Ladies Please Reply - I could use the advise!! LOL?

Question

I am a 42 year old single parent of 2 daughters, one is 19 and on her own, have the 15 year old living with me. I am a descent looking guy who makes good money. Here's the advise I need. I just got out of a horrible relationship with my wife (not the girls mom). I was married 8 years to her (we had no kids together), and I found she was cheating on me. We separated, but still saw each other for the past 16 months, but I recently found that she was seeing another guy, so I broke it off. My dilemma is that I like someone who is 24. She has no kids, beautiful, smart, and we have been hanging out for the past few weeks, seeing each other more and more. Problem is that I don't know how to take it to the next level. I would like to "date" her, but don't quite know how to ask. My self esteem has gone down the crapper, but she is very nice. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

You are on the rebound. Back off. Keep seeing her socially, but don't date her, not yet. Give yourself time to rebuild your self-esteem. She could only hurt it more if you were to move to quickly. Get involved in your church, exercise - swim, join a club, if you like to run or participate in marathons, triathalons, etc. Have fun. Get to know who you are again, before you move into dating again. Once you are secure in who you are you will find someone or you will be ready to ask out the 24 year old.

Answer 2

I am going to give you advice you can take it if you are smart. I realize you are suffering low self esteem, but this is not the way to repair it. My dear, I hate to tell you but you are getting ready to set yourself up for more heartache, more pain and even a lifetime of trouble if you don't heed my words. Sure this looks good for the moment,but it does NOT make for a long term satisfactory relationship. I know this is not what you want to hear, but I have seen too many of these relationships really hurt people emotionally and financially. Yes, it might build your ego for a couple years, but you are a man--she is nearly your daughter's age. What would you think of your daughter with an older guy like you, see what I mean?
Look down the road a couple of years. She won't remain interested in you, you'll be an old guy and an old fool. In fact you already are, can't you see that? You could be her father!!! This is NOT the answer to your problem. You need to pray for the right WOMAN to come your way. There are plenty of wonderful, wholesome, real women, and even very beautiful older women out there who could make you a wonderful wife and be faithful to you in your golden years. Listen to me. I speak wisdom. I speak truth. Let your head not your tail run your decision or you will be telling a woeful tale a few years from now.

Answer 3

I fu want her that bad then just be brave and go for it.I know it may be hard when u've lost ur self--esteem but u gotta try and pick it up back again.Just ask if she would mind dating u or is comfortable with it despite the age difference.Women love when ur opened ,so just explain ur situation how u really like her,have gotten out a serious relationship,and is now ready to date.Admit to her that u were scared at first at asking,because u have been brought down so many times,but if she can go easy on u and just give it a try.They love when ur honest and and explain ur situation.Give that a try and i hope it works.

Answer 4

wow, it's like you're living my life only as a guy! lol

If you have already been hanging out together, just ask her to dinner or a concert or whatever it is you both might like to do... You don't have to call it a "date". If you've already been doing that, you're sort of 'dating' already. So once you get the sense that she's interested in you on more than just a friendly level, take it from there.

Good luck! :)

Answer 5

I think you should go for a walk with her, and let her know how you feel let her know that you think shes a really nice person and (insert feelings)...if you really like this girl take that risk having low self esteem and worring about it is only a state of mind and you have the power to change that ...just remember you only get one life, and you dont want to live with any regrets :-)..besides you wouldnt want her to find someone else now would ya :-) ?

Answer 6

Congrats. Well, first you have to know how she feels about you and you two should talk about it. I know a lot of people are gonna hate on ya for the age difference but ignore them just know you will have to go through a lot of BS because of that. I think you need to tell her how you feel. Hard, I know but you'll feel better and it will either go 1 way or the other. Good Luck.

Answer 7

You could ask her out for coffee and see how it goes. Just make it casual. However, I think she is too young for you. She is too close to your daughter's age and you will have little in common. You don't need to get hurt again, do you? Find a woman closer to your own age.

Answer 8

yo u broke down old ***** grow some ballsss and ask that fine white biachh to a date u pu$$y a$$ indian. get some spicy food or some $hit like that. um if that $hit dont work then get that female drunk and hit that $hit yo, from the back and the front twice then her face....lmao
naw i'm just playing dawg good luck with that $hit yo.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

well i think that you should just ask her it may be hard for you to that....but i have this feeling that everything is going to work out for you (i know that is weird but i just have this feeling)

have your kids met her ? if not then make sure that they meet her and talk with them about it as she is young and kids might find that weird......