her first real boyfriend...few years older than her. she is easily influenced and is starting to go against everything i say
2006-09-02 11:26:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you have a MAJOR problem...
2006-09-02 11:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the problem is, is that since she's influencial, then she might be changed for life by this relationship. Do your best to convince her to end it, and if she doesn't, take action yourself. You probably don't want to break them up, but think of what's better in the long run. Bt don't say she isn't allowed to date anymore, because it can make future relationships much harder to deal with. There is nothing wrong with teens dating, as long as they aren't under 12. I don't know why nobody lets their kids date anymore, i think it's pretty stupid. No offense to those of you who do. And, on an extra note, you should think that if he actually is a gang member, then she might get into problems with rival gangs.
2006-09-02 11:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfect! If I were 15 I would date a 18, simply because of what some people call 'age of mind' (<=== do not take offense, in case you are the 18yr) This is just the way we are and it is very possible that the relationship goes well. Now, if I were the guy I would take into consideration 'the in-laws'... Sometimes they become an obstacle when they do not accept the relationship. It is always better when the guy 'asks permission' (<== just in case!) This way those who suspect will realise that the 18yr old has no dark intentions (<== utilise her for sex) towards their 'baby'.
2016-03-27 04:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, thats a sticky situation.....well my lil cousin started to get in a lot of trouble in school and with boys, her parents shipped her to another state to live with some relatives out there, somehow she made it back home!!! So shipping her out, probably won't work because she will only make her way back.
She's in rebellion mode right now, and sometimes you have to let them go. She's at a stage right now where she thinks she knows everything and you know nothing. So no matter what you do, she's going to stick to that dude until he does something wrong. I know because my best freind struggled with her parents throughout high school with a gangsta boyfriend until she got pregnant at 19 and moved out the house into her boyfriend's moms house. Once she got there she realized how stupid she was for being with such a loser......now at the age of 27 her and her moms are best buds. She even admits that although her mother was right, she needed to find out for herself.....teach your child young they way they should go, even when they stray as they get older like most of us has, they will always make it back home.
Good luck to ya!
BTW maybe getting counseling may help?
2006-09-02 11:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she doesn't break off the relationship now that your going to file charges of contributing to the delinquency of a minor on him and he can join a prison gang since he isn't man enough to stand on his own two feet ! Ground her remove privileges basically make her life miserable till she complies. There is no way to tip toe around in this situation , tell it like it is and stick to it !
PS. see if there is a local gang task force in your area and report the problem and situation if it continues.
2006-09-02 11:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to really talk to her about whos she dating because if shes easily influenced she can easily turn into something bad.
Like if she likes to talk to dangerous people maybe she might think about running away if she cant get what she wants.You never know, because my cousin talks about her mother not listening and understanding her, so she always says that she might be more comfortable with leaving her home to do what she wants.
2006-09-02 12:11:56 · answer #6 · answered by Maryah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart to heart talk with your daughter then her boyfriend. Don't jump in and demand things cause that will only cause her to keep things from you and rebel. You need to realize that her dating a gang member is dangerous. I can guarantee you that she will get caught up and god forbid you will have a tragedy in your hands. Talk to her if she doesn't understand you need to realize that you are the mother and you need to take any step necessary to keep her safe. Good Luck
2006-09-02 11:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by mysteriouskisses12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave town..........
Get her involved in her life as much as you can and get her involved in aftreshool activities such as Boys and Girls Club. If no, she'll learn from her mistakes. I did. Its a though case because it took me alots to realize what a bad style it was. Get her into an intervention program, boot camp can help.
In my case, I moved two hour away from the place. I got new friends, I started college, and all problems were gone.
Good luck!
2006-09-02 11:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Junia Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forbid her to see him again....duh? You are the parent and have to show your authority especially since he is a "gang" member and obviously is a bad influence on her..and the fact that he is a few years older also counts against him. I say see to it that she doesn't date him anymore.. he could bring her down the wrong path (drugs, sex, violence) who knows??
2006-09-02 11:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you see yourself loosing her control--I say get the hell out of the way cause the only you can do is support her to stay on her good side. Other than that if you do have control follow her- read her ****- do what ever you have to to keep your baby safe. Last story like this I heard (if he is actually a bad person!) killed her mom. By the way you may want to try and reach out to this kid and see if maybe he is looking for a way out of his gang life.
2006-09-02 11:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Place a navigational device on him and give it to the rival gang. Move your daughter out of town. Forbid your child from seeing him. Involve your daughter in activities with you. Shall I go on?
2006-09-02 11:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋