Who has lost a parent? I am so scared of my parent's dying, i want to know, how does it feel?

Answer 1

It happens. My mom died when I was a child. Death is a part of life, no one can prepare you for it.

Answer 2

First of all, don't be depressed by the first part of this: it does get better!

I lost my dad three years ago and was devastated. It was so final. When it happened, I thought the whole universe was going to swallow me up. I'm sorry, but there's no way I can give you a nice answer; it's horrible. But, while your parents are alive, give them all you've got: make them proud of who you are so they know that raising you wasn't a waste of time.

You go through a few stages. The first is disbelief, shock and numbness: you expect them to just walk in the door after a few days. Then you realise that the silence is deafening when you don't see or hear them. The next stage is the acceptance of the fact, which is the hardest. You know for sure you will never be able to talk with them or just hear their voice again.

The third stage is a guilt thing: wishing you would have been kinder to them or tell them how much you loved them. As a teenager, I was a real brat to my folks. That was my one regret.

But don't despair. Time is a healer, although a bit slow. The experience has made me a better and more understanding person. I am more tolerant of people and always put myself in their shoes before being critical.

So while your parents are still here, do them proud so that when they do pass away, they will do so happy knowing that you were a success.

You will always have the memories to cherish.

Remember, you yourself are going to pass away one day. So grab life by the horns and give it your best: this is not a rehearsal for life: THIS IS IT!

Answer 3

First of all we are all going to die, we each and everyone of us humans has got a time set aside by god when we will leave this earth. Speaking from experience when a parent dies it is frightening you feel as if a wall that was supporting you has been moved from beneath you. But you learn that death is nothing to be frightened of and each day does get easier and before you know it you feel as if that person is with you. And then you remember all the good times you had and funny times. Enjoy your parents now tell then you love them ask them all the things that are bothering you find out all you want to know about them. Because when they go you will always wander. Also your parents are the only ones that want the best for you there advice they give you is priceless. So be a good kind happy daughter for them and be happy together. You might go before them death does not go by age remember. I might die tonight we dont hold the power of destiny god does take care. And stop worrying?

Answer 4

Take note of donua1022. Been there, done that cept mine is parent & daughter. You never get over it, but learn to live with it. Then it is down to you how you cope. Sorry, but that is the truth. So don't be scared, just accept that it's going to happen one day in the future, which could be years away. What is the point of being scared of something that could happen all the time when it's only gonna happen twice in your whole life. Sorry if this causes offence, but this is how I feel now that I've been there, losing my daughter was a far worse feeling than losing a parent.

Answer 5

I felt scared when I thought about one of my parents dying then my dad died when I was 26, it was the worst time in my life. I was very close to him and felt his loss, as did we all, tremendously. There is no getting away from the effect it will have on you but you have to carry on, get on with your life because dying is a part of life. You will never get over it but you will learn to live with it and remember all the good and happy times you had, hopefully. I keep my dad in a place in my heart and occassionally I let myself indulge in happy memories of him. So don't let it upset you now, make the most of your parents while they are there for you.

Answer 6

I lost my Dad about 10 years ago. Now my Mom is having Heart problems. And I'm scared that I might lose her too. "How does it feel?" It's the most pain I've ever known....The pain goes to your soul. I have always been very close to my parents. As I got older they became my Friends. When I lost my Dad,it hurt so bad. Now with the thought of losing my Mom, I'm terrified.

Answer 7

My father died 5 years ago and i still miss him but you move on and life changes. Death affects different people in different ways. if you are worried about your parents dying then i suggest you make the most of any time you have together, if you don't then you will regret it when they eventually do pass away. i am sure that will be a long time off though.

Answer 8

I lost my mum 12 years ago a day never passes when i don't think of her and many of a time i wish i could just see her for a few minutes and give her a hug. People say time is a healer , it is but you still miss them.My dad is still alive and lives with my boyfriend and myself .I have found i am more closer to my dad even though i was close to him before my mum died.MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR PARENTS AND ENJOY THE LIFE WITH THEM

Answer 9

Theres something worse. It's called lossing faith. When I was a little kid (my parent were divorced), My dad would lie to me, tell me he was taking me to Universal Studios, Disney Land, etc. He'd come home a week later (he was a trucker) and tell me didn't have enough money, or that he was too tired, or sick. (Lies, He was always loaded, extremely energetic, and almost never got sick.)Then, listen to this. He'd get me an E.T. or Mickey Mouse shirt, the kinds you can only get as souvenirs from that kind of place. Proof that he was just there. (I was raised in key Largo, bout' an hour away from Orlando, FL and yet still i've never been to DisneyLand) Yet still, I stupidly kept waiting, hoping that someday he'd keep his promise... Then... I gave up. And to this day, I have a deep HATRED for the man some would call, my father.

Answer 10

Make the most of having your parents alive and well. Let them know that you love them and stop worrying about them dying. Now is when we make our happy memories to keep us going through the sad times. Do not let your memories be of fear. Your parents would not want that...

Answer 11

Please stop worrying about your parents dying. Concentrate on them being alive and love them every minute of the day. One day we all will die, it is just a part of life. Don't dwell on the death aspect, but like I said, Love them now because they will not be around for ever. I lost my father 28 years ago and I still miss him, but I just keep going forward.