When should I have another baby?

Question

My husband and I have a 14 month old son. We want to have another baby, but we don't know when we should have another. We are living comfortable, but child care for two would be a little tight. I am 28 and my hubby is 30.

Answer 1

well there is no diffinit answer to that , but you have to consider few things :

2years after the one child , uterine has the best ability and readiness for the next one.So health wise it will be good idea if you plan any time after that.

other thing is that when you have one kid then you have dealt with his issues so you are very comfortable dealing with another one.

if their age differene is not too much when they grow up they will be good supports for each other.

and as your living condition is good now it is good Idea to have the other one soon so you know that he/she will grow up in a happy and health family.

think about your ability of raising two kids if you and your husband are able to deal with , then it is good Idea to have the second one after 2 years of the first one.

Answer 2

If you're asking, then you're probably not ready for a second one yet. Your son is almost at the age that I want my son to be when we start trying for a second one. If I could plan it perfectly, I'd have my son just turn 2 before the next baby is born.

My sister-in-law has a 10 month old, and she is planning on starting for the next one in a couple more months. My sister and I are 7 years apart, because I was going to be an only child, but then one day, my mom was like, I wanna have another baby.

Like someone else said, maybe you could wait until the first is pottytrained to save funds, and also, I know that *some* places give discounts on daycare for a second child at the same facility.

Answer 3

my kids are 23 months apart--so you'd have 2 get preg next month to do that.....it was frustrating the first year to have two babies, literally they both were still in diapers and you know even a two year old cries a lot even though they dont' cry as much as a newborn. i really thought i was going out of my mind and considered asking my dr for purple pills once or twice. HOWEVER now that they are 3 and 5, it is heaven. they frequently call each other their best friend, and they play very well. my friends who have kids who are more than 2 years older than each other don't really play together or care about each other so much. It was really tough that first year, but i would do it over again or even closer if i had the chance. If finances are a big thing (think--can you afford twice the diapers & clothes, etc.) then wait a little bit. but if you like kids and are kinda considering it anyway, GO FOR IT! best of luck!

Answer 4

I had my first 2 children 14 months apart. My last baby I had 5 years from my second child. I can tell you that I would definatley have them close in age. It is difficult for about the first 6 months but after that, they play together. My first 2 are best friends and they have each other all the time. My baby really has nobody to play with. Definately have them close.

Answer 5

How about Never! I have a daughter and am very happy with just her. I just cant understand why would anybody want to have another kid. Am thinking of adopting one. Makes more sense than adding to the population.

However, am sorry but I do know that this is my personal view.

U are only 28, u've got lots of time. So why not get a little more comfy and then think on these lines.

Answer 6

I wish there was an easy answer. I think this maybe a question only your hubby and you can answer. You know where you are financially, and what your hopes and dreams are. How your kids are spaced out will work out anyway it happens. My siblings and I were 2 years apart and then 5 years between the youngest and oldest. My kids are three years apart and my hubby's is 18 years. It won't effect how close your kids are or what your family is like!! Good luck!!

Answer 7

I am 24 w/5 yr old and a 14 mth old also.My husband and i are debating on having one more soon.I do not want them to be 4 yrs apart like my first 2.It is not a bad thing to be this many years apart,but i am 5 yrs older than my brother and we have never been close.I also have 9 yr old sisters(twins) but i do wish i had a sibling closer in age especially when i was younger.It will happen when it is time for it,i guess.

Answer 8

you guys should pray and when it's time you'll know. But I would wait until the baby was about 2 1/2 because you have to be pregnant 10 months (40 weeks) by the time the baby comes the eldest will be gonig to pre-scho ol, and also capable of being a great big helper! Only you two know if it's time again.

Answer 9

Well I dont think anyone can tell you a magical age you should have another baby at, it's different for everyone. Though I did notice that you said it would be a little tight if you had another. Does this worry you? I'm asuming since you mentioned it that it does. If you are having doubts then just wait for a little bit, there's no rush you are both still young.

Answer 10

if you got pregnant now it would be a good age space between your children if you wait too long they may not be as close I have a 7 year old,2 year old and a 9 month old and my 7year old and 2 year old fight alot because they want different things because of the age difference it would be a good time because your 14 month old is just getting independence and could also help out alot but it could be stressful I am only 24 years old and going to college but it's all worth it.