ever since ive been with my fiancee his brothers girlfriend rubs me up the wrong way.
when i first met her she was really quiet the complete opposite to me but i was friendly never the less i always said hello and tried to get to know her better
at first i put it down to the fact she was shy but after knowing her for 2 years i just think she plain rude and aroggant
it started with little things like i would say hello gemma and she would plain ignore me. when we went round to my fiancees parents house she would talk to everyone else but me leaving me to feel out of place. When we got engaged everyone was really happy for us and congratulated us however gemma came round and never siad congrat or hello. this really upset me coz it was the most speical day of my life that i wanted to share with eveyone.
shortly after that they got engaged and instead of getting back at her i went up and kissed her on the cheek and said i was happy for them both.
but still to this day she says
2006-09-02 13:40:37 · 12 answers · asked by lisa7777 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nothing to me. its like she feels she better than me
am i wrong?
2006-09-02 13:41:14 · update #1
No, you are not in the wrong at all. She is the one with the problem. To me she sounds like alot of my family----they think their you know what doesn't stink and that they are better than anyone. Looks like your fiance would say something to his brother about the way his girlfriend treats you. At least ask him what the deal is. To me it sounds like she is jealous of you. She wants all of the attention and you get nothing. Just leave her alone for now. You are a super person to still be speaking to her and acting the way you do. Don't ever change the way you are. You have a gift that many, many people don't have and never will have. I know it hurts your feelings. It would hurt mine. But there comes a time when you just need to leave someone alone. Just ignore her and let it be. You are not wrong in any sort of way. Like I said, you are a very special person to keep on trying to talk to her and being friendly, and she just treats you like you aren't even there. Just hang in there and keep up the good work and the great person that you are. She will either come around or she won't. If she doesn't, I wouldn't consider it a loss at all.
2006-09-02 14:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously there is something wrong here, but it is hard to tell exactly what it is. If the two of you have no negative history at all, then I can't imagine what the problem is, unless there are major religious or philosophical differences between you.
The only thing I can think of, is for you to ask her politely what the problem is. You may want to have your mother-in-law-to-be mediate. Don't lose your temper, just say something like "Gemma, I have tried to be nice to you for some time now, and it feels like you are always giving me the cold shoulder. Have I done something to offend you somehow? Is there something between us?" That way, you are not outright accusing her of anything. You are communicating feelings.
Best of luck.
2006-09-02 13:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong and don't ever blame yourself for her actions i have also being in that situation so i know where your coming from when my partners sister in law came over to my house i went up to her and she said hello than when i went to her house she didn't even come out and say hello to me so i just focused on my own family and didn't care one bit about her i was getting bad headaches just thinking about her and what had i done to make her feel this way towards me don't ever do the same as her keep saying hello its her character that every one will soon notice and what goes around comes around and one thing i never did was when my partner went to his brothers house i didn't go i always stayed home or went out to my friends i didn't want my partner and his brother to fight and be the cause of me and her not getting along.shes just jealous and insecure you should get along more with your partners parents that would put her in her place that's what i had done,and make her turn out to be the crazy one not me.its sad knowing you and her will share the same last name and yet have differences
2006-09-02 14:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by dihannamtie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A problem is something that only you can create because you won't leave it alone. If you don't worry about it, then it's not a problem. That's why I try not to worry, and then I don't have problems.
2016-03-27 04:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she does sound like she thinks she is better. What you did is commendable. I would continue to act this way, you will be the far better person in the long run. Kill her with kindness. Don't give her a reason to not like you. Some day maybe she will come around. People notice more when a person is nice no matter what. You will be the far better person. Good luck
2006-09-02 13:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong. But I commend you for taking the "high road". Has your fiancee noticed her behavior, or his brother?
Just keep being cordial and let her play her own little game.
Congratulations on your engagement.
2006-09-02 16:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by Cambria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just miserable and want to bring someone else down with them. Try your best to blow it off and focus on your happiness!
2006-09-02 13:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to get so upset about it! You're wasting your time with this woman. Just get along with everyone else and don't make waves with her. Who knows what agenda she has? Don't make it your problem, however!
2006-09-02 13:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. Don't go out of your way to be nice to her- just be civil. Some people can't be pleased.
2006-09-02 13:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has the problem. Ignore her.
2006-09-02 13:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋