I have tried everything from grounding, taking things away, writing sorry letters, excluding her from things, and spanking. She continues to be physically abusive towards children in our neighborhood and her sisters, the youngest turning 2. I do not expose any of my children to violent t.v. or bring them into any situation to pick it up from. We have a healthy home life style that is drug, alcohol, and vilence free. Any suggestions, ideas on how to get her to stop. I also am finding information harder to get where shes a girl and not a boy.
2006-09-02 11:52:46 · 23 answers · asked by erinjl123456 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Start with her school counselor. Can you talk to her or does she clam up? You need to find out why she's doing that, then work on the problem. Is she the eldest? She might be jealous of her siblings.
2006-09-02 12:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by tropicalvacationrentals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out first why she is being like that . Maybe she is feeling that the only time she gets attention is when she's doing something mean . I am not putting blame on you or anyone else since I know nothing much about the situation except that she is a bit abusive towards other kids but you might want to check out how you treat her when she is not being mean and all . Like my niece , she is an only child and her dad is always away being in the navy . Her mom is a stay at home and sometimes the mum tends to be inattentive . What happened is that everytime they are out the little girl wouldn't let her mum talk with anybody without butting in . My sister kinda figured that out and since then at home whenever her daughter asks for her attention she gives her her time and the child changed . I know this is not as big a deal as your problem but see how finding what might be the cause can help a great deal . There must be something that triggers that kind of attitude . You might want to ask for professional help too ! But try finding out for yourself first ......
I really hope everything turns out for the best for you and your daughter .
2006-09-02 12:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the things that I know is that it is hard to punish consistently. There is always something that needs attention. But you need to pick a punishment and stick with it. The baby is probably getting more attention than the 7 year old right now, perhaps you could give her some big girl chores and praise her for doing them right.
You didn't say how the kids in the neighborhood are treating her. Sometimes kids are mean by calling names and excluding and young ones fight to get their attention. If this is the case, try enrolling her in activities away from the neighborhood, like gymnastics, so she can form a new group.
However, some kids are just mean and you will have to contact the school to see if she is being mean there also. Sit her down and let her know that this is unacceptable and if necessary her punishment will go on for a long, long time.
I hope some of this helps.
2006-09-02 12:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there would be some other reason she is being violent. Sometimes children are trying to tell you something in there own special way something that maybe hard for them to understand. Have you ever considered that someone might be abusing her outside the home? As difficult as it seems my first step would be to have a discussion about it. Not saying anything over the top but asking if anybody makes do things that are uncomfortable, or hurting her.
If that is not the case ( i hope not ) then I would seek counseling, with a therapist she can help you work through these problems and she cannot prescribe any meds. so that is not a worry.
2006-09-02 12:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her 2 a Child Psychologist. Better 2 find out if there's a deep-rooted problem 2 put every1's mind at rest.
She needs assessing 2 C if she's a danger 2 other kids.
Has her general Health been checked?
Angry Kids R sometimes Ill or unwell.
A nice long chat about the trouble she could get in2 might help 2.
:)
2006-09-02 11:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I know that sometimes if kids are hitting other kids if you take away treats and games for a day or two or a week it can affect them and you get the point across fully that hitting is bad and if they hit they wont get to have fun.. me and my sisters used to fight when we were really little and we didn't stop until we got severely punished. :/ Sometimes it can just be really bad. Phycologists DON'T help. Granted sometimes i guess they can, But good ones are extremely hard to find. every one that I've been to always tried to pin my problems on my family when that wasn't even the problem (It ended up i had cancer) :/ hah. Just make sure you don't give in and let her get away with hitting and being violent to anyone.
2006-09-02 12:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by lnbgirl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scince she seven its a hard question!
- Show her what its like, dont spank or be hateful, dont speak with her intill she falls through. DONT BUY HER ANYTHING. and let her only eat meals then tell her to go to her room, explain to her why its wrong, and then maybe get her counciling. if she countinues to be abusive, make a chart, if shes into (dora, spongebob, ect), decorated with her favorite characters and explain to her if shes nice then she gets a good mark, if naughty, a bad mark, if she does somthing wrong shell have to write a 2 page sorry letter and explain her chart. if she gets 5 more nice marks then naughty she gets something or gets to do something speacial. Maybe you should spend a couple of days on a vacation with just you and her and talk about this is what its like when your not violent. i really hop this helps!
2006-09-02 12:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Em[ily]♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me that you child may have a chemical imbalance. Many times this is not treated due lack of knowledge or by avoiding accepting something is wrong with you or someone you care for. As hard as it is for you your child needs help and sometimes being a parent means doing things that will hurt your heart but needs to be done. Good luck!
2006-09-02 12:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by melhtims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been tested by a Dr. to see if she is Bi-Polar or anything? My nephew had the same symptoms and they found out he was Bi Polar. Maybe let her speak with a counselor. Something may be deep down bothering her and she's acting out in violence. Have you recently gotten a divorce or a new boyfriend? Is there a possibility she's been sexually molested? Have you ever asked her? Maybe she's real jealous of another sibling.
2006-09-02 11:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it sounds like you are doing everything I would do, You have to keep being consistent. It will drive you crazy but somehow you have to keep doing what you are doing. Maybe take her to a counselor or talk to her pediatrician. Maybe there is something going on that you don't know about inside and they could help you better.
Good luck with her.
2006-09-02 11:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋