can you help me, im serious don't write anything rude please!?

Question

please, don't be rude or anything because i am serious!
i don't really get along with my mom and dad, i argue and talk back and i try and try, but i keep doing it over and over, and i want to get along with my parents but i can't seem to and i'm christian and i believe the bible and i try to read it, but can you like tell me some ideas to maybe get along with my parents i try REALLY hard and i STILL argue...
any suggestions???
please be serious don't write anything rude!

Thank You all!!!
i tried to pick a best answer but i couldn't
because you all helped me so very much!
thank you all!
and if i could i would pick you all as best answer! please pray for me to get along with my parents and Love God with all my heart!
thank you!!!

Answer 1

You have fallen into a habit of behavior, and habits can be difficult to break but you can do it. One good idea is to put yourself in their place. Before you talk back, take a few moments to stop and understand *why* they're saying or doing whatever they're saying or doing that annoyed you. Parents aren't perfect but they almost always want what they believe is best for their kids, so try to keep that in mind. Another idea is to listen. Maybe your parents just want to know that you heard them and you understand what they're saying. Sometimes arguments can be avoided when people just say, "okay, I know what you mean, I know why you feel that way... maybe I don't agree, but I understand where you're coming from."

Answer 2

I read above a lot of good advice, but did not read too much about you figuring out a specific reason why you get in arguments with your parents.

Maybe if you figure that out it will help you stop doing it.

You do want to be independent.

You do disagree with them about many things in that come up in daily life. No doubt sometimes your idea or opinion is right or more right than theirs. Sometimes you are wrong and they are right. If you were more confident in your self maybe you could learn to discuss and not argue. The difference may be slight between an argument and I discussion. There are different rules of engagement. In discussions people respect each other's opinions, they are polite, they do not get angry, they try to support their ideas with logic and facts without calling each other names or being condescending. Maybe you could ask your parents to be more polite when they start to argue with you. Don't let your self get angry. You have to learn to control your self by practicing a little step at a time. When you are in a argument with your parents you have to stop it first. Maybe you could say something to stop the arguement like, I will give that some more serious thought and get back to you on what I think, then.

Answer 3

I can only imagine that if you argue all the time, nothing you want gets accomplished. The first thing that you must do, is take a step back, and look at what is really bothering you. Some things are negotiable. You can start by listening to their reasons for saying no, and then give them a persuasive reason why you feel they should say yes. You still won't get to do everything you want to do, but I believe you will get a lot more done than just arguing. To present your case, you should have at least done your homework on the topic that you want to discuss. Be prepared for them to say no.
If you don't win your argument, don't give up. Just approach them about it later. Sometimes parents are looking for signs of maturity in you. If you say you argue all the time, that's one sign that you don't have it yet. A mature person knows how to negotiate with other people, even if it is their parents.

Answer 4

Wow... A lot of girls don't run into a good guy like this for a very long time. I have never had a guy like this and I would love it. Just tell him that you both need to take things a little slower and enjoy being young and just having fun! If he really wants to be with you he will slow down. Communication is everything dear :)

Answer 5

Growing up is a painful process—for you and your parents! As you go through this difficult period of adjustment together, it is important to follow the scriptural counsel that children are to obey their parents; see Ephesians 6:1-3 and Colossians 3:20. Part of growing up is having a desire to become more independent. As you are obedient and responsible, you will show that you are prepared for more independence.

I strongly urge all young people to accept Christ as their Lord and Savior. The happiest young people I know are those who have discovered the joy of living for Him. When we are "reconciled to God," it usually follows that we are in harmony with others. Whenever relationship problems arise, we can bring them to God in prayer and receive the practical instructions and help given in Romans 12:9-21 and Philippians 4:13. The apostle Paul encourages the young when he says, "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity" (1 Timothy 4:12). May God grant you and your parents wisdom in learning how to communicate love, honor, and respect to each other.

Answer 6

Praying would help. Also try to figure out if there are certain situations that always lead to you arguing with your parents. Learn how to avoid those situations or how to simply bite your toungue if you feel the urge to talk back. Also apologize to your parents and tell them you want to stop being like this. It can be hard to get out of the habit of arguing, but keep working at it and it will get better. At least you recognize that it's wrong and want to change. That's a good start that many people don't ever get to.

Answer 7

Part of growing up is becoming an individual unique and separate from your parents. It's normal to disagree with your parents. Here's a great opportunity to practice your communication skills. Learning to disagree without being immature or disrespectful is a great communication skill you will be able to use your entire life. So don't feel bad, every experience in life is a chance to grow and evolve to our potential.

Answer 8

My child, believe in the wisdom of your parents. They may be wrong sometimes. But believe me parents always do love their children. Driven by that love, they act accordingly what they believe is best for you. Yes, sometimes parents are too nosy. They want to check you out every minute of the day, Not because they can't trust you but because they can't help it but be scared on the possibility that something might happen to you and lose you and blame themselves for it. You know what's the most precious gift they receive from God upon their marriage life - it's YOU.

Answer 9

no teenager gets along with their parents all the time , you are going through changes and trying to grow as a person , just remember when all is said and done family and god are what really counts

Answer 10

You are growing up. There are many things that you think you know which you don't know. Your Mom and Dad don't want to argue with you but haven't got the time to explain every little thing. At your age many things are happening with your body which affect your emotions and thinking. It is a difficult time. It will pass. You have to be patient and your parents should also understand.