everyone i hear talks about being themselves and being able to get women...i cant figure out who i am..how can i?
2006-09-02 12:19:13 · 14 answers · asked by lisa j 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You figure out who you are by being around people, having your own thoughts, deciding for yourself what is right or wrong for YOU.
2006-09-02 12:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could take a lifetime to figure out just who you are. Try writing down some things you like or are interested in on a piece of paper. Read them back to yourself and give yourself an explanation why it is you take an interest in these things. You see, what we participate in has alot to do with who we become as an individual. Just remember, it's your choice, take your time with it, I'm sure you're a very bright individual who is just going through the same temporary struggle that we all go through at some point in our lives.
2006-09-02 19:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Lisa J,
The first thing is that you are either a girl wondering why you can't get a woman or a guy and your parents played a cruel joke on you by naming you Lisa.
Welcome to the Idiot's guide to finding yourself.
Step one.
Write down everything that you like. Everything, the way you look the food you eat, the landscape you enjoy being in, your favorite movie, what you like in boys / men, what ever it is you like it write it down.
People places or things, colors, tastes, smells, sounds. sports, activities ETC.
Step two
Write down everything that you don't like.
This will be 90 percent of who you are. The other 10 percent will be your personality, and how you treat others.
Enjoy finding yourself.
Jerry
2006-09-02 19:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they mean by be yourself is to not try some gimmicky trick to pick up women.
What they mean is to talk about things that are interesting to you, or to actually take an interest in getting to know the girl, not just trying to get her into bed.
If you think that you don't have things that are interesting, then go out into the world and go to school to learn something different, or get a job that you're passionate about. Take up a hobby that you might enjoy...
One of the hardest questions to answer is "Who am I?" You don't have to know the answer. Just be genuine and find things that people can talk about with you.
2006-09-02 19:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by cjsmommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a good question. I don't really have an answer for you. Maybe you can start journaling about your feelings and who you are. As you write about it maybe you will figure it out. You are in there somewhere.
2006-09-02 22:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by dawn_ch_believes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To find out who you are it's important to look in the right places.
2006-09-02 19:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
travel, experience as much as you can from the world until you find your niche. i dont know where the "being able to get women" part comes in though.
2006-09-02 19:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by SBG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can find yourself but looking at your interests and the friends you have now. They can say a lot about yourself. And ask your family members and friends how they'd describe you.
2006-09-02 21:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit inside a peaceful place in the park. listen to smooth jazz. just look at the water as it flows. meditate. holisticonline.com helps with this.
2006-09-02 20:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by quit asking other people who the hell you are
2006-09-02 19:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by eastern_mountain_outdoors 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋