I have a moral dilemma, everyone.
My ex and I dated for four years. Then he broke up with me via text message. That doesn't really have anything to do with this, I just like repeating it because it's SO ridiculous.
Anyway, he was sending me these MySpace messages last month about how he is still in love with me and wants to date me again one day, even though he had (and still has) a new girlfriend. I know now that he didn't mean it and that he was just saying it to string me along in case things with the other girl didn't work out, but I've come to find out that the new girlfriend has NO IDEA about the messages.
So, should I send them to her so that she knows what he's been saying behind her back, or should I refrain and let her find out for herself, lest I get slapped with the "crazy ex" label? I'm afraid it would only hurt her if I sent them, but at the same time, I REEEALLY want to send them. Quick, give me some good reasons not to do it. Don't let me give into temptation!
2006-09-02 16:10:09 · 18 answers · asked by Casey 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be a smart move to stay out of it. Don't get caught in the middle. Let her find out on her own what she's in for just like you did. The best way to get back at him is to ignore him all together. This will hurt his egotistic pride more than anything. Another thing to think about: If you sent his new g/f the messages he sent you, he could deny it saying he didn't send those messages. He could claim some one else wrote those messages and used his name. He could make up any thing to cover his blunders. She just might believe him. This could back fire on you. You've already had your share of disappointment and pain. Don't bring any more down on yourself.
2006-09-02 16:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do the new chic will probably stay with him. That's how it usually works. Me personally I would send them and tell her this is how he's always been and you're just looking out for another sista. But be careful, what did you say in your text to him? He can turn it around like you pursued him. You won't be labeled crazy and who cares what everyone else thinks about your decisions. It's your life you only live once. Will you regret it if you don't?
2006-09-02 16:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's attempting to look out for you through fact you the two have a deep previous. do not study too plenty into it, she's needless to say being friendly and needs you to be secure. The final section is exhibiting that it is basic to have faith and place self belief in her as in case you have been the two terrific friends. you may desire to take this as a friendship and comprehend that it fairly is not rather the extra severe concern to be in through fact all exes often prefer to kill the different. haha.
2016-11-24 19:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by start 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was playin his new girl and trying to pull one over on you also, he is just a lowlife piece of you know what. It wouldn't really serve any purpose to tell except for revenge, so take the moral high ground and forget it. You'll be a better person for it.
2006-09-02 16:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by steve-o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know because he is playing her behind her back and thats kind of what was going on with me and yes these A$$wholes are on myspace to so I know what your going through,do you really think you should get involved? if you do tell her your doing it to help not hurt her...best wishes
2006-09-02 16:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by cleanheart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a friendly message from your myspace site so she will come and check out your space and mabey see the messages. So you wont be blatently telling her but she could see them. (if shes quick). just a thought
2006-09-02 17:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by rcc424 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For professionalism's sake, you should not do what you are thinking to do. Let his new girlfriend find about it without you being implicated about it.
Yap, you're very right that his gf will be hurt if she finds about what his bf is doing behind her back but spare yourself from being the source of such hurting information.
Though you think that your ex-bf is just doing it so that he will not be alone without a gf should their relationship not work at all, I believe that you are not 100% sure that you are right in thinking so. Give him the benefit of the doubt. He may be true in what he is saying to you but may just be waiting for the right time to say goodbye to his gf. May be, he has realized that it's really you whom he loves truly but it is just too hard for him to break off with that girl.
If my presumptions are corret, if you pursue telling his gf about what he is doing right now, if he learns that the source of such info is you, he may lose everything that he feels for you right now and replace it with anger or disappoint with you.
If you still like him, you better not worry a lot about what he is doing., May be, he has reasons for doing them which you may not be aware of. Let Destiny do his share in revealing to you if he is the one meant for you. If not, move on with your life without allowing anything about him to interfere with your present affairs. Move on if you must, even with his memories, but move on without turning back. Let go without any feeling of guilt or remorse. Forgive him for his mistakes. With that, you are heading towards a life filled with peace and quiet. Good luck.
2006-09-02 16:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be, it won't do any good. Just find someone else and ***** slap the ************ next time you see him. Knock him on his *** and then see what he says about you. Show him that you are the better of the breakup. You go for it, girl! Hell yes!
2006-09-02 16:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shadow Love at Midnight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Vengeance is mine, says the Lord." Let it go dear and save yourself the possibility of being slapped with the "Crazy Ex" label.
2006-09-02 16:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send them wanna know what i like to do if i happen to find a onenighter has a gf i sneak a peek at the id (u don't look 25 prove it show me your id) to see the address and then show up there to speak with the lady of the house
2006-09-02 16:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋