Why is it hard for my parents to accept that I'm growing up?

Question

I am 17

Answer 1

well my son turned 18 last Oct. and for me it was hard because i knew he would want more freedom and i would have little if any say so about his life and it is hard. because for 18 years we love our kid's and we do everything possible to protect them and make sure there as happy as they can be. and let's face it the world we live in today is not as safe as it was when i was a teenager. and theres alot more at there in society that can hurt and harm our kid's . and another reason for me when i had to realize he was grown up , i knew my baby was a man now and i had to let him leave the nest and become his own person and i want him to be independent and have his freedom . but being a parent we want to allways protect them as well . because we love our kid's more than life. i hope this helped to answer your question .

Answer 2

Parents have a hard time letting go. Most parents don't understand what there role is as a parent. The most important role a parent has is to prepare their children for the outside world. You will be 18 in a year or less. You need to start taking on more responsibility and then they will realize that your growing up and your capable of doing things on your own. Respect is a behavior that is earned and learned continuously.

Answer 3

A sense of loss. You'll never be as you were. They remember you as a small child, and they relate to you based on the things you've done in the past. Adults relate to other adults based on the past as well, it's just that 5 years ago, they were probably still adults. You, on the other hand, were 12. It's something all parents have to fight, some are probably more successful at it than others. I have to keep remindind myself that my 11 year old is not 7 anymore, and does not think like a 7-year old. Repeatedly demonstrate to them the maturity of your thinking, and the responsibility of your actions, and they'll come around.

Answer 4

It is hard for all parents to accept that with their children. When I talk about mine I refer to them as "my kids" then people will ask how old they are and I tell them 29, 31, 32, 33 and 34. The people will say they are not kids, well my friend, to me they are still my kids and will be till I die. So just let them be parents.

Answer 5

Not sure, I'm 14 and my parents are excepting I'm growing up because they know that I'll make all the right choices, maybe your parents are just worried about you and miss how you were when you were younger (if you dramatically changed, depends on the parents :))!

Answer 6

No matter how old you get you will always be their baby. It's hard to accept that a child does not need their parents as much anymore, it's hard to let go.

Answer 7

same thing with me im 15 and starting 2 finally date, but its always a problem cuz they still see me as their little girl they knew when i was 4 or 5, they still think that ur their little boy, its hard 4 parents 2 let go, just let them know u love them and that no 1 can change that, they brought u into this world, tell them if it wasnt 4 them you would b lost.

Answer 8

Think about it. Your parents raised you from when you were a kid, still discovering the world. they have happy memories of things that you've done, times that you've shared together, and things they're proud about.

Have your parents at the dinner table and have a small meeting explain to them that you're not a kid anymore and you wanna be treated like your age. that should do it.

Answer 9

1) Because when you grow up, they're old (at least they might think so).

2) It's hard to let go of your baby.

3) They want to protect you from getting hurt.

Answer 10

I know one reason, I have a 17 y/o..his b-day is Sept 4th..he will be 18..That let's me know that I'm getting old..don't want to see you grow up yet..but they do want you to grow up..

Just not ready to face it..