2006-09-02 13:05:19 · 41 answers · asked by nEMO 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Depends on what she is wanting to do with this boyfriend. I wouldn't let them go on unsupervised dates, but talking on the phone and calling him her boyfriend is fine as long as he is the same age as her.
2006-09-02 13:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! A twelve year old should not have a boyfriend. There are people who argue that there was a time when girls were married at 13, but things have changed. They are just not prepared to deal with everything that comes with being in a relationship at that age. Don't think that 12 year old boys don't want to have sex, because they do, and most girls think that they have to just to make their boyfriend happy.
2006-09-02 15:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nate's Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who DIDN"T have a bf/gf at 12???
If you define boyfriend as a guy she specifically hangs out with and likes, what in the hell could possibly be wrong with that?? 12 year olds are ready for break ups... that's a fact, they're gonna do it someday anyway, might as well let them learn young what love is and what it isn't. The best way for them to NOT get involved, is to GET INVOLVED AND SEE THAT OFTEN ENOUGH, IT SUCKS.
2006-09-02 14:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by No.4 Mk1(t) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.. a 12 year old should have enough self esteme she doesnt need a boy friend..
unfortunately a lot of kids dont get enough time with their parents and turn to somebody else for love or attention...
the media makes girls feel like they need boyfriends when really they dont..
a 12 year old with a boyfriend will soon be a 13 year old with a baby....
having said that though if you tell her NO she will do it anyhow and you wont know about it.. so try to find something she likes MORE than boys and get her involved in that.. horseriding lessons.. soccer team.. whatever you can.. spend time with her.. cut down your work hours - build her self esteme up.. I knew a girl who was 14 and got pregnant because her mom was too busy with work and her own boyfriend- but the girl got lots of attention when she was pregnant so it didnt surprise me when she got pregnant a second time at age 15..
build your daugthers self esteme up.. its not too late. but it soon will be
2006-09-02 13:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A strong and resounding no to this question. At this age, her focus should be on school and other activities, not boys. This is where the problem of teen parenting comes into play....parents are much to lenient when it comes to their children's friends and activities. A boy who's a friend or associate is a far cry from a boyfriend. People don't want to admit it, but children are becoming sexually active younger and younger these days.....no boyfriends until she's able to drive......
2006-09-02 14:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Lets be honest who didn't have a bf or gf at that age. Its just not the same kind of relationship you would have at age 16. A 12 year old is in 7th or 8th grade depending on their birthday. Parents can't stop kids from dating...maybe from going on dates but they will see each other in school and maybe at the park. Parents should talk to their children about relatonships and sex at an earlier age because times have changed.
2006-09-02 13:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um...well. I would require this boy to sit at the dinner table and have a conversation with the whole family like an adult. They would have to be hanging out in the family room with everyone else. They would never go into her room ever...maybe to check it out, but no hanging out. A girls room is a girls room. He would be part of the family. They would both have to help cook, and clean the dishes. They are spending time together. If they don't like it, they can see eachother at school. There is nothing wrong with getting a no how of the opposite sex. I met my bestfriend when we were 13. He never even saw what my room looked like but came over a lot. You have to give your children an inch. keep that rope slacked a little. She'll tell you all the great things he said and what they talked about....trust me.
2006-09-05 18:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the lines of communication open with her. Help her to realize how special and important she is to you. You know your daughter. Would she be happy to just have this person over to watch a movie, attend a church or school function where there would be supervision? Twelve seems awfully young but if they are just spending time together with other reliable people it may be something you would feel good about. All kids are different and can't all be treated the same.
2006-09-02 14:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by USAloyal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your child to have both boys and girls as friends. As for an exclusive relationship with a boy, you'll need to talk with your daughter about what that exactly means. It might just mean they want to watch a movie together or something... just be sure they're properly chaperoned. My daughter had a boyfriend at that age... but she quickly decided that he was expecting more of her than she was willing to give. The boyfriend's age sure makes a difference... if he's 14, I'd really question his motives.
2006-09-02 13:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? I was raised that you were allowed to date when you were allowed to move out and start a life of your own because the purpose of a boy friend was to see if you could have a life long relationship with that person and someday marry them.
A 12 year old needs time to be a child and do things kids like to do. Not worry about who she's going to spend the rest of her life with! She's got plenty of time for sex in the city when she grows up. Let her be a child for crying out loud!
2006-09-02 13:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Annie Hightower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no. The purpose of dating someone is to find a suitable mate/partner who you will spend the rest of your life with. Why would a 12 year old be considering that? 12 years old is far to young.
2006-09-02 13:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋