was that right of him... i did it cause i love him.. he said he wasn't ready. I have a 2 year old by my previous marriage, his he using me or does he loves me and he really wasn't ready..
2006-09-02 14:30:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
#1 - No one can MAKE you do something you don't want to do.
#2 - True love is not about wanting to MAKE someone do something they don't want to. It's about compromise, and obviously it's not what YOU wanted.
#3 - Your relationship will change for the worse now, since you'll always think of this innocent baby that you wanted, whenever you look at him.
Dump the loser!
2006-09-02 15:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain what is " wasn't ready " mean? And if he " wasn't ready ", what or who is responsible for the little two year old?
What this guy is telling me is, he's not ready to start a family yet because he doesn't know if you are the one he wants to start a family with! I mean you do have a two year old from a previous marriage, and some guys don't want a ready made family. He wanted you to have an abortion because to prevent trouble down the road especially if he is with the right one ( you know what i mean).
I think, my dear is that you had better learn to make your own choices, especially with your body. He has no right to make you do anything ( that's not love ). I also wonder how a mother could destroy her baby? A living part of her. All this little life wanted was a chance, and all he asked of you was for food and protection until he/she could be born. That little one, dear, was breathing, sleeping, sucking his little thumb, recoils in pain, he/she had blood running through his/her tiny body. There is scientific proof that this was so. You my dear did not do your homework, and if you did, you would have also found out the horror stories about aborted babies that have been born alive and left to die on their own by doctors.
I don't want to make a bad situation badder - but this guy definately has his own motive's for wanting you to abort, and I would seriously think about the turmoil that you and your little son would endure when this happens.
2006-09-02 18:11:22 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you stand to look at your 2 year old and know that you murdered his sibling to make a guy love you? You sound like all those 13 year olds who have sex so their boyfriends won't break up with them.
And by the way, if he really loved you, he wouldn't have had a problem with having a child with you, and he definately would not have 'made you' do something you didn't want to do, especially something as heinous as ripping something out of your body.
You should leave him and start seeing a psychiatrist about your self-esteem, the guilt that you're probably already having over the murdered baby, and your unnecesary need to have a man in your life so badly that you would put him over your children.
2006-09-02 17:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why you didn't ask the people here before you did the abortion instead of asking the questions after you did that nasty action?
I read all the answers in your question and I do agree with them.
I can say that you are selfish as you only think of yourself that time and you didnt think about the baby. You are both selfish actually and he is not sure about you otherwise he wouldnt ask you abort it.
Anyway, I believe that if you are not lucky in having nice men in your life, having children is the most wonderful thing you could have and make your life worthwhile BUT you lost the last innocent baby so you better learn your lesson now through what the people say here.
2006-09-02 19:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay so he loves you enough to be ready to have sex with you but not ready to accept the consequences of that action?? That doesn't make ANY sense!! Who can say he doesn't love you? That is between you and him and how he feels, but, that doesn't sound very loving, if he wants to have sex with you then he needs to accept the responsibility of what he creates! You should talk to him about this, personally, I really think you're going to regret having an abortion for him. And I think you'll end up resenting him, especially if you don't talk to him.
2006-09-02 16:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should ever "make" you do anything. In fact, in this case, it doesn't sound like he put a gun to your head, but perhaps he gave you an ultimatum. Anyone who is willing to put that kind of pressure on someone because of their own reasons does not love that person. I know many will roll their eyes, but if he isn't ready for children he should not be having sex. This is not to say I believe sex should only happen when a baby is the intent. It means I believe casual sex and the use of abortion to terminate a potential human life for the sake of convenience is wrong. I am sorry you feel so strongly about this person, it is obvious to me he only cares about himself.
2006-09-02 14:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by SteveA8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, its true if you abort the baby your a murderer. But, it all depents.....If he was not ready for the baby, he must have a reason. Maybe he's not ready for the new born baby, dont have any support, he must be scared, dont know what to do, probaly cause by your previous marriage, or he did it cause he cheated on you.
2006-09-02 14:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by lova_boy56 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way,he doesnt love enough 2 take risks,or sacrafice.Anyman that makes u get an abortion cause he wasnt ready is the worst,nastiest coward u cud find.that 1st answer has a point,u are a muderer,and only because ur husband wasnt ready 4 a cute little face,a few diapers,or 1st steps and 1st words like mama or dada
2006-09-02 14:34:25 · answer #8 · answered by chocolate tea 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
doesn't look like a loving action to make the loved woman get an abortion. What does it mean, wasn't ready? Was he ready to have unprotected sex? Don't want to sound harsh, but he is...
2006-09-02 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by miss 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no he doesnt love u if he told u to jump off a building would u do it ya if he wasnt ready for a baby u shouldnt have sex or if u do have a baby y not give it up for adoption. abortion is murder how can anybody do that its not the babys fault theres alot of people that cant have kids and would luv to take urs next time u have a baby and not ready just give it up for adoption u would feel alot better and u will be able to see him/her
2006-09-02 14:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋