through that surgery I promised god that I would make it up to my new dog and love him every day from now on.
My new dog is 5 now, and while the other one is in my heart, the new one plays with the toys.
I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear of your loss ... I to have been there and it is not fun ..you feel like that pain just wont go away ....Please talk with others about what your feeling ....
Pet Loss Support
Offering a "cybershoulder" for pet lovers grieving over the
death of a pet, a dying pet, sick pet, or lost pet
http://www.lightning-strike.com/index.htm

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HER JOURNEY'S JUST BEGUN
by Ellen Brenneman

Don't think of her as gone away -
her journey's just begun,
life holds so many facets -
this earth is only one.

Just think of her as resting
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years.

Think how she must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away.

And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost -
And she was loved so much.

Answer 8

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. I know that hurts. Maybe you could try listening to some music and writing down your thoughts. I know this won't make the pain go away, but I think it would make it feel better. Take care of yourself and time will heal you.

Answer 9

Animals give us something special in our lives . their love is unconditional, they hold no judgment's & they love us for who we are. I've gone through the same as you & I still miss my pet but I was given this poem :

Four Legged Angels:

four legged angels
are had picked by god
to give us the love that we need

they walk by our side
until we are strong
and help their gold wings to be freed

a bond forged of love
between human and pet
is not of the nature
we ever forget

so god gives them wings
they hide them well
year after year
you never could tell

and he gives us the faith
to believe what is true-
that he gave the strength
to be their angels too......

sorry about your friend

Answer 10

I know it hurts, trust me, I lost my dog not too long ago. It hurts, a lot. But, just keep in mind that the saying "time heals all wounds" is right. The pain will begin to go in time. It won't go away completely, but time will help.