How do two busy people in a relationship make it work?

Question

My boyfriend and I are both in our 20's and are both in college and working as well. We are in a totally great mutally-loving relationship and I think he is The One. When we started dating he was working and I was only going to college so we had more time for each other. A couple weeks ago he started back to school and I am starting an internship. Obviously we have less time for each other now, and we both agreed that we were commited to making our relationship work with our crazy schedules. My question is this- how do busy couples make the most of their time and keep the relationship healthy? Any personal experiances would be appreciated as well. Thanks!

Answer 1

My boyfriend and I are also a very busy couple, and I also speak with a lot of Truck Divers wives-very very limited couple time there.

The number one key to this working is something that it sounds like you both already have; committment and communication. As long as you both are committed to each other, and you keep the communication lines open, you will do fine! Afterall, you both are only going back to school for some time, it will not be for-ever, and it is for the betterment of both of your lives together. Just stay focused on the outcome of all of this and you will be happier with the present circumstances.

Here are some other things you all can do:

1. Write letters to each other every now and then
2. Make sure you email and speak to each other on the phone at least once a day.
3. Take the little time you have together and make it worth while. Focus only on each other and plan ahead so you can go out on dates from time to time
4. Wait to argue!! Don't bring up a sore subject when you have limited time. IT is much better to wait untill you both have a longer stretch of time to bring up a pet-peeve or problem you have with one another. This way, you have time to show affection and be together (which is already limited) and then still bring up your topic and have time to discuss and leave on good terms.
5. Plan days off together. Even 1 day off together can work wonders-even if you do nothing more than relax in bed. Going to work and college is stressful for anyone, but throwing a relationship in the mix can be bring on extra stress. Just having peacful together time can tighten your relationship, plus give you a break from your everyday life.

Answer 2

Hello Matt in distress. Obviously your expectations of yourself are too high and you really need to step back and take stock. There is no reason is there that you cannot keep in touch with your girl friend by text and email during the week It will be hard on you both but I'm sure you GF will understand that your studies are very important to your future. Talk to her and see how she feels about the present arrangements. And play it by ear. And no you are not putting undue stress on her as she has her studies too and if she is honest know that the distance makes it difficult to see her more often. Try and look at it this way if you lived nearer one another would you see each other every night if you are both studying in earnest. Of course not so enjoy your relationships status quo. All the best with your studies and your girl friend.

Answer 3

You have to remember that we should live to live, not live to work... A relationship takes time to start, time to build and time to keep... If two folks are so busy that they can't find time for each other, than maybe their priorities need to be looked at... Make a date with each other... Take time each day to make a phone call where there are NO distractions... Don't forget to hug often... Leave each other love notes... Communication of any kind is the key here...

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Dear, my hubby and I work different shifts so we see one another about an hour (at the most ) a day.......We spend our little time talking and laughing and enjoying each other's company....We usually have weekends (at least one day, anyway) and we go do some fun things with our little girl.......Everything is GREAT between us and will be between the two of you.......Take care, dear, and keep up the good work.....

Answer 6

You must cherrish the time you spend with each other, if you spend any of that time complaining, then that's the last thing someone will remember, so you must not talk about all the crap, but remember what time it is...

You need to plan dates with each other, and make time for sex.
You have to give from the heart .

Answer 7

been married 12 yrs to my Soul Mate and I'm military, deployed ALOT and my wifey is a Flight Attendant Supervisor and is on flights alot and we have an incredible marriage. Honestly you gotta really want it in yo heart to make it work to start. One thang dat I love is my Wifey writes me Lil Notes and puts them In my shoes, socks, pockets food boxes, anything she can imagine to put one in, they let me know she misses me loves me and is thinking about me. Its nice cuz I can be gone for a month and randomly put my hand into one of my uniforms and theres a note from here our the blue. Puts a huge smile on my face. whether you're in the same city or far away send letters, decorate the outside so it sticks out, I can always reconize my mail in IRAQ lol. Never hold a grudge to only use it when your in physical contact, use that time to not only "SHOW YO LOVE" but to HELP YO LOVE GROW. make sure that you SHOW love, actions speak louder than words. call yo partner out da blue when they least expect it to just say "I just called cuz u were on my mind and I wanted to tell U hi, I miss you and I love you more than Life itself, Thank you for completing me" then tell them that's all you wanted to say and say goodbye andhang up, It will show love, but use yo own words cuz those r words for my wifey to hear and u want yo partner to hear somethin from yo heart. Best of luck and if it's in yo heart n soul it'll work

Answer 8

JUST LIKE EVERY THING IN LIFE YOU HAVE TO FIND TIME
IN YOUR BUSY SCHEDULES TO MAKE TIME FOR EACH OTHER SO THAT CAN WORK. BUT THE FACT THAT YOU
ARE COMMITTED TO THIS IS THE FIRST HURDLE THAT
YOU HAVE ACHIEVED. . GOOD LUCK. IT SOUND LIKE
YOU WILL MAKE IT WORK.

Answer 9

You have to take out time to be with each other. Purposely set apart some opportunities to see each other. Schedule it.

Answer 10

You need to keep the faith read some relationship tips on this site