I am Christian, my boyfriend is Muslim, he said he wants the baby to be Muslim, I kind of feel like that would be strange. Women, what would you do? And if you felt strange about it, what can you say to make me feel better about it being Muslim, after I hold it in my stomach for 10 months.
2006-09-02 13:02:59 · 14 answers · asked by Tracy L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The child has the religion given by the parents. You child, at this moment, has the religion you plan to give him/her. If you are attending church then the child is also attending church, therfore the child at this time is a Christian. If you pray to God the Father(not allah) then the child prays with you. The child is praying Christian prayers.
This child is your child. You have the right to raise your child as a Christian. Your boyfriend does not have the right to force you or the child to convert. We have freedom of religion in this country. Don't give up your freedom for some guy that got you pregnant without marrying you first.
What if your child is a girl? Do you really want her treated the way females are treated in Muslim countries? Read the Jill Carroll story. In one segment she talks about being held captive in a typical Iraqi household. The women prepared a large dinner then took it to the dining room for the men to eat. When the men were finished, the women brought the dishes of rice leftovers and chicken bones back to the kitchen. She though they were going to clean up. That's not what they did. The women sat down and ate the scraps left by the men. That was their supper. The women ate the dog scraps! If your child is a girl, do you want her eating dog scraps?
In another installment of the story, Jill says that one of her guards was replaced for three weeks. When he came back she asked him where he had been. He had left to be married to a 13 year old girl -- he was 26! In this country that bastard would have been jailed for child molestation. Again, if your child is a girl, do you want her to be legally molested by a 26 year old man when she's only 13?
The horrors women face in Muslim countries is beyond belief.
If you child is a boy, do want him looking down on you and treating you like a dog to eat the scraps? Do you want him to grow up to be a child molester?
You may have made mistakes in your past but there is no such thing as a non-recoverable error. Reclaim your Christian identity and raise your child with Christian values.
May Jesus Christ save you from the Muslim curse. May Jesus bless you and your child greatly.
2006-09-02 13:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with Ms. BS in Psychology cuz a religion is a way of life and the child can really only be one religion otherwise there will always be conflicting views. In Islam, Jesus is a mere man, a Prophet, while in Christianity, Jesus is considered the son of God. You see the diff? As the child grows up learning and celebrating both things, it won't truly be spiritually inclined to either.
But also, another choice is that you teach the child both religions, but once he is older so he can understand the difference between the two. Make sure he knows that there is a strict line between each celebration. Then once he/she gets older and wiser, ask them to choose their own faith. Maybe when they are 14 or so. Don't let them keep living between both, that will ruin both religions' values
2006-09-02 20:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Prodigious*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have two very different religious faiths this is the sort of thing you two should have worked out before becoming pregnant. Do you plan to marry? If so, I think the best solution is to allow the child to learn the tenets of both religions, then when he is old enough he should be allow to choose the religion he prefers. If you do not plan to marry and you plan to maintain custody of the child, then I feel you should make the decisions about his religious education. But I also think you should allow him to learn about his father's faith. The important thing is that he be taught to believe in a god. I believe there is onlly one god and we all (religious groups) worship him in different ways. I don't think any religion should be looked at as mutually exclusive of all the others.
2006-09-02 20:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by chance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say mom over rule dads because when you go to the hospital your the one who signs all the papers and makes all the decisions about the baby so I would make the choices afterwords too. I am a Christian too and I would tell the dad either get in the same boat or it going to sail without him. Because I would not raise my child in a religion that I was not in myself. And if your a Christian you know that if you raise you baby not by the word of God you are going to be accountable for it. Because it is up to you to raise your child in the way you want them to go.
God Bless!!!
You and your baby!!!
2006-09-02 20:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not married so you get to chose. He is not much of a Muslim and you are not much of a Christian not being married and making a baby, so whats your child's religion to you? Its not like you are following the teachings of your religion. be thankful that they believe in the god of Abraham like you do.
May your child be blesses with understanding and courage to pick the right path to God
2006-09-02 20:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by DaFinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your delima, I was in a similar situation about how the child that I am currently pregnant with was going to be brought up. I believe that if he isn't the husband then really its nice to discuss things with him but in the end it is you that carried the child for 10 months and if you have a fear of it you could let your child choose when he or she is old enough to decide for herself, allow them to explore both religions as well as many other religions of the world. Allow them to make up their own mind.
2006-09-02 20:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by marajade_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a prime example of why the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. But, here you are with baby on the way. I think the only fair thing to do is to introduce the child to both religions and when the child is old enough, let him or her decide.
2006-09-02 20:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I doubt your sincerity I think a person with that problem should watch the movie Cavite (2005) which addresses just such an issue.
2006-09-02 20:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if things are only going to get tougher unless one of you converts to the other religion. It's like mixing oil and water--the baby will be one or the other.
2006-09-02 20:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad was muslim and my mom christian
im pagan
the child should decide what i wants to be when it grows up focus on the values that you both share
2006-09-02 20:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by raindrop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋