I've dated this guy twice now, and am having 2nd thoughts. The first time we were together for a year. We lived together, were engaged, the whole nine yards. But I wasn't ready. I was still battling depression. Once I got better, we decided to give it another shot. That only lasted a few months. So now we're just friends. He sucks as a boyfriend. I know this. So why am I considering getting back with him? I love hanging out with him, he's basically my only friend. He's got an awesome personality, and isn't horrible to look at. But as a boyfriend, no way! My heart knows that he is definately not the one, but my head keeps telling me to go for it. I need some advice. Please help me sort these mixed feelings out!
2006-09-02 13:08:45 · 14 answers · asked by Support Our Troops! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You already said no way!!! I have been around a few people that I wish i could date cause they were good people and they loved me. Don't settle for less though cause if he's not the one then one that is can't see you in his light.
2006-09-02 13:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said yourself, he isn't a good boyfriend, so Honey, why would you put yourself through the pain again? There is no law that says you can't be just friends. If you are serious about trying it again, be smart, do couples counseling. If it didn't work twice, then it won't work on the 3 try unless something drastically changes. Relationships come with problems no matter what, but in order for it to work, it takes commitment on both parties or you can forget it. One will eventually tire.
2006-09-02 13:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by RITA G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only follow your heart when your head agrees with it, if there is conflict then there will be conflict. The best course of action go out and make friends whether in school, work, anywhere. Just remember, just because he was there for you when things where bad doesn't mean you have to give him yourself
2006-09-02 13:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by frank71175 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 16:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl do with your heart tell you but serious if you know if wont work then dont date him again keep it real with him and remain friends with him hang out do things together but dont have sex with him then he will be thinking its more then friends. tell him that you still need more time to think things over before you can say yes because you dont want to hurt each other and go through what you guys went through before trust me he will understand...........
2006-09-02 13:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by billie0059 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AH.. your heart knows?? Really? If you are sure about that, think about it......"basically my only friend".........."he sucks as a boyfriend", means that you haven't grown as a person yourself since being with him.....always a good thing to consider as a red flag....sorry! good luck though......
2006-09-02 13:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have dated before and know he sucks as a boyfriend why would you want to do it again. you have him as a friend the next time you may not.
2006-09-02 13:13:41 · answer #7 · answered by marilyn s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont get married because you like the rock get married if you truly want to in your heart
2006-09-02 13:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by SLOWMOTION420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been their done that still doing it and it sucks opt for friends with more and try to find a new man
2006-09-02 13:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by bacawk70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart. its the only thing that matters sometimes.
2006-09-02 13:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Gina Smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋