What am I doing wrong?

Question

I have prayed nightly, wrote journal every night, read the book "Every Man's Battle", been to counseling and I still struggle with lust problem. I am extremely frustrated and depressed about the thought that this might be a lifelong battle.
Why did God give me this unendurable obstacle to go through in the first place? Why is He not intervening in my life to free or at least mitigate my pains from this problem?
Sorry to bother u guys again but I am struggling mightily. Any support or insight would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Get in touch with Quran. it will definitley solve your problem
It is all devil Paul who invented Jesus worship to kill the message of Jesus. When Paul orchesterated a drama of repentance, Barnabas, the clsoest deciple of Jesus (PBUH) got tricked and he paved the way for Paul's acceptance. Soon however Barnabas realized his mistake and regretted for his remaining life over this honest mistake. The maternal uncles of Jesus i.e. James also denocunced Paul who was creating Jesus worship in order to kill the message of Jesus. Paul invented the lie that Jesus paid for the sins of all. To begin with Jesus was not crucified. Teh person who was crucified was his traitor desiple who was made look alike Jesus and hence he acted very funnyon the way and on the cross. And thsi expalins how Jesus appeared on 3rd day. TheGospel of Baranbas which was banned by devil Paul gives a lotof details about this but since Church is by large follwoing Paul calls it a fabrication howeverd one can still see the name of Gospel of Barnabas among those books which were totally banned as they were exposing the lies of devil Paul! Devil Paul opend the flood gate of people into his new religion and permitted idolatry. and hence we see Roman Cahtolic and statues of Mary etc. Those followers of Jesus who did not believe in the lies of rabid devil Paul were called Unitarian Christians and other who fell pray to Paul were called trinitarion chirstians. Some of the former later accepted Islam e.g. Bosnian Muslims when they read Quran realizing that Muhammad (PBUH ) was the person who was foretold by Jesus who was about to come. The other Unitarian Christians were killed (Ref: Blood on the Cross by Thompson)
Source(s):

Quran
The Gospel of Barnabas
The Bible, the Quran and Scinece by Muarice Buccaile
History of Arabs by Philip K. Hitti

Answer 2

Christians – both men and women – have struggled with it for generations. Many have measured their or others’ spirituality on the basis of their freedom from lust. Yet for all the interest focused on lust it would seem that we ought to be far more clear about the problem and its solution. What exactly is lust, why is it so hard to change, and how can we deal with its power to shape our lives?

Why do we battle so often with its forces? And why do those battles yield so little fruit and victory? In other words, why is lust so hard to change?
Changing it not only requires giving up something that has worked, to some degree, to fill our empty hearts, but it also necessitates embracing a God who invites us to experience what we deeply despise – brokenness, poverty, weakness, and dependency. In the face of a walk through the valley of the shadow of death, an addiction to pornography, a fifth child, or saying no to a friend seems like a lark in the park.

Even if the lust is destructive and life threatening it may be preferable to a God who calls us to love those who harm us and serve those who in fact are below us. True worship is too costly; creature worship is at first, at least less demanding.
Apporach to lust is found in an adaptation of the Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Step recovery process. This approach sees lust as a symptom of deeper hurt. The cure is to admit that everyone is addicted. Once denial is removed then the shame of feeling deficient can be eliminated and the real roots of the problem – loneliness, insecurity, and past trauma – can be healed and the addiction controlled.
Addictive lust feeds on the darkness of denial. “I’m not an alcoholic. I just drink to sooth my nerves – or to feel more relaxed.” “I may masturbate a lot, but doesn’t everyone at one time or another?” “I know I work too late, but it’s only until I get more settled in my job.” Deception is the ally of lust in that it allows us to serve both mammon and God and make it look as if all is well.
We must repent of the deeper issues that are feeding our lust. But one cannot deeply repent of what is unknown. We need to pray that God will reveal the secret things of our hearts (Psalm 18:9).

I pray that God will reveal the secret thing in your heart that causes you to suffer this addiction. May He give you the knowledge required to overcome this addiciton, and the stamina to stay free from it. In Jesus name I pray. Amen

Answer 3

Today, divine teaching gives us wisdom to shun obscene, immoral, and violent entertainment. “Whatever things are chaste, whatever things are lovable, whatever things are well spoken of, whatever virtue there is . . . , continue considering these things,” exhorts the Bible. (Philippians 4:8)

Even Bible writers took note of the fact that certain men and women were physically attractive. (Compare 1 Samuel 9:2; Esther 2:7.) Jesus, therefore, did not condemn someone simply for noticing that a woman is attractive. But he did exhort Christians not to ‘keep on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her.’ (Matthew 5:28) In a similar way, you cannot allow yourself to be driven by blind passion. At 1 Thessalonians 4:4, 5 we are told: “Each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.”—New International Version.

We must lead our bodies about like a slave and control ourselves (1 Corinthians 9:27; Gal 5:23). God does not give us obstacles.(Jas 1:13, 14) Obstacles are a result of our human imperfection and this sinful world we live in that is under Satan's control. (Romans 5:12; 1 John 5:19, 20).

The Bible assures us that God will soon act to relieve mankind’s suffering. Notice what benefits God will bring to mankind. (Psalm 37:10, 11).

Answer 4

It probably won't be a lifelong battle if you continue to make good choices, now. I'm sure I cannot give you any better guidance than your counselor. It is my belief that when we pray, we may or may not get deliverance from our problems, but we can certainly get grace. God might not change your sex drive, but you can pray that he will block opportunities for you to act on it. You probably have a high energy level and if that is the case, expend your energy, much, during the day by finding a challenging job or hobby. Stay away from "triggers" and when you do come across a trigger, envision telling your mother, your pastor, or Jesus.

Answer 5

hay man i have the same problem just keep praying about it but something i have found really helps as soon as the feeling hits just do 20 push ups or something and the blood flow is redirected. also try and avoid late night tv and just generally flee from lust, if necessary actually run from it. don't worry about it every one struggles with it.

try forming an accountability group where you and some of your mates talk and try and get through it because if you know you will have to tell some one about it in a few days it is a great incentive to not go though with it. that has really helped me

Answer 6

You are not doing anything wrong. Do not despair, you are in very good company. Read what St. Paul said about his similar situation:

[2 Cor 12:6] Although if I should wish to boast, I would not be foolish, for I would be telling the truth. But I refrain, so that no one may think more of me than what he sees in me or hears from me
[2 Cor 12:7] because of the abundance of the revelations. Therefore, that I might not become too elated, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, an angel of Satan, to beat me, to keep me from being too elated.
[2 Cor 12:8] Three times I begged the Lord about this, that it might leave me,
[2 Cor 12:9] but he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness." I will rather boast most gladly of my weaknesses, in order that the power of Christ may dwell with me.
[2 Cor 12:10] Therefore, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and constraints, for the sake of Christ; for when I am weak, then I am strong.

Some theologians have suggested that his "thorn" may have been sexual desire among other possible torments, but Jesus' grace was enough to help him overcome temptation. Pray for more grace, I will also pray for you.

Answer 7

First you must ask for forgiveness and mean it with all you being and heart. Second, you must ask God to come into your heart and life. Third, you must continue to pray at all times. Talk to Him as if He is a person you are talking to. Find a church to go to for support and to hear the Word and listen. Read your Bible daily and never forget He will always be by your side and never ever let the enemy, (satan), tell you that He does not love you. I am not saying it will be easy, but with His love and strength and believing in that,(Faith), He will be with you and lead you where you need to go. I have been through a lot and He has been with me through it all. From losing custody of my children, to having no place to live, be patient and be still, He will be there for you. I now have custody of my children and have a wonderful husband and life. I am not saying that things are perfect, by no means, but with His guidance, Word and the support family I have in my church, I am able to live each day giving him thanks for everything and everyday, He gives me something to be thankful for.

Answer 8

Some questions to ask yourself:
1. Have you considered your sin nature or "the old man" dead, or is he merely wounded?
2. What triggers these feelings? Books, magazines, movies, tv, the Internet? What have you done to remove these triggers from your life?
3. Do you "flee immorality" or just kinda walk away?
4. When you find yourself in the beginning stages of this sin, do entertain those thoughts or do you renounce them, look away, and fill your mind with thoughts of God or Scripture?
5. Do you hate this sin? I mean really hate it?

All these are tough questions that only you can answer. No sin has befallen man that is not common to all men. We all have struggled with it, and still do. You are not alone in this. But it takes hard medicine to rid yourself of it. Consider yourself dead to this sin, renounce it, repent of it. If there is anything in your home that brings this sin on, remove it. Recognize the triggers that bring on these feelings. When you encounter one of these triggers, and get the feelings again, renounce them in Jesus' name, look away, run away, walk the other way, anything, just get out of there. Memorize Scripture, then you can replace those thoughts with Godly thoughts. Slowly, but surely, that sin will fade away as you align yourself more with God and His will. Keep fighting the good fight, don't give up or give in. We, as the brethren, are with you in this fight.

Answer 9

You don't need God, you need a girlfriend. A serious one who will help you to develop social skills. You probably view all the women you see as sexual objects because you do not take the time to talk to them. Praying is fine if you strongly believe in religion, but you must find a realistic and tangible way to deal with the problem.

Answer 10

Hi, Im sorry this was a little lengthy ,when I talk I usually really talk, but I really hope what I had to say helped you in some way. The flesh is tough but God is tougher. Don't worry,with God as your strength you can accomplish some of the most difficult task.

you can change the way you think even if you are trapped by pornography, fantasy, or other sexual behaviors. you can reprogram your mind. This will take time and you will most likely spend the rest of your life renewing your mind and developing your character. we will never be perfect in our understanding on this earth, nor will our character be perfect like christ's. Christian growth can only take place when we are free in christ. when we aren't free in christ we go from book to book,from pastor to pastor, and from counsler to counsler, but nothing ever seems to work. Think of a poluted mind as a 44-oz. cup filled to the top with coke. sitting beside the coke is a huge bowl of crystal clear ice, which represents the word of God. your goal is to purify the contents of that cup by adding cubes of ice to it. every cube displaces some of the coke and dilutes the rest making it a little more purer. you can only put in one or two cubes a day , so the process seems futile at first. but over the course of time the water begins to look less and less polluted , and the taste and smell of coke becomes weaker. the proccess continues to work, provided you don;t add more coke to the cup.read colossians 3:15-16 and also Psalms 119:9-11. just trying to stop thinking bad thoughts won't work. we must fill our minds with the crystal clear word of God. This is God's plan for us.winning the battle for your mind may initially be a two-steps-forward one-step-back process as you take on the world, the flesh, and the devil. but gradually it will become three-steps-forward and one-step-back, and so on ,as you learn to take every thought captive and make it obedient to christ.you may despair with all your steps backwards , but God won't give up on you. Freedom to be all that God has called you to be is the greatest blessing in this present life. This freedom is worth fighting for. as you learn more about who you are as a child of God and about the nature of the battle waging for your mind the process gets easier. eventually it will be 20 steps forward and one back, and finally your steps will all be forward ones, with only an occassional slip in the battle for the mind. you could pray this prayer: Dear Heavenly Father, I want to know the truth that will set me free in Christ. Lord, I don't want to be deceived. Please reveal to me any way that I am being tricked by the enemy. Lord, I choose to think on whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable and the things that are praise worthy(philippians 4:8). In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

Answer 11

I don't know if this will be any encouragement, but as I read your post, I thought about thet Apostle Paul in the Bible. He prayed and prayed to be rid of a problem in his life as well. He called it, his thorn in the flesh, and finally he felt that God was saying to him "my grace is sufficient for you." Perhaps that is what God wants you to rely on tonight with this struggle.

Rest in him tonight and let him know what the issue is. He will be there for you.