One of my male coworkers (Andre) is acting very strangely around me lately. On Thursday, he put his hands on my shoulders and started rubbing them while telling me he thought the way I talked was cute (I instantly backed away). He then told me that one of the regular customers said that I was the cutest girl working there, and Andre said he agreed with the customer. He has also asked me to go with out with him one night after work for some drinks.
Am I reading to much into his words and actions? He knows that I'm in a serious relationship, and that I'm not the kind of person to have sex with every guy I meet.
2006-09-02 13:28:57 · 20 answers · asked by prettycute4u62040 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep... He's got it bad... He finds you attractive and the fact that you are in a relationship is just fuel for his fire... It's an EGO thing for a guy to see if he can lure someone away from a steady mate. Call it what you want... Sex isn't always the end result needed to boost his EGO to the level he wishes. Sometimes he may be getting his signals from you... mistaken of course... but still enough for him to think it's okay to ask you out. Being straight out and telling him how you feel is the best approach. Remember all those sexual harrassment classes? Nows the time to be direct and tell him, "Thank you, but I'm really NOT interested, and I'd really appreciate it if you'd respect my wishes on the matter..." That clears it up and spares his feelings. Good luck.
2006-09-02 13:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by casual247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you two been working for a long time together? Maybe if you just started your relationship and he might have had a crush on you. He might be trying to win you. He might be in loe with you and that is why he is actring the way he is. You shoudl just tell him that you don't feel the same way he does. That you love the other guy and not him and try to be careful with your words becase you are going to break his heart if he is in love with you. But you shoudl tell him as soon as possible, becuase if you let him continue he might think that you might like him back and that he has a change to be with you.
2006-09-02 20:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Frank-36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man thinks you are easy. He is coming on to you in a very aggressive manner. You should not have allowed him to put his hands on you because this gives him the impression you are easy so learn from the lesson. He is playing you so unless you want to dump your present boyfriend you better make him back off. The question is why would YOU allow him to touch you if you are the one in the commited relationship?
2006-09-02 20:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psh. maybe you should tell him that you notice how much he flirts with you and all but remind him that you are in a serious relationship and youre happy where you are. basically...let him know you arent interested. if he still doesnt give up..hes got problems. im just surprised that he didnt get the message when you backed away from his shoulder rub.
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2006-09-02 20:43:05 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepatootie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definititely after you - big time. Deal with it but be clear, don't leave any chance at all of mixed signals. If he doesn't give up tell him you are feeling harassed by his attention. One mention of that in today's work place will make most sane people back off.
2006-09-02 20:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to tell him thanks but no thanks. Tell him you are flattered but feel uncomfortable with his advances. If it continues then--yes this is definition-your looking at sexual harrassment. No one should have to feel uncomfortable at there work place, and it sounds uncomfortable to you. It is important though to tell him how you feel without being acusatory at first. You should also let a third party know what is going on in case you need a witness-you can never be too careful. For all you know he just lieks you and doesn't have a clue that you don't like it.
2006-09-02 20:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like.. he likes you. But you figured that out already. Just reject him, and hope he takes it well. Make it clear that you are happy in your relationship (with the other guy) and just want to remain co-workers with him. I don't think you're reading too much into it if he asked you out for drinks.
2006-09-02 20:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by jessiebrenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What??? You have some drinks and you DON"T have sex with EVERY guy you meet??? WOW!!!!! You must be so cute that you should just stay in a pumpkin shell!!!
2006-09-02 20:35:44 · answer #8 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um no youre not reading too much into his words, not enough actually, he's totally hitting on you. He sounds creepy
2006-09-02 20:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness no, you're not overreacting. Tell him to bug off and that you don't appreciate his advances and that he's harassing you. Tell him that if he doesn't, you'll appeal to higher authority, and mean it.
And for future reference, trust yourself; you know more than you think.
2006-09-02 20:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋