what should i do?
my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 months... he tells me everyday that he loves me. but recently he told me when i asked him if he had feelings for my friend kayley. he said a little... but he doesnt like her half as much as he loves me. and yet. i still cant get over the fact that he said he does have feelings for her as more than a friend.... i know he wouldnt leave me for her but i still don't know what to do.
2006-09-02 12:44:12 · 11 answers · asked by prometida 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was a little misguided in telling you the truth, but it sounds like his intentions were good. Most people have times when they are attracted to someone other than their partner. But monogamy is a choice, not a feeling. Trust is also a choice. You now have a choice to make. Based on what you know about your boyfriend, is he worthy of your trust? From what you tell us, it sound like he is. So, decide whether you are going to trust him or not, then put this issue behind you. Remember, you opened the door by asking him the question. He simply answered it as honestly as he could.
2006-09-02 13:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your b/f was a dumb*** in the first place for telling you he had feelings for your friend. That's just not something you tell your g/friend. I'll give him points for being honest, but this is just not something that you tell your g/f. Even if it's true, for the sake of your feelings he should have kept it to himself. Tell him you don't want to seem jealous or anything, but it really bothers you to know that he has feelings for your friend. Maybe what he meant was that he thinks your friend kayley is hot, not the fact that he actually has feelings for her...but since I don't know how often they interact, i don't know that for sure. Either he'll comfort you and tell you you have nothing to worry about, or he'll somehow find a way to overcome those felings. If he really wants to be with you, he'll find a way to get kayley out of his system.
2006-09-02 19:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being honest. U asked him. Respect that and know that he wouldnt have told you yes if he was gonna try and get with your friend. You must know that she is really pretty or something and that is why you asked her in the first place. But he is with you and he loves you. Guys are always gonna look at other girls, even your friends! Dont make too much out of it.
2006-09-02 19:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask Kayley if she would have a 3-way with the both of you for his birthday
2006-09-02 19:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by naughtybabyjesus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont do anything, im sure if you looked around there are quite a few boys you would find attractive but you wouldnt go with them behind your b/fs back, you asked him a question & he answered it, he told you the truth, there is NO need for concern unless he spends a lot of time with her or begins to behave funny, so relax & enjoy your relationship dont put it at risk over a daft question.
2006-09-02 19:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling its human nature. Unless you seem him oogaling over her or giving her any special attention don't worry about it. He is being honest with you and that is good. It is very early in your relationship. He said he loves you more, thats really good.
2006-09-02 19:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfirend and i went throught this a few monts ago. He told me he loves my best friend. I made him pick me or her na di told him hes not allowed to talk to her ever again. He deleted her numbers from his fone and deleted her from his IMs. Just make sure your love is pure and true.
2006-09-02 20:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Nessy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be so sure that he wouldnt leave her for you. And remember you can always do better if he does.
2006-09-02 19:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by R B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he willing to say that to your face you need to dump him. Or get back at him by saying you like one of his friends more than a friend
2006-09-02 19:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by o_pl_mn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should keep Ur eye on him and ur friend if they are togather only and keep an eye on him cause i think he would cheat on u i say be single it's fun and theirs on preambles
2006-09-02 19:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋