I'm almost 40. I've been married, divorced, had kids. I'm done. No more. It's all about me, no one else.
2006-09-02 17:17:05 · 20 answers · asked by 2 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
don't have kids anymore. Ex took them across country and is getting remarried.
2006-09-02 17:23:08 · update #1
I'll work on making my avatar looking more my age, but I didn't see a selection for wrinkles. Thanks for your input ;-)
2006-09-03 15:31:47 · update #2
It is your choise,why can't this be normal?You are probaply hurt by your past relationships or you are just bored! I suggest not to puss yourself having a relationship,someday you maybe feel that you need one.If not,what is your problem?You have your family already!Beside that do what makes you feel ok and happy,so if you don't want a relationship, it's ok!
2006-09-02 17:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by andelska 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are almost 40, why do you feel you must tell anyone anything. You feel the way you do. I have a feeling you will change your tune in a few years but you don't owe anyone an explanation.
I think the bigger question is if you are almost 40 why is your avatar a 17 year old boy with green hair?
2006-09-03 00:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by youngliver2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can only take so much pain. I understand what "enough is enough" means. There's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling right now and even if you feel that way forever more--you, above all others know what is best for you. But you never know, one of these days in the near or distant future, you may not look for it, but you will find love again.
2006-09-03 00:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear!
You must be either kidding or disappointed by something!
Come on! Cheer up! You are starting your life, if you feel like starting it again! If you want to get deep in your misery, this is possible again!
BUT: you are young and should look to life straight in the eye! Do not live pessimistically, you have much more years to live than you have lived as yet! (Of course this if you avoid stress, don't smoke, and hunt happiness every moment!)
2006-09-03 04:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's ok to me. It seems you have quite a life story and have just gotten to the point where you have had enough. Maybe possibly someday you'll feel differently, but that is ok you feel that way now. You are being honest with yourself and to other, and that's fine.
Just keep a little bit of hope in your heart though, don't give up completely. You never know.
2006-09-03 00:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jacinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for feeling this. You have lost some trust. Sometimes it just takes time to build it back. Answers (ie.. maybe someone to love) usually comes when people are not looking anyhow. I think you attitude is okay. Just don't let it effect the rest of you life and your other family and friend relationships.
2006-09-03 01:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"for the rest of my life"
For the rest of your life?
How can you know that-why not take it one day at a time.
Think about it-weren't there things you believed twenty years ago that you might have thought would be for the rest of your life and have now shifted?
If it is how you feel NOW, then YES, by all means be honest and let people know. Being honest is the kindest thing you can do. But life is unpredictable-so, "rest of my life" is uncertain.
2006-09-03 00:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might need to convince them with some sort of explaination if you are in single bars when you say it.
Otherwise, you could just be feeling content with your life and want to try new things.
If you get bored catering to yourself, you might try getting involved with a charity of some sort....even if it's one you create out of a need you see around you. Anything is better than thinking about yourself all the time.
2006-09-03 00:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by so what do you think? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's uncommon for a person to not want any relationships of any kind for the rest of their life...
However, I don't think I am qualified to tell you whether or not it is "normal" or "abnormal".
As for "it's all about me, no one else", well, it sure seems like a lot of people live that way already. Whether they realize that or not is another thing...
Just my two cents :)
2006-09-03 00:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Gryphon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 'normal' is a setting on a washing machine, not a label for human beings.
Second, you are fine as you are. Obviously, not having 'relationships' at the moment is working for you, so no need to worry.
2006-09-03 00:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋