2006-09-02 14:43:10 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For those who send their condolences...thank you, my whole family is doing good considering. for those who dont believe me......you dont have too, it was a question i personally was struggling with and thought i would get advice.but why would you comment JUST to say you don't believe me?
2006-09-02 14:53:21 · update #1
I am very sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences. You do not really need to sign nor talk to him because he is now in Spirit, which is omnipresent transcendental consciousness. By that fancy name I am telling you that you can just think your thoughts to him and he will understand what you are telling him. Some people call this "Shining." It is sending your thoughts to someone without saying or doing anything. If you are Christian, this is like praying. You just use your mind and think what you wish to tell him with your thoughts alone. He is able to understand your thoughts because they are made of the same essence that he now is. You and he are linked in this wonderful way. If all of this is confusing to you, simply sign for him or talk with him. Either of these choices will also work. It is a matter of finding what feels best to you to do. I hope some of this answer will help you with your loss, and again, I am so sorry he has passed from your life... Best to you, always, from Chris in South Portland, maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)
2006-09-02 15:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sweet question. I would do both. My father just passed and I talk to him all the time. My Mother passed away in 2000. I feel them with me all the time. What would an afterlife be if you couldn't visit your children? Do talk to your Dad because in the after life we loose the limitations of the human body. It very well might just be the first time your father ever got to hear your voice. And of course sign "I love you" to him. Don't just speak to him only when you are at the grave because he is watching over you. I take great comfort in the fact that my parents are with me often. I still buckle the seat belt in on the passenger side of my car. I'm sorry for your loss but know that your Father lives on, in your heart.
2006-09-02 14:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by trentmrlowe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk out loud to him because he is no longer deaf. He is in Heaven now and up there, he is no longer deaf or sick in any sort of way. He will hear you. I am sorry about your loss. I lost my Dad 13 years ago and my Mom passed away in Nov. 2005. I am the youngest of the family and it is so hard to have no parents. But I guarantee you that your Dad will hear your voice and he will rejoice. He has already heard you. Hang in there and I hope everything goes okay for you. I will be thinking about you and your loss.
2006-09-02 14:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really about what you feel best doing. This is your message, after all, so just do what comes naturally.
Having lost relatives in the past, I've found that I tend not to be too talkative right after they die. It takes me a while to deal with the loss. So I think it's perfectly fine to just think about the person, and be there, and that's what counts. Whether you're thinking, "I love you, Dad," silently or saying it out loud falls by the wayside.
2006-09-02 14:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you are asking this as a joke. Not a good joke sorry.
I think you said the key thing. You said your dad passed away. That means dead in my book. This means they no longer exest so it don't matter either way.
Now if you are a bible beater you know he can now hear you when you speak. But you have to get down on your knees and put your hands together (God don't hear you if you don't do this) and pray to god and have him pass the message along.
lol too silly.
2006-09-02 14:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would depend on your beliefs to what happens after death.
Many people believe that a person is not burderened by disabilities or injuries, but is perfect in the after life.
I would imagine speaking to him would make the most sense.
In any case, I am sorry for your loss.
2006-09-02 14:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
I don't know if you ever watch John Edwards, or Sylvia Browne, but both of them say that when a person dies, they become whole. That is, if they are crippled, they are no longer crippled. If they are blind, they are no longer blind.
With this in mind, I would feel comfort in knowing that I could speak to him at the funeral and he would hear me.
God bless you.
2006-09-02 15:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is not in that grave. The body that was buried is just flesh and bone. Chemicals and minerals. Whatever made your father a seperate individual is passed on. IF it still exists somewhere, it is not bound by the material world so you can communicate in any way you wish, even in your own mind.
2006-09-02 14:45:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you feel comfortable doing. That's a very personal decision that you need to make. It is my belief that he can hear you now because his physical body is gone but if you always signed, why not sign now?
2006-09-02 14:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lucrecia2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm being totally serious about this, my girlfriends parents are deaf, but she's not here right now. Could you email me so I can email you back with the answer tomorrow? I'll ask her to see what she would do.
2006-09-02 15:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋