my boyfriends x-girlfriend is askin to talk to him as just friends and wants to talk to him over the fone and see him in person they were together for 4 years on and off (his first love) and she keeps tellin his mom that she regrets ever breakin up with him it sponsly been like 2 years since they have brokin up for the last time more like a year and a half he asked me if it would be ok for him to talk to her but i dont kno cause damn sounds like she wants him back and i dont want her to interfere with our relationship but if i say no i think he would get mad and not understand cause he still says he loves her and **** but hes also says that he would never leave me for her cause hes with me now and he loves me what should i do?
2006-09-02 11:52:17 · 5 answers · asked by chelsae c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask him how he would feel if the tables were turned, and tell him that talking to her would be inappropriate, and you would consider whether you should spend your time with a man who thrives on attention from other women, or just put up with it. Jealousy is normal, but deliberately making your sig. other jealous is not right, and just painful.
If you were to feel okay with it, then it wouldn't really matter, but you don't I can see that you feel upset by this, and he needs to respect your feelings.
I hope this helps you feel better.
2006-09-02 12:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not allow your b/f to communicate with his ex. This is concidered inappropriate and over time, her presence will start to interfere with you alls relationship. The more he talks to her, the more she'll start asking if she could see him and eventually he'll agree to meet up with her. Of course, he won't tell you. But why put strain and stress on a relationship by inserting the "ex" back into the picture? If they broke up, then it's time to move on. She should respect the fact that he is now in a relationship and she needs to keep her distance and stay out of it. Just tell your b/f that you don't feel comfortable with him talking to his ex. He's going to get mad regardless but if this is how you really feel, then you have to tell him. If you tell him that you don't want him talking to his ex, then it should be common courtesy and respectful for him to to do as you asked.
2006-09-02 19:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not trust that. how can you leave them together alone?he had also told me that he loved me. i tried to be okay with the fact that my x b/f was friends with his x g/f. but later i found out that he sneaks to her house and hangs out with her and told me he was at another friends house. and slept with her in MY bed, in OUR apartment. when i was on bedrest for a month in the hospital. i would never ever trust an x girlfriend ever again. unless it was an ex-wife, that is a different story.
2006-09-02 18:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him talk to her and you keep asking him questions about it. Not to be nosey but to let him know that you are interested. Ask him what they talk about. And if they are just friends then you can go to see her in person when he goes.
2006-09-02 18:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by rlwld1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want to do if he says he loves you believe him if his exgf is not you bf then who cares she had her chace and now it is your doen't let her get in the way of what you have. it is so not woth is believe me.
2006-09-02 18:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa~Yeah!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋