Am i too concerned with what other people think of me? it seems as though whenever my gf is mentioned everyone wants me to break up with her. I feel as though its coming between me and her, as i act differently around her when there are others. anything i can do as many of my friends don't like her? hanging out w/o friends is not a complete solution.
2006-09-02 17:14:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say two things: why are your friends asking you to break up with her? Good reasons? Bad reasons? After you resolve that issue, I think that you might need to take a step back and ask yourself why you are allowing others to influence you so deeply as to change your behaviour. I'd want my bf to go to bat for me and defend me. However, the other side is, why are they telling you this? My best friend didn't listen to anyone, ended up marrying a total loser; divorced him 7 months later; their baby wasn't even born yet and it's a mess. If only she had listened......they are trying to tell you something...only you know what it is.
2006-09-02 17:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by bcbound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are too concerned what others think of you if I were you I wouldn't let anyone talk about her because of them not liking your gf doesn't mean you have to stay away from them but put your foot down with them tell them you love her and your not breaking up with her and that if they don't like it then they wasn't your friend in the first place for someone to diss you because of a gf is very wrong and their not being a very good friend to you and nothing and I mean nothing is worth losing your gf if you love her nothing is worth losing her and I wouldn't let ANYONE come between if noone can accept her I would say fine then be that way it's not what they think counts what counts is what you think and how you feel if she makes you happy and you love her great don't let anyone come between you guys could lead to breaking your relationship up and I wouldn't let them do it just tell them the way it is
2006-09-03 00:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are too concerned.
1. Tell them to back off.
Until they all have girlfriends of their own they are going to rag on you.
2. Make sure you make time for your friends. Girlfriends may come and go but you may have some of these buddies, hopefully to adulthood.
Most people will neglect their friends for a little while when they've got a relationship going on. But, true friends will always give you a little room.
2006-09-03 00:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by lajefa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it can be hard when others dont aprove of your realationship with someone. and with you letting it bother you so much what other's think are you incicure with yourself at all, that was just a ? i wasnt trying to aply or be roude. i just know that if a person may be incicure they do let things like that bither them. but what i have to say is do you love her? and how much of the freinds not liking her effect you. oyu need to take that into concideration on all aspectes. and has she talked to you about what she thinks of the situation. if your freinds are real ones they should back off and let you be happy. ya them giving you advice is ok but not to the point were they tell you to brake up with her or say meen ,hurtfull things. you need to just look in your heart and it will tell you what to do. and if it is ment to be it will be if it isnt it wont. but good luck, and wish you the best and hope i helped a little bit..
2006-09-03 00:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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If you really like this girl just be your self. If those other people are your friends and they're telling you how to act, then they are not your friends.
2006-09-03 00:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by :DD dls kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it's your life no body elses. Do what you feel, if you're in high school. Think about it 85% of the people you knew in high school you will never see again.
-ash
2006-09-03 00:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by ash223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might reconsider breaking up if that many people feels breaking up is the best. i know most of the time they are right if that many people says the same way.
2006-09-03 00:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by erk m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friends never liked my boy friend. especially because he always wanted to get it on with me. but luckily i always said no. whenever he called when i was with my girlies, they were always like 'oh just dump him already! hes really not your type!' when i got off the phone with him. i really thought about him one night and thought about why they would say that and i realised it then, too- he just WASNT for me.
so think about it. is she really for you?
i hope this helps!
2006-09-03 00:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by x3perri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends opinions should not make you take action but at times our friends can point out somethings that we are to close to see so investigate it yourself and make dicisions based on fact good luck!!!!!!!
2006-09-03 00:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by garry d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋