Does anyone realize that it hurts to be called names?

Question

Many people call me names & it really hurts my feelings. They call me fat, ugly, mental, & crazy.

Answer 1

Honey, its not just calling names that hurts...its any kind of bullying. I know because I was bullied big time in school. When schools start stepping up and putting an end to all this...it will stop. Think about all the school shootings and suicides thats happened because someone teased another student. These things follow you into adulthood. Most of the time, the reason why someone hurts another person is because that person hates themselves too. There should be help for bullies and victims of bullies in schools. There would be less violence in schools and less suicides. I know it does hurt but you cant let them get to you. The only person that can carry you or hurt you...is you. If you know you are a good person and you work hard, you will show those people in the end that you can win. People have their own reasons for calling names, but you are responsible for how you respond to those people. Just show them by being a good person, that you are stronger and smarter than they will ever be. Most bullies dont make it, really. They are human just like you. Its what you think of yourself that matters. Show them that you dont care what they think. I promise that in the end, you will get the last lauph. But you have got to not let anyone get to you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Who's calling you fat? Are you really fat?

Who's calling you ugly? Are you really ugly?

Who's calling you mental and crazy? Are you really?

For the fat thing, if you are not really fat, then don't even bother spending much thought with it. People who calls you this name can no longer distinguish fat from voluptous. Unless you are really on the heavier side of the scale, and it hurts when you hear them calling you by that name, then it all boils down to your decision to take action by going on a diet and getting on that treadmill so you could be sexy. But when you do this, make sure you are not doing this to please them or because you wanted to eradicate the name "fat", but instead you will do it for health reasons and for your advantage as well.

For the ugly part, even good looking people have specks of ugliness in them, it just doesn't show because their being physically blessed preceeds their ugliness.

When you start thinking that you are ugly, your world becomes gloomy, you begin to feel low and this deters your self esteem because of the negative thought in your mind.

Or maybe those who call you ugly are your close friends, and if it's the case, then maybe it's just a joke, nothing more nothing less. Remember, beauty goes beyond the physical aspect. Real beauty should emanate from within you, and this will make you real beautiful.

For the mental and crazy part, ask yourself who isn't? All of us are crazy at one point. We are crazy for some things and people couldn't care less about it. People who can't accept the fact that they are crazy sometimes are the real "crazy people."

Unless when they call you crazy, it means bahaving rather unusually or out of the blue, or out of the norms. Otherwise, when they call you crazy, refute it by saying that you are aware of it, and you are proud of it because it makes you spontaneous and gives color and excitement to your life. Unlike them who are all conformists of the society's norms, totally boring, and lacking in life and sense of excitement.

Answer 3

I wish people would realize that too. I have been called mental, a freak, hyper, a nerd, and even homosexual. Don't they know that if this gets worse, people may have thoughts of suicide?

If people start calling you names, dont be afraid to tell someone. Going over their heads is usually the best option. I suggest that you avoid these people. Show them that you are a better person than they are by ignoring them. Dont let them get you down, they have absolutely no right to insult you like this.

Answer 4

yes people realize that calling someone names does hurt, the sad thing is they really don't care at times. everyone has been called a name whether they know it or not. you are not alone in this; there are lots of people out there who have been called those same name and even worse name. you have to stand up for your self and tell those people where to go and that you don't give a flying rat's *** what they think about you, cause their opinions don't mean squat.

Answer 5

You sit and say that many people call you names and it hurts. What about the names that you call other people? Is it ok for you to be casting the stones but not for someone to cast them back?

You get what you give in this world. If you do not like stones cast at you then by all means do not be the one who casts that FIRST stone.

Answer 6

Of course they know it hurts your feelings, which is why they do it. Some people are just cruel and want to hurt others in an effort to make themselves feel better, more powerful, etc. Just ignore them and when they realize you really don't give a crap what they say, they will move on.

Answer 7

It may hurt, however you need to realize that it's a Two-Way Street. What have you done to encourage the name calling? Are you offensive or obnoxious? Do you whine all the time? Are you constantly playing the "drama card"?

Answer 8

Yes!! I have been called those and it is not right. Usually people say things they do not mean when they get insecure and mad about not getting their way---in family relationships. But in the friendship realm or at work, I would take even more offense for some reason. I would have to take some action there.

Answer 9

It hurts because you see yourself this way too, and you don't like that you think you're this way.

If your happiness depends on what others do,
don't you think you have a problem to deal with?

I've been where you are, my mom called me terrible things.
It takes work to go within, to leave the outer world and find out what's really true.

When you finally start doing that, you'll realize what you're going through has been helpful on your path.

What words would YOU use to describe yourself?

Answer 10

this is a process used by people to either catagorize or to bost there confidence, take it from someone whos been there. Eventually it will stop, but live life for you and for no one else. Names do hurt but all people are precious in the eyes of God