Have you ever dated a man with kids, and if so how did you feel once you met them? For the men, how was it when you had to introduce your kids to a girlfriend. I have a daughter who's 6, and I just kinda thought some men should know by now that a lot of women have at least one child now a days, but the shoe has never been on the other foot for me. The love of my life has two kids, and they are gorgeous. I have never met them (they live in a different state) but I want to, and he wants me to, but I am scared because I have never been with a man who has kids. What am I suppose to do? What if they don't like me? How do you warm up to kids who will consider you to be a stranger? I don't expect them to run up to me and wrap their arms around me, but I don't want them to be scared of me either. I am only 26, and this is something new for me. The kids are 3 and 4 years old, and this question is just for some help so I will not mess up our first meet & greet and hope they don't mind a second.
2006-09-02 15:29:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a 42 yr. old male single for 13 yrs with two kids that lived with me. I say be yourself now what i "BELIEVE" yourself should be is = nice, kind, sweet to them and their father but DO NOT crowd their father at least in the beginning they may see you as some one trying to take their father away don't come on to strong to them give them their distance yet be close enough so that they can sense you care and see how nice you are (you are nice right???). Maybe even try to side with them on a simple issue that might arise between them and their dad but do inform "dad" that you are doing so to win them over, not over him but rather over the mysterious woman that has just entered their life. This might make them think your cool and could get them to warm up a bit to you. Well good luck I hope I made sense and was of any help to you
2006-09-02 16:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by roy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm a mother and all i can say is to talk to him and make sure he clears it w/his children's mother 1st.. some parents r very protective of their children and don't prefer for them to be around every woman especially if the bf is promiscuous.. and if she doesn't have a problem w/it then u should be introduced to the kids as daddy's close friend.. at their age their not sure what a gf and bf is.. and being that u have a daughter urself that should make it more easier because they can play together and u can join in and make small talk..
i mean u don't want to overwhelm them.. but u and ur bf should definitely take it slow....
2006-09-02 22:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well they are small so i don't think it will be that hard but you need to think about what if the mom tells them to treat you bad or what she doesn't agree on you seeing them but dont worry they'll get over it as soon as they get used to you.
2006-09-02 22:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by alina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i dated a guy with a kid,
every thing would have been great if his ex (mother of kid) wasent such a *********.
2006-09-02 22:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋