what would you do?

Question

if you found out your daughter lost her viriginty at 13? i did and i dont think my mom knows im 18 now..and i dont care if shes knows. Im just wondering what would you do. my mom never talked ot me about sex or wating or any of that..im just wondering your opinons on this subject.

i was with this guy for liek 6 months before this happened and then for liek 3 years off and on after..we are still very good friends..he was my first love

no this is not the only guy i have been with..i asked this somewere else and some guy said only if iwas the only guy i had been with..and hes not..but he was the 1st!

Answer 1

Oh man -- why do you want to tell her? If you don't have the type of relationship where you talk about sex, I doubt that now (at age 18) is the time to start. I don't think she wants to know, regardless of your age.

Do you have any issues about having sex at 13? Do you feel like you need someone to talk to about it? I suggest looking into a counselor through your school or Planned Parenthood. Maybe you have a girlfriend who talks very openly about sex with her mother?

Answer 2

I don't know how I would react. I have always had a very open relationship with my daughter. I started talking to her about sex, age appropriately from the time she was 7 or 8. She came to me for birth control this year because she was considering having sex with her boyfriend and told me after they did have sex. I can't comprehend not having that kind of relationship with my kids.
I guess if she were 18 when she told me, I would mostly want to understand why she had sex so young and why she didn't feel she could discuss it with me.

Answer 3

If my daughter lost her virginity at 13, I would be very upset. If she, like you, told me when se was 18, There would be nothing I could do about it now, but would be very hurt and upset that she didn't come to me about having sex. My daughter is only 7, but we are very open to her about everything. Of course we haven't had the talk yet, and don't plan on it for awhile, but when the time comes, we will be very open to her and tell her all about what she wants to know. I think that's the problem now a days, not to judge you or your mother, is that parents are less open with their children. So these kids want to know about things like sex, and since their parents are not open with these discussions, these kids go out and find out about it in the wrong ways. By trying it for themselves. Sometimes the parents only find out that their kids had sex because they find out that their child is pregnant. I think parents need to be as open as possible with their children so they don't make mistakes.

Answer 4

Well...that would depend on how old she was when I found out.If she was still a minor I would have some serious heart to heart talks with her. But, if she was already 18 when I found out....all It would do is just make me heart sick, and I'd wish I had not found out.

Answer 5

There is no need to tell your mom for it may just make her feel bad. But I would sure save yourself from here on out. It's not worth it just for quick pleasure, it should be saved for Marriage. Your emotions will thank you if you wait.

Answer 6

first of all, i would have explain to my daughter the pro's and cons from losing virginity in the first place.

if i was in your shoes, i'll say just tell her and she'll be very upset, but there is nothing else she can do to put it back. that is life.

take care now.

Answer 7

it depends on if i found out while she was near that age if so i would talk to her about birth control, STD's and values. if she was much older we would discuss how that decision had affected her life and what her current opinions were and go from there.

Answer 8

I'd tell her she has no one to blame but herself for not telling u anything about that subject