I met a guy like 4 yrs ago, and i introduced them to the rest of my friends, he liked one of them (the one who is like my best friend) and they've been dating for about 3 years. Now they just broke up. I am still friends with both of them, but the thing is that i have always liked the guy, and many ppl have asked if we're a couple ('cause we get along soo well) and said that we look really good together, that we would make a cute couple. I dont think he see's me that way, but is it wrong if i wish of him like being my boyfriend? Any advice?
2006-09-02 13:18:19 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the middle of starting a relationship with another guy, but the thought of the possibility of being with the other one is keeping me from starting something with this one... :(
2006-09-02 13:19:23 · update #1
I don't think its a bad thing if you liked him before he even met your friend.
About your extra details: If you're already starting another relationship, then I think you should forget about this guy for now. I don't mean forget about him completely, I just mean don't think of him as a love interest. Keep him as a friend. Then, if anything goes wrong with the guy you're starting a relationship with now, he'll be there to help you get through it. Who knows? Maybe one day you guys *will* get together. Just try out this other guy, first.
2006-09-02 13:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you're not a bad person for having feelings for someone...if you like him that much, let him know. All he can say is that he doesn't have those feelings for you and then you can be free to find someone who does feel that way for you...then there will be no regrets. If on the other hand he does like you, then you two can take your friendship to the next level, which could be very lasting, because you already know eachother and can grow from there...makes me think of that movie "With Honors". Good luck
2006-09-02 13:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LIFE IS SHORT. YOU CAN GO FOR OR WAIT FOR WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. YOUR FRIEND NOR THE NEW GUY WILL BE THERE WHEN YOUR LYING IN YOUR BED CRYING YOURSELF TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE YOUR SO FULL OF REGRETS AND GOING CRAZY OVER WHAT COULD BE DIFFERENT IF ONLY YOU HAD TAKEN THE CHANCE. THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU IS NOT LOSING A FRIEND BUT WASTING YOUR LIFE OVER NOT WANTING TO LOOK LIKE THE BAD GUY. THAT IS IF YOUR FRIEND WOULD EVEN HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT. TALK TO HER. IF SHE DOES HEY! THAT'S ONE LESS PERSON YOU HAVE TO INVITE TO YOUR WEDDING. BUT BEFORE YOU DO ALL OF THIS MAKE SURE YOU HAVE TRUE FEELINGS FOR THIS GUY AND IT IS NOT JUST ONE OF THOSE WANTING WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE THINGS. IT WOULD REALLY SUCK TO END UP WITHOUT THE GUY OR THE FRIEND
2006-09-02 13:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by tnmack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not feel the way you feel. Its natural and it happens. If you really feel that you two are going to make a good couple ask kim out. Who knows maybe he might have feelings for you too. You'll never know unless you ask him and if you don't you might live for the rest of your life asking your selfif you did the right things if you don't asking and strat the other relationship.
2006-09-02 13:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by Frank-36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person no,but you should choose either/or...you cant keep one on the sidelines just in case you have problems with the current b/f,as NIKKI intimated,thats not right,you would be using one of them then!Choose the one you are obviously attracted to,and take the plunge-it seems odds on anyway that the two of you will get together,just dont keep one waiting around-sort it out,its not high on the worlds list of catastrophes is it!!
2006-09-02 13:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not a bad person. I would say go for it. You only live once and sometimes you dont get a second chance at things. I think I would just talk to him about it and see what comes of the conversation. Good Luck.
2006-09-02 13:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That might get complicated if your best friend was with him for 3 years. She may get very angry with you. If you really like him, I would talk to her first and see what she says. If it upsets her I wouldn't date him, it is not worth losing a friend over. On the other hand, if she gives you her blessing, go for it. You have nothing to lose... :)
2006-09-02 13:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to wish him to be but actually doing it, is a whole other thing. Would you really risk losing your best friend for a guy. Most guys don't last as long as friendships.
2006-09-02 13:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by aluna86jh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with the heart. I found myself in a love triangle, and I took a chance a broke on through to the other side. Hope this helps you with your thoughts.
2006-09-02 13:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by uxemacs2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your friend still love this guy? And do you think it's a permanent breakup? Give it some time. Also, if you are thinking of this guy then maybe your 'new' relationship should be on 'hold' too.
2006-09-02 13:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋